Anonymous
03/23/2017 07:27
Subject: Re:Transitioning 20 month old from full-time nanny to part-time daycare... how to proceed?
Anonymous wrote:Start slowly and build up. An hour a day for 2 days the first week of August, then 2 hours the next three days. Week 2 is all morning, leave before lunch. Week 3 is through lunch, add nap during the second half of the week. Then, week 4 is adding more time every day until Friday when she should have no more than 30 minutes difference from the time on Monday. Nanny stays without joining any activities until your daughter feels comfortable enough to not need her (she needs to be available during the second half of week 3, just in case naptime has issues).
Of course, you need to realize a few things:
1. Preschools are part-time. Daycares with preschool programs can be full-time plus. Be realistic about which one your daughter will attend and what they promise in terms of academics, emotional support and . Both close, so be prepared with a good back-up plan.
2. Skyping with nanny occasionally may mean the world to your daughter, or she may have tantrums after seeing her. You won't know unless you try.
3. Kids get sick frequently when they start group care. Be realistic about how much time your child will be out sick.
4. Age 2 is a horrible age to transition from personal to group care. Be realistic about how your child's mood and behavior may change.
Most families try to keep the same nanny part-time while the child attends preschool part-time, and the reality is that many find tasks to fill those hours so that the nanny is still paid at a full-time rate. However, if the nanny is moving, I understand that it isn't an option for you. I'm not sure why you chose 2 as the age to start preschool (daycare), as most children handle the transition more easily at either 18 months or 3 years old than they do at any time in between.
Excellent post.
Anonymous
03/22/2017 23:47
Subject: Re:Transitioning 20 month old from full-time nanny to part-time daycare... how to proceed?
Start slowly and build up. An hour a day for 2 days the first week of August, then 2 hours the next three days. Week 2 is all morning, leave before lunch. Week 3 is through lunch, add nap during the second half of the week. Then, week 4 is adding more time every day until Friday when she should have no more than 30 minutes difference from the time on Monday. Nanny stays without joining any activities until your daughter feels comfortable enough to not need her (she needs to be available during the second half of week 3, just in case naptime has issues).
Of course, you need to realize a few things:
1. Preschools are part-time. Daycares with preschool programs can be full-time plus. Be realistic about which one your daughter will attend and what they promise in terms of academics, emotional support and . Both close, so be prepared with a good back-up plan.
2. Skyping with nanny occasionally may mean the world to your daughter, or she may have tantrums after seeing her. You won't know unless you try.
3. Kids get sick frequently when they start group care. Be realistic about how much time your child will be out sick.
4. Age 2 is a horrible age to transition from personal to group care. Be realistic about how your child's mood and behavior may change.
Most families try to keep the same nanny part-time while the child attends preschool part-time, and the reality is that many find tasks to fill those hours so that the nanny is still paid at a full-time rate. However, if the nanny is moving, I understand that it isn't an option for you. I'm not sure why you chose 2 as the age to start preschool (daycare), as most children handle the transition more easily at either 18 months or 3 years old than they do at any time in between.
Of course, you need to realize a few things:
1. Preschools are part-time. Daycares with preschool programs can be full-time plus. Be realistic about which one your daughter will attend and what they promise in terms of academics, emotional support and . Both close, so be prepared with a good back-up plan.
2. Skyping with nanny occasionally may mean the world to your daughter, or she may have tantrums after seeing her. You won't know unless you try.
3. Kids get sick frequently when they start group care. Be realistic about how much time your child will be out sick.
4. Age 2 is a horrible age to transition from personal to group care. Be realistic about how your child's mood and behavior may change.
Most families try to keep the same nanny part-time while the child attends preschool part-time, and the reality is that many find tasks to fill those hours so that the nanny is still paid at a full-time rate. However, if the nanny is moving, I understand that it isn't an option for you. I'm not sure why you chose 2 as the age to start preschool (daycare), as most children handle the transition more easily at either 18 months or 3 years old than they do at any time in between.
Anonymous
03/20/2017 07:32
Subject: Transitioning 20 month old from full-time nanny to part-time daycare... how to proceed?
What does your contract say? Does it say that there will be a reduction in hours starting in June?
Anonymous
03/19/2017 14:50
Subject: Re:Transitioning 20 month old from full-time nanny to part-time daycare... how to proceed?
Your daughter will be going to daycare, OP, not preschool.
Anonymous
03/19/2017 14:48
Subject: Re:Transitioning 20 month old from full-time nanny to part-time daycare... how to proceed?
Anonymous wrote:A few things as the original poster...
1) nanny leaves for good as she is moving cross country once she leaves. Im looking for a good option to transition cause once she leaves, theres no occssional visits...
2) i offered to help find another family for the days she doesnt work for us as im aware she has bills to pay as well.
Thanks for all the suggestions so far.
It will be hard for your daughter that there will be no occasional visits. That is very sad.
I agree with all the other PPs however, that you should transition your DD over no more than a two week period to her new world and do it in August. It is insane to try to find your nanny work on the two days you want DD to be in daycare and way, way too hard on your DD.
Anonymous
03/19/2017 14:01
Subject: Re:Transitioning 20 month old from full-time nanny to part-time daycare... how to proceed?
A few things as the original poster...
1) nanny leaves for good as she is moving cross country once she leaves. Im looking for a good option to transition cause once she leaves, theres no occssional visits...
2) i offered to help find another family for the days she doesnt work for us as im aware she has bills to pay as well.
Thanks for all the suggestions so far.
1) nanny leaves for good as she is moving cross country once she leaves. Im looking for a good option to transition cause once she leaves, theres no occssional visits...
2) i offered to help find another family for the days she doesnt work for us as im aware she has bills to pay as well.
Thanks for all the suggestions so far.
Anonymous
03/19/2017 13:33
Subject: Re:Transitioning 20 month old from full-time nanny to part-time daycare... how to proceed?
Why don't you wait until she is 3 and then do 2 years of preschool before K starts.
If you find an actual preschool and not a daycare ctr the hours are usually only 2.5-4 hours a day.
If you have a Nanny you like I would do my best to keep her. You could do preschool 2 days a week when shes 3 and 3 days week when shes 4.
Sign your kid up for a couple of classes for the next year, music, gymnastics, etc.
If you find an actual preschool and not a daycare ctr the hours are usually only 2.5-4 hours a day.
If you have a Nanny you like I would do my best to keep her. You could do preschool 2 days a week when shes 3 and 3 days week when shes 4.
Sign your kid up for a couple of classes for the next year, music, gymnastics, etc.
Anonymous
03/19/2017 12:44
Subject: Transitioning 20 month old from full-time nanny to part-time daycare... how to proceed?
It's simple, you cut the nanny's hours and she will be gone. Choose wisely.
Anonymous
03/19/2017 09:21
Subject: Transitioning 20 month old from full-time nanny to part-time daycare... how to proceed?
1) If you try to cut her hours, she will likely quit if she can find something full-time starting sooner. You talk about your finances, but she has bills to pay, too. Would you stay on if your boss cut your pay in half?
2) That nanny-to-half-days-to-full-days transition is too much anyway. Have DC start full-day school when nanny leaves and just hire nanny to babysit every Saturday for the first month, then cut back to every other week or similar.
2) That nanny-to-half-days-to-full-days transition is too much anyway. Have DC start full-day school when nanny leaves and just hire nanny to babysit every Saturday for the first month, then cut back to every other week or similar.
Anonymous
03/19/2017 01:00
Subject: Transitioning 20 month old from full-time nanny to part-time daycare... how to proceed?
If your Nanny is contracted until August, then I think it is unfair on your part to switch her hours to part-time prior to then.
I say if you do not want to burn a bridge w/her, then stick to your original contract & keep her on until August.
I would be SO upset if my family made such a significant change to my work schedule prior to my end date w/them.
I say if you do not want to burn a bridge w/her, then stick to your original contract & keep her on until August.
I would be SO upset if my family made such a significant change to my work schedule prior to my end date w/them.
Anonymous
03/18/2017 22:35
Subject: Re:Transitioning 20 month old from full-time nanny to part-time daycare... how to proceed?
Way too complicated and confusing for your DD and her nanny!
Start DD in daycare in August and let nanny help in the transition (maybe overlap daycare and nanny care for a week or two).
Start DD in daycare in August and let nanny help in the transition (maybe overlap daycare and nanny care for a week or two).
Anonymous
03/18/2017 22:32
Subject: Re:Transitioning 20 month old from full-time nanny to part-time daycare... how to proceed?
Don't start preschool/daycare until August and pay nanny for just a two week transition period where she stays with DD at school at first and then starts to remove herself slowly. Tell nanny NOT to play with DD at new daycare but to just watch and encourage the baby to play.
Don't do two transitions - just one will be hard enough on your little girl. It is better for your child is her nanny introduces her new daytime care in a positive and happy manner rather than you or DH.
Make plans for DD to see her nanny at least once a week for the first few weeks.
Don't do two transitions - just one will be hard enough on your little girl. It is better for your child is her nanny introduces her new daytime care in a positive and happy manner rather than you or DH.
Make plans for DD to see her nanny at least once a week for the first few weeks.
Anonymous
03/18/2017 21:15
Subject: Re:Transitioning 20 month old from full-time nanny to part-time daycare... how to proceed?
It's easier for kids to make one transition rather than 2, so just wait and have her start in August.
-- preschool teacher
-- preschool teacher
Anonymous
03/18/2017 20:33
Subject: Transitioning 20 month old from full-time nanny to part-time daycare... how to proceed?
This is our first time using a nanny. We have always been clear that once my daughter turned 2 that we wanted her to enter a preschool setting. We contracted with our nanny for two years. That contract would end in August.
Ideally, I would like for my daughter to go to preschool part time for the two months leading up to August. The question is, how should this transition happen for our nanny?
I've thought about offering to help her find another family who she could nanny for on the days when our daughter has preschool (In theory, shed have off Mon, Wed, and Fri) because we honestly cant afford to continue to pay her her salaried rate while also paying a preschool. I feel like this is fair, but I guess my question is, if you were the nanny, and were in this situation (or have been in this situation before) how would you prefer for this transition to occur? What other options should we consider? She has been great and don't want to do anything that may unintentionally offend her or be considered unfair, but as I said before, this is our first time doing this and we are already pushing our finances to the limit from using a nanny to begin with (needed one for health reasons)so, advice from some veterans would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks so much,
Ideally, I would like for my daughter to go to preschool part time for the two months leading up to August. The question is, how should this transition happen for our nanny?
I've thought about offering to help her find another family who she could nanny for on the days when our daughter has preschool (In theory, shed have off Mon, Wed, and Fri) because we honestly cant afford to continue to pay her her salaried rate while also paying a preschool. I feel like this is fair, but I guess my question is, if you were the nanny, and were in this situation (or have been in this situation before) how would you prefer for this transition to occur? What other options should we consider? She has been great and don't want to do anything that may unintentionally offend her or be considered unfair, but as I said before, this is our first time doing this and we are already pushing our finances to the limit from using a nanny to begin with (needed one for health reasons)so, advice from some veterans would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks so much,