Maybe she is just shy/awkward around you? I feel like that around my MB at times.
Get her to keep a written log or get a whiteboard and get her to write down what she and the kids did that day.

I send texts of kids doing a variety of things throughout the day, and the kids love when I show that I "caught" them. MB/DB have given me the authority to do pretty much anything I want with the kids, and I keep them updated with general ideas of what we are doing (they have no idea which park is which or where some of the friends live, but I usually let them know that the kids will choose between parks 1, 2, and 3 or we're meeting nanny x and child y at their house to walk to the playground down the block). I'm a live-in nanny, so there is a bit of a difference in terms of on/off, but as kids go to bed when parents get home, it's simply not the right time for a major rehash of the day. Sometimes we talk after bedtime, sometimes we text after I'm downstairs, most of the time the texts during the day suffice.

You didn't hire a professional, OP.

She's probably ready to go home.

I get home 10 min early and get a debrief from nanny. They don't really do playsates yet. But I know how and when dd slept, what she ate and what she didn't want. What was her favorite toy, word that day. What playground they went to and how many walks. Helps that I'm an over sharer and so is the nanny

MB here and i'm with 23:30 and 9:21. I have a pretty good idea of what they do on any given day, and if there are playdates or excursions planned I know about it.

I don't meet the other nannies or families in every playdate, but I do know where they are at all times.

23:57 - is completely out of line, disregard that.

Your nanny should be giving you more information. You need to reset the relationship: "Jane, I am so glad that the kids are having regular playdates, and that you're great about getting them out of the house routinely. But I've realized that they are developing a group of friends I wasn't even aware of and I'd like to be a little more in the know. For instance, I could have invited G and X to the party next week if I had realized they were seeing them so frequently. Also, I'd like to generally have a clearer understanding of what they're doing during the day. What would be the easiest way for you to keep me in th So I'd like to ask you to keep me in the loop a bit more, and I'm flexible on how we do that so it isn't a burden for you. What would make sense to you?

Then have a couple of ideas ready - a weekly update of planned activities, a quick minute each morning to touch base about the day, or 5 minutes at the end of the day (not extra time, just part of the usual handoff), etc...

It is not professional for your nanny to be giving you so little information of their daily activities. But you can couch this all in terms of what you need and want, not in terms of how she is not doing what you'd like. Then if she doesn't do what you ask you have a different conversation in a few weeks. This ought to be a pretty easy and non-confrontational fix though.

Our nanny runs through DD's day with me when I get home. I always get home early so that I can get this "debriefing" without needing to keep her over her end time. Before I leave in the morning, Nanny also tells me roughly what she and DD will be doing - what class or what play date/outing. Nanny doesn't run any errands with DD unless she asks me first.

But I don't know every single detail.

I think you should ask her (although agree you can't keep her late to tell you without paying her). I'd get home early 10 minutes every day and ask for details. I found out my nanny was basically waiting around for another nanny's charges to finish a class every day - meaning my kid was just sitting around an hour every day. Once I found out, I put an end to that. I think you should know if you child is at another person's house or whatever. Agree that a stop over at CVS isn't important - but where they spent more than an hour or so, you should know.

This does sound really strange to me. If we are going somewhere unusual, I will typically mention it in the am (sometimes I forget if MB is rushing out the door). And then every day when the kids take their nap I sit down and send a text with photos of the day. Usually I will also give some details (e.g., photo of kid on slide and Comment"Larlo was a little nervous to try the big slide but watched an older child do it and ended up loving it!"). I also am always excited to share anecdotes or stories of how smart/funny/interesting my charges are at the end of the day, or things they are struggling with and how I am currently handling, has Mb seen X behavior, etc.

Are you paying her for the extra time it would take to give you a full accounting of the day? If not, there is no way she should give you free time. Ask her to keep a daily log and you can read about the day.

MB here. I know roughly where they are each day. So for example, I know they're going to this park and then that bookstore, and then home for lunch and quiet play. They may duck into the drugstore on the way home and not tell me, but it's along the way.

I know if they're having a playdate at a certain playground with another kid. Now, a third kid they know may randomly show up and then they all have lunch together, but I would hear about that at the end of the day.

I'm an MB and every evening, I ask the nanny how her day with almost 2 yo DD went, give me the highlights. I'm just realizing now (she's been with us for several months) that she gives me very little information. They've been having regular playdates with other nannies/kids, but despite my asking about their day daily, it has not come up once and I've been finding out through other people, e.g., nanny I don't know approaching me at the playground & telling me she's been having playdates with DD and nanny for a couple months. I knew of just one recurring nanny playdate, it is with an acquaintance's daughter, G. Nanny always mentions when she has a playdate with G and in the evening, I always ask how it went. I just found out recently that these playdates often include a third nanny, a good friend of nanny's (one of my friends said she's seen the three of them together on multiple occasions). I guess I can kind of explain away nanny not mentioning the other playdates, but I do think it's weird that while we've talked about the playdates with G many times, not just in passing, but actual discussions, she has never seen fit to mention her nanny friend or the child. She's even sent me photos and they are always G and DD, never the third girl. It makes me wonder if she's doing this intentionally. Anyway, I'm wondering:

1. Is it weird that our nanny has never mentioned her regular playdates?
2. As an MB/DB, how much do you know about your nanny's playdates? Like do you bother to ask what the other child is like, want to meet the parents or nanny.
3. How much does your nanny tell you (or if you're a nanny, how much do you tell your MB/DB) about the day (besides playdates)? I'm realizing that aside from where they went, nanny tells me zero. I guess I subconsciously assumed she had nothing to tell me, but lately, DD keeps doing things that I know she is picking up with nanny, such as singing a new song, saying new words (nanny speaks a 2nd language to DD). I don't need to know every single detail of their day, but it would be nice if nanny occasionally told me something of interest.
4. I would like to ask nanny for more detail about their day and her playdates, what is a tactful way of doing so? Nanny sometimes can be oversensitive and I don't want her to view my request as being critical of her.

TBH I'm bummed more than anything else that nanny did not tell me about her playdates. DD's 2nd birthday is coming up and had I known there were some kids she hung out with regularly (aside from G), I would have planned a little birthday gathering for them, but it's too late now.