Anonymous
04/14/2017 17:54
Subject: "Raising them"
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I work for a typical DC type A power couple, so very long hours. I love my charges to death and their parents are busy but still really awesome parents and always make time to connect with the kids each day one way or another. Went on a big outing this week and grandma came along. She said something that really brought me up short "The kids are so lucky to have you raising them!" I said I am lucky to be their nanny but their parents are raising them. I found it really off-putting and worry about the parents hearing that kind of talk and feeling bad. Thoughts?
No. 1. Children are REARED; vegetables, livestock are raised! If you are spending most of their waking hours with these children, then, indeed, you are their primary caregiver as well as their primary objective of love and affection. Grandma is correct they are lucky.
Not true anymore, PP. Sadly "raising children" is correct now.
Anonymous
04/14/2017 14:48
Subject: "Raising them"
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I work for a typical DC type A power couple, so very long hours. I love my charges to death and their parents are busy but still really awesome parents and always make time to connect with the kids each day one way or another. Went on a big outing this week and grandma came along. She said something that really brought me up short "The kids are so lucky to have you raising them!" I said I am lucky to be their nanny but their parents are raising them. I found it really off-putting and worry about the parents hearing that kind of talk and feeling bad. Thoughts?
No. 1. Children are REARED; vegetables, livestock are raised! If you are spending most of their waking hours with these children, then, indeed, you are their primary caregiver as well as their primary objective of love and affection. Grandma is correct they are lucky.
Well apparently I am helping to rear them with poor grammar!
Anonymous
04/14/2017 14:11
Subject: "Raising them"
Anonymous wrote:I work for a typical DC type A power couple, so very long hours. I love my charges to death and their parents are busy but still really awesome parents and always make time to connect with the kids each day one way or another. Went on a big outing this week and grandma came along. She said something that really brought me up short "The kids are so lucky to have you raising them!" I said I am lucky to be their nanny but their parents are raising them. I found it really off-putting and worry about the parents hearing that kind of talk and feeling bad. Thoughts?
No. 1. Children are REARED; vegetables, livestock are raised! If you are spending most of their waking hours with these children, then, indeed, you are their primary caregiver as well as their primary objective of love and affection. Grandma is correct they are lucky.
Anonymous
04/14/2017 13:57
Subject: "Raising them"
you're overthinking it
Anonymous
04/14/2017 11:30
Subject: "Raising them"
Don't worry about it OP. It isn't your job to worry about how your employers will feel about a remark like that.
It's nice of you to be concerned, but as long as you're not saying those things then just ignore it.
As an MB I would be touched that you were concerned, and I'd say you handled it perfectly w/ the grandparents. You'd earn huge points with me for that kind of mindset. But you don't need to worry about it beyond that.
It's nice of you to be concerned, but as long as you're not saying those things then just ignore it.
As an MB I would be touched that you were concerned, and I'd say you handled it perfectly w/ the grandparents. You'd earn huge points with me for that kind of mindset. But you don't need to worry about it beyond that.
Anonymous
04/14/2017 11:02
Subject: "Raising them"
You are raising them. You are the one comforting them when they are upset, teaching them how to react and respond to others, instilling values through your actions and words, you are contributing to their physical, social, emotional, developmental and moral growth. That means you are raising them. Not only you but you are raising them.
Anonymous
04/14/2017 07:42
Subject: Re:"Raising them"
I teach my charges - I do not raise them. Comments like the Grandmother's only get nannies into trouble.
Anonymous
04/14/2017 05:49
Subject: "Raising them"
In some way YOU are raising them. Helping raise them to be more precise. There's nothing wrong with that.
Anonymous
04/13/2017 21:03
Subject: "Raising them"
Anonymous wrote:I don't think you need to worry about how it would affect the parents (if Gma disapproves of mom working, I'm sure mom knows) but as an MB I would have appreciated you saying that.
Thanks. Like I said, I really like the parents and admire how hard they work to be present in spite of demanding schedules so I get defensive by what grandma implied (and by what a pp outright stated).
Anonymous
04/13/2017 20:20
Subject: "Raising them"
*one
Anonymous
04/13/2017 20:19
Subject: "Raising them"
How does finding time to connect with them at some point during the day and working very long hours translate into their parents are raising them? I'm confused. The grandmother is right that you are the ones raising them. Why are so many afraid to admit this about nannies and parents that come home at dinner time?
Anonymous
04/13/2017 20:05
Subject: "Raising them"
I don't think you need to worry about how it would affect the parents (if Gma disapproves of mom working, I'm sure mom knows) but as an MB I would have appreciated you saying that.
Anonymous
04/13/2017 17:36
Subject: "Raising them"
It's hardly an insult, I wouldn't worry. She means you are doing a great job and that her grandkid is lucky to have you look after him.
Anonymous
04/13/2017 16:51
Subject: "Raising them"
I think I wouldn't think too much about an off-handed comment someone you barely know tossed out.
Anonymous
04/13/2017 16:49
Subject: "Raising them"
I work for a typical DC type A power couple, so very long hours. I love my charges to death and their parents are busy but still really awesome parents and always make time to connect with the kids each day one way or another. Went on a big outing this week and grandma came along. She said something that really brought me up short "The kids are so lucky to have you raising them!" I said I am lucky to be their nanny but their parents are raising them. I found it really off-putting and worry about the parents hearing that kind of talk and feeling bad. Thoughts?