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Anonymous wrote:It's been five years with the same person, so at this point I sometimes don't text at all. Today I texted "There is a stack of five things from Gap and the receipt - please return while you're out." I know they'll be at a playground right near the Gap, and it's kid clothes I don't want my kids wearing.

In the first couple of years I probably texted once or twice a day during my commute, just to say "Slept well last night, please try to keep naps on schedule," or "Tried blueberries last night - please let me know if you notice rash or swelling pop up."

It was only the first three months that I was texting to ask how things were going.

Maybe it's clothes that DB picked up and they don't fit correctly. Maybe it's clothes that Grandma sent for a birthday, and MB knows that the white, lacy, frilly dress will only stay that way for 5 seconds before squished blueberries and/or mud ruin it forever. Why is it up to you to cast judgement on what she wants her child to wear?

Anonymous wrote:It's been five years with the same person, so at this point I sometimes don't text at all. Today I texted "There is a stack of five things from Gap and the receipt - please return while you're out." I know they'll be at a playground right near the Gap, and it's kid clothes I don't want my kids wearing.

In the first couple of years I probably texted once or twice a day during my commute, just to say "Slept well last night, please try to keep naps on schedule," or "Tried blueberries last night - please let me know if you notice rash or swelling pop up."

It was only the first three months that I was texting to ask how things were going.

How is she supposed to know it's annoying if you've let it go on for 2 years. Speak up!

MB lets me know when she is on her way back home and occasionally about schedules/information I might need. We do text a lot in that way, sometimes I feel it is our only source of communication. She never seems to want to talk much face to face.

Wow. That's excessive. The first couple weeks I'd call or text the nanny at lunch to find out how their day was. Now I don't at all unless there is something going on or a schedule change. She occasionally send me pictures or messages but less than twice a eeek. They have their day and nanny is not on the phone (she keeps it on the front table most of the day anyway). I come home a little early and get the breakdown of their day and we catch up.

I could not stand that, OP. It is disruptive and forces a nanny to take their eyes off their charge. Talk to your MB and tell her that you can only check your phone during the child's nap.

I am a nanny and MB never texts me unless it is important (like please let Grandma in the gate - she is standing outside in the rain).

I sometimes send pics or funny kid stories to my MB, but there are many days that I do not.

I know she is at work and I feel bad bothering her unless it is an emergency.

She has full trust in my abilities and gives me the autonomy that I need.

I have previously worked for families who would call me during the day to see how things were going.
During the first initial weeks, this is okay.
But to do it after I have been watching their child after that would just annoy me and would make my job tougher.
The distraction it would cause would drive me nuts!

The first 3 months, MB and I texted about once an hour. The next two years, MB and I texted about once every 2 hours. Now, after 3 years together, we text about once every 4 hours.

It's been five years with the same person, so at this point I sometimes don't text at all. Today I texted "There is a stack of five things from Gap and the receipt - please return while you're out." I know they'll be at a playground right near the Gap, and it's kid clothes I don't want my kids wearing.

In the first couple of years I probably texted once or twice a day during my commute, just to say "Slept well last night, please try to keep naps on schedule," or "Tried blueberries last night - please let me know if you notice rash or swelling pop up."

It was only the first three months that I was texting to ask how things were going.

My nanny loves to text me and send me instagram pics. I just respond when I have a break in the day. If it is urgent or an emergency, she calls me so I don't feel the need to check every time. Set up something similar with your MB.

Anonymous wrote:You should have put a stop to this long ago. You are a nanny and her employee but if you are to be able to do your job then she needs to stop the constant interference. You need to discuss this with her and tell her how you feel.

Yes, talk to your employer if something bothers you. She probably doesn't realize this is disruptive.

You should have put a stop to this long ago. You are a nanny and her employee but if you are to be able to do your job then she needs to stop the constant interference. You need to discuss this with her and tell her how you feel.

PP here...meant to add that also just because she texts doesn't mean she's expecting a response right then either. I don't necessarily expect a response to every text I send. If it's urgent I'll call.

turn your ringer off and only respond to every third text. Either she'll keep texting or she won't but just because someone texts doesn't mean you need to respond right that instant.

(Dear MB, stop texting all the time! Let me do my job!)

My MB is proud to be the worlds most talented multitasker! She juggles all day and loses her head in different places all day.
The lady texts me every 30-40min, sometimes less. The longer she's gone is an hour! After almost 2 years of this I'm getting sick of it!

Let me breathe!

Is this excessive? How much do you text with your MB?