Anonymous wrote:A former MB who is now a "family friend" has always been moody like this. It is tiresome and certainly has held her back at work but never had anything to do with me.

I feel it might be the case with me. I know she really likes me and says often she is happy with how I do my job. I think she might just be having a hard time and I get the brunt of it at times

A former MB who is now a "family friend" has always been moody like this. It is tiresome and certainly has held her back at work but never had anything to do with me.

My MB is like this. I think mommy guilt is part of the reason.

Anonymous wrote:She's probably annoyed about something you did or didn't do, but too scared of confrontation to actually tell you straight out. I'm not sure what you do about this, but I do think it's fairly typical. A lot of MBs want nannies who are mind-readers, because they don't ever want to be the bad guy. Of course, she's already doing that with the passive/aggressive stuff.

Note to MBs: either woman-up and have a direct conversation, or let.it.go. It's not fair to be mad about something you never said anything about.

This is probably it. You could schedule a review sometime next week and try to get some feedback about what it is.

She's probably annoyed about something you did or didn't do, but too scared of confrontation to actually tell you straight out. I'm not sure what you do about this, but I do think it's fairly typical. A lot of MBs want nannies who are mind-readers, because they don't ever want to be the bad guy. Of course, she's already doing that with the passive/aggressive stuff.

Note to MBs: either woman-up and have a direct conversation, or let.it.go. It's not fair to be mad about something you never said anything about.

Listen to your gut.

It is rarely, if ever wrong.

She may just not be a personable person in general, but it is likely that she is not entirely happy w/you from what you stated.

You feel it is something personal & you likely are right.
I hope I am wrong, but I doubt that I am.

Plz keep us updated.

I think the lack of communication and knowing where I stand gets to me. I prefer honesty and sometimes I don't feel she is being honest with me.

Don't worry about it. Seriously, who cares? Be the best possible babysitter you can be and remember that you will need her for a reference. If so think you might be doing something in particular that she doesn't like ask her about that specific thing only. NEVER discuss random feelings or insecurities with an employer.

Most MBs are not employers in any other capacity, and it's hard to be a good manager anyway. I think the tension you feel is that sometimes she feels like the relationship or particular conversation needs to be more professional, and she's not really comfortable with that.

I wonder if it is just me that feels like this? I do really care about my MB, she can be extremely caring and kind but at other times I feel there is tension there. Sometimes I feel she makes passive remarks and she does take advantage at times which I haven't appreciated. At times I feel like we get on great and at other times (Which is a lot of the time if I am honest) I feel there is some tension there. Whether that is because she isn't happy with me or life in general I don't know...

This is my first nannying position and not sure if it is normal or not to have this kind of relationship with an MB? I only work part time and her kid is 8 (After school position).