OP, that is so nice. I would live for my kid to have a nanny that feels like family. Last year we went to visit my husband's former nanny overseas and met her daughter. She taught him so much!

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Anonymous wrote:It is awesome that you love your charges so much, as do I. Just remember to always keep in the back of your mind that someday they will no longer need you, and you will have to move on. You may not see them often or even ever again, depending on the circumstances of course. But knowing you are providing them with the best care, right here right now is an amazing feeling.

Keeping something like that in the back of your mind does nothing but borrow future pain. Enjoy today, OP, and love with abandon!

It is a very lucky family to have you.

It is not about borrowing future pain, it is about maintaining proper boundaries.

We are all going to die. You cannot live a happy life dwelling on the inevitable end. Same with relationships. All relationships.

You are welcome to live as you wish. I choose to live with an awareness that my job is temporary and therefore to build a relationship with my charges and their parents that will be able to naturally evolve into the next chapter becausr I believe that is better for them than pretending I will be around forever.

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Anonymous wrote:It is awesome that you love your charges so much, as do I. Just remember to always keep in the back of your mind that someday they will no longer need you, and you will have to move on. You may not see them often or even ever again, depending on the circumstances of course. But knowing you are providing them with the best care, right here right now is an amazing feeling.

Keeping something like that in the back of your mind does nothing but borrow future pain. Enjoy today, OP, and love with abandon!

It is a very lucky family to have you.

It is not about borrowing future pain, it is about maintaining proper boundaries.

We are all going to die. You cannot live a happy life dwelling on the inevitable end. Same with relationships. All relationships.

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Anonymous wrote:It is awesome that you love your charges so much, as do I. Just remember to always keep in the back of your mind that someday they will no longer need you, and you will have to move on. You may not see them often or even ever again, depending on the circumstances of course. But knowing you are providing them with the best care, right here right now is an amazing feeling.

Keeping something like that in the back of your mind does nothing but borrow future pain. Enjoy today, OP, and love with abandon!

It is a very lucky family to have you.

It is not about borrowing future pain, it is about maintaining proper boundaries.

Everyone, in every relationship, maintains boundaries including parents.

So you don't see any difference between the boundaries between a parent and their child and a nanny and her charge?

Of course I do! But as I wrote, every relationship has boundaries - I never implied they were the same boundaries!! But boundaries do exist in all.

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Anonymous wrote:It is awesome that you love your charges so much, as do I. Just remember to always keep in the back of your mind that someday they will no longer need you, and you will have to move on. You may not see them often or even ever again, depending on the circumstances of course. But knowing you are providing them with the best care, right here right now is an amazing feeling.

Keeping something like that in the back of your mind does nothing but borrow future pain. Enjoy today, OP, and love with abandon!

It is a very lucky family to have you.

It is not about borrowing future pain, it is about maintaining proper boundaries.

Everyone, in every relationship, maintains boundaries including parents.

So you don't see any difference between the boundaries between a parent and their child and a nanny and her charge?

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Anonymous wrote:It is awesome that you love your charges so much, as do I. Just remember to always keep in the back of your mind that someday they will no longer need you, and you will have to move on. You may not see them often or even ever again, depending on the circumstances of course. But knowing you are providing them with the best care, right here right now is an amazing feeling.

Keeping something like that in the back of your mind does nothing but borrow future pain. Enjoy today, OP, and love with abandon!

It is a very lucky family to have you.

It is not about borrowing future pain, it is about maintaining proper boundaries.

I don't think about not being with my current charges either. If you like or love your charges, it taints the relationship, and I would hold back too much. If I don't like my charges (usually only at the beginning with very difficult issues), it also taints the relationship, and I would be less likely to keep trying to have the child open up. Either way, I can't and won't do that to a child.

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Anonymous wrote:It is awesome that you love your charges so much, as do I. Just remember to always keep in the back of your mind that someday they will no longer need you, and you will have to move on. You may not see them often or even ever again, depending on the circumstances of course. But knowing you are providing them with the best care, right here right now is an amazing feeling.

Keeping something like that in the back of your mind does nothing but borrow future pain. Enjoy today, OP, and love with abandon!

It is a very lucky family to have you.

It is not about borrowing future pain, it is about maintaining proper boundaries.

Everyone, in every relationship, maintains boundaries including parents.

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Anonymous wrote:It is awesome that you love your charges so much, as do I. Just remember to always keep in the back of your mind that someday they will no longer need you, and you will have to move on. You may not see them often or even ever again, depending on the circumstances of course. But knowing you are providing them with the best care, right here right now is an amazing feeling.

Keeping something like that in the back of your mind does nothing but borrow future pain. Enjoy today, OP, and love with abandon!

It is a very lucky family to have you.

It is not about borrowing future pain, it is about maintaining proper boundaries.

Anonymous wrote:It is awesome that you love your charges so much, as do I. Just remember to always keep in the back of your mind that someday they will no longer need you, and you will have to move on. You may not see them often or even ever again, depending on the circumstances of course. But knowing you are providing them with the best care, right here right now is an amazing feeling.

Keeping something like that in the back of your mind does nothing but borrow future pain. Enjoy today, OP, and love with abandon!

It is a very lucky family to have you.

It is awesome that you love your charges so much, as do I. Just remember to always keep in the back of your mind that someday they will no longer need you, and you will have to move on. You may not see them often or even ever again, depending on the circumstances of course. But knowing you are providing them with the best care, right here right now is an amazing feeling.

I thought I loved my charges until I had my own. It's so different. I definitely loved my charges but I loooooooooooovvvvvvvvvveeeeeeeeee my son. I am so happy now that I sing songs to him ALL day long.

Me too!!

I love my two charges & let them know it each and every time I am w/them!!

I am a nanny and also love my charges

OP here again - I should also add that I have been their nanny since birth which probably makes a huge difference as well. I started when my first charge was just a month old and was with the second charge since her birth.

I was a preschool teacher before becoming a nanny and always had great affection for my students. However, becoming a nanny has taken my devotion to an entirely different level! I look forward to seeing my two charges every day and go above and beyond for their benefit. I want the best for them all the time and continue to do what is in their very best interest (eg reading that book for the 100th time that day, running like a goof just to make them laugh or teaching them something new) even when I am exhausted and far from their parents' gaze. I want the best for them and take so much pride in my work with them.

I am an older nanny and maybe that makes a difference - I don't know - but being a nanny is far and above the best job I have ever had.