Take a breath and see how her job search goes.
It's a strong job market right now. She may be back to work very soon.
I knew I was getting laid off, I started the job search, and I had 2 job offers before my last day at old job. I had only 1 weekend in between jobs.
If she ends up having a long job search and is home for over a month, then reconsider, but I bet she won't

Even if you didn't understand word for word, the overall main idea is the OP's worries over the children acting diff. Because their mother will be around more. Clearly no need for an English degree to post or read a forum.

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Anonymous wrote:If I am reading your LONG post correctly (please try to be more concise next time), your MB may have secured another position before she leaves her current and hated job. Don't fret yourself over future pain.

The title clearly states she no longer has a job. The post was fine, if you don't have time to read long posts then move along to short ones.


Op sounds like they are understanding, I think you would benefit from talking about a game plan ahead of time instead of waiting for something to occur. Good luck and hopefully she will have a job soon

Her post clearly could have been more concise. Time availability of the reader has nothing to do with decent writing. NP here and I couldn't get through OP's first paragraph and was about to post the same.

Anonymous wrote:If I am reading your LONG post correctly (please try to be more concise next time), your MB may have secured another position before she leaves her current and hated job. Don't fret yourself over future pain.

The title clearly states she no longer has a job. The post was fine, if you don't have time to read long posts then move along to short ones.


Op sounds like they are understanding, I think you would benefit from talking about a game plan ahead of time instead of waiting for something to occur. Good luck and hopefully she will have a job soon

Nannie here. The reality is every job comes with challenges from time to time and this period will be yours to endure. It wouldn't be smart to quit at all because you would be giving up a nice position because from your post I get a sense that you are respected and valued. Why not incorporate more outings and activities in your daily routine. Kids tend to act out around parents when they get bored.

If I am reading your LONG post correctly (please try to be more concise next time), your MB may have secured another position before she leaves her current and hated job. Don't fret yourself over future pain.

Talk to her now about it. Set new ground rules and strategies together. Plan more outings for you and the children.

Hopefully she will be back to work in no time.

sorry for all of the "etc" lol

So a couple of months ago Mb told me that she was losing her job. Since the day I was hired she has vented to me about her new boss of a year (she's been there over 5 years longer) didnt like her. So when we really had the talk she stressed to me how much she would be throwing herself into getting a new position somewhere and that I should not worry. She has really stressed to me how fine she and DB are financially and even stated that they would "sell their home and downsize their lifestyle before ever letting me go" I still received a bonus at christmas for 2 weeks salary and full pay for the 2 weeks that they were out of town for the holidays. DB has a great job. I am very grateful and they are nice people.


HOWEVER...the kids... the kids get VERY different once they come around. Now do not get me wrong, I understand that this is normal for children to behave better or worse when parents appear. But my charges take extreme advantage of the fact that MB and DB lack parenting skills. Ive had sit downs with them both in the past about some of the things that they do that I felt should stop and they worked on it. Things like saying "NO we aren't doing this yet" or "Stop that" yet once the kids proceed and completely ignore them they wont physically intervene and just let them continue whatever it is they are doing. It was like they were always saying no to everything and Im like why?! So in our meeting I asked them to please stop saying no so much, unless they plan to follow through and stop what is happening. I also told them that they are children and just being children sometimes just let them if they aren't killing each other of harming anyone, so if they are going to let them do it anyway, don't say no unless you plan on stopping them. The children have basically learned to tune their voices out and ignore anything coming from them. They are always saying "do they do this to you? "are they like this when we are gone?" And Im always telling tell them that the kids know my expectations and that when I do actually ask them to stop something or say no I mean it and don't have this long struggle.

So Its been a regular occurrence when they arrive home 5-10 minutes before my stop time my oldest starts doing crazy things for attention, or things I don't allow just because mom or dad is there. Just anything crazy or obnoxious he can think of. I feel like most of it is for putting on a show for me so I hurry and get out of there usually and sometimes I cant take it and say "your mom said to STOP, did you hear her? Please use your listening ears." and they stop for me

Well anyway now that she will be home more and looking for a job (I know she has leads and interviews set up already but still) I am having anxiety about how crazy its going to be. Its bad enough when parents are home and now to know it will be a lot Im not wanting to deal with the instant chaos that seems to occur when she walks in the room. The boys are always calm and good for me. The only time we get chaotic is on purpose when we have our "silly time" or dance and do movement etc free play etc. But in general its calm when we come home from appointments and school, have meals story time etc. When parents are around its like playing tug of war with them wanting to do what Im doing but keeping up with he parents and finding sneaky ways to go to where they are in the house or just all manners going out the window when eating etc

So I ask you all, should I wait and see how it goes then pull her to the side and nicely ask her to be scarce so I can do my job and maintain our normalcy and routine, or should I go ahead and be proactive and talk to her about this first thing? These are very understanding people and always include me in decision making and value my experience. But I don't want her thinking because she and I get along that I want her popping up for meals and "helping" me when leaving for places (its takes so much longer to get out of the door when she is around due to the kids stalling and not listening) I also don't want to stress about this.


Thanks in advance.