Anonymous wrote:It seems kind of odd that you would even have to ask her to do this. Is she being passive agressive because this is "your" mess, or is your kitchen situated so that she wouldn't really see a mess under the table while she was cleaning the kitchen?
I find this kind of behavior so annoying. I can't ever imagine doing the reverse and, say, cleaning the car, but leaving my nanny's coffee cup in the cup holder because it is "her" mess.

How would this be PA considering the nanny is cleaning the mess that may be left on the counter before she comes to work? Pretty sure it's a time thing and oversight. She's taking care of op's daughter and sometimes kids don't have patience while you clean after meals so you do what you can as quickly as possible in an effort to leave the house at least as tidy as it was when you arrived, or better if possible. If she wanted to be PA she'd leave everything from breakfast.

There are days when my charges play together so well for a while that It will allow me time to load dishes the parents left in the sink that morning, wipe down the handles on cabinets and the fridge, sanitize the trash can, step stools and faucets they've touched even windex the French door windows that have smudges and finger prints and have the dishwasher running by the time mb gets home. But there are other days where they are so wound up with each other I just have time to do the messes we've created on my watch and I just get to toss their dishes in the dw before leaving.

Why can't you clean your own mess? Yes it's rude to ask this

It seems kind of odd that you would even have to ask her to do this. Is she being passive agressive because this is "your" mess, or is your kitchen situated so that she wouldn't really see a mess under the table while she was cleaning the kitchen?
I find this kind of behavior so annoying. I can't ever imagine doing the reverse and, say, cleaning the car, but leaving my nanny's coffee cup in the cup holder because it is "her" mess.

I'm a nanny and regularly clean up messes that I didn't make. Not a big deal and I feel bad that you have to ask her to do that. I'm sure there are things I was similarly dense about as a new nanny. Just ask her and don't feel bad about it.

assuming you're talking about a quick once over with a swiffer, you can absolutely ask. scrubbing on hands and knees? eh....debatable.

I don't understand why you can't take the 60 seconds you need to clean it yourself. I am not being snarky but DD made the mess on your watch.

I am an MB, btw.

I don't see a problem with that. Not like you are taking advantage or anything. It's nice you posted to be honest as it shows you care about your nanny.

I give DD her breakfast before nanny gets here. I am very conscious not to leave messes for the nanny. Dishes clean, sink empty, counter wiped, etc. But every once in a while (I'm talking once every two weeks), I am in a mad dash getting out of the house and yes, there are a few crumbs and smeared avocado hanging around on the counter (where DD eats) and on the floor underneath. FYI DD doesn't eat lunch or dinner at the kitchen counter. At the end of the day, nanny cleans up the kitchen area (since she prepares DD's meals), including the kitchen counter, but she never cleans the floor. Sometimes, the floor is messy enough that you can't not notice it. Can I ask nanny to clean the floor - we're talking a two square foot area right below the highchair - while she does her other kitchen clean-up? I'm happy to tell her that I understand she has a limited amount of time to clean and if she can't get to something else as a result, it's fine. It just bugs me to come home at the end of the day to an otherwise clean kitchen but with a yucky floor. Again, I prioritize having a clean home for nanny to work in, but sometimes, life happens and it's not spotless!