Anonymous wrote:Does it ever annoy you when your MB talks about how lucky you are to have freedom and do what you want? I am 31 and my MB is 35. I don't have kids and am not married but she has 1 (obviously) and is married. Sometimes I feel like saying to her 'You know what? Maybe I AM lucky to have my freedom but you have a gorgeous child and a husband to come home to every night. Something I can only dream of.' She also has a better social life and better friends then me as well.
Just irritates me. I really like her but she never seems to value what she has.

She sounds disgruntled and needs professional help.

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Anonymous wrote:Why should the OP get a man?
Working on her self confidence should be the key as this is clearly the issue here.

Get a man?! Is it 1950 where you live?

Was this directed at me? As I was quoting a previous poster as it goes....

Anonymous wrote:Why should the OP get a man?
Working on her self confidence should be the key as this is clearly the issue here.

Get a man?! Is it 1950 where you live?

Why should the OP get a man?
Working on her self confidence should be the key as this is clearly the issue here.

I'm a MB ...

One of my least favorite verbal "tics." People need to stop telling other people how good they have it. If you have a feeling about your own life, say that. Don't tell the other person how she ought to feel.

It truly should not bother you, OP. You need to look at why it does. People talk and whine all the time -- who cares? My MB has four nannies for her two children (two weekend nannies and two weekday nannies) a night nurse, a cook and a housekeeper and she doesn't work but she complains about how tired she is and how she needs some time for herself. I just smile... It is actually funny to me.

Hope this won't end up like one of those creepy lifetime nanny movies.

You must be the same nanny who posted about being jealous of your MB a while ago. Seriously if you are jealous of someone why work for them because All you are doing is stress out yourself. Instead of being petty just get out there start something and try getting a man. Believe me I am sure this won't make u completely happy though.

I used to get together for lunch with a friend who had no kids. She would tell me about her weekend adventures in their RV. I would tell her cute stories about my kids. We both envied each others lives.

Back when the powerball lottery was super high, I read an article by a psychologist who said that winning the lottery won't make people be happy 24/7 365. He said that 70 percent of what people talk about is complaining. It is just human nature.

True. Just irritating to hear.

It's human nature to think the grass is always greener on the other side. Doesn't matter what industry or what side - that's how we're built.

OP here. I know there are pros and cons to everything but I don't think she does.
I didn't have a well rested, fun Christmas either. Don't have to be a mom to know that feeling.
In all honesty, she has it great as yes, she can't do things spontaneously but she has a very active social life AND a close knit family so a small price to pay for not having some element of freedom.

We do value what we have. We just sometimes miss that after work we can't decide "I feel like going to meet my friend for a drink to hear about her trip to Korea, and then wander around Nordstrom" but instead are trying to rush home to see our kids before they go to sleep.

I wanted to go skiing in the Alps this Christmas. Know what I did? Spent the week with DH's family, with his awful cousins who spoil their kids and don't discipline them at all and give me shit about DD's disability. I wasn't well-rested after that at ALL.

There are pros and cons to everything, OP.

Does it ever annoy you when your MB talks about how lucky you are to have freedom and do what you want? I am 31 and my MB is 35. I don't have kids and am not married but she has 1 (obviously) and is married. Sometimes I feel like saying to her 'You know what? Maybe I AM lucky to have my freedom but you have a gorgeous child and a husband to come home to every night. Something I can only dream of.' She also has a better social life and better friends then me as well.
Just irritates me. I really like her but she never seems to value what she has.