Anonymous wrote:His nanny is the first bonded, loving relationship my son had with anyone outside our family but will by no means be the last. I don't own my son nor his emotions and I respect his relationships.

No, I can honestly say I have never been jealous of my son's love for his nanny.

This. It's wonderful to see a relationship form between dd and another adult who cares for her.

His nanny is the first bonded, loving relationship my son had with anyone outside our family but will by no means be the last. I don't own my son nor his emotions and I respect his relationships.

No, I can honestly say I have never been jealous of my son's love for his nanny.

Anonymous wrote:I remind my son that we only say that to family.

You are setting yourself up for a fall, PP. Your son WILL say "I love you" to many unrelated humans in his life.

I remind my son that we only say that to family.

Sure, I feel jealous. But the fact that DDs nanny loves her and DD loves her nanny and is always happy to see her out weighs my jealousy.

I am so appreciative that my son loves his nanny.

Anonymous wrote:Is it normal to feel jealous?

I don't feel jealous towards DD's nanny, but I think it is normal. Not saying it's right, just normal. Since DD was six months old, she has mostly preferred DH (with short spurts of preferring me) because he's the "fun one" and sometimes, I can't help but feel a little annoyed when she runs to Daddy when she's with me. BUT I know that this is more a reflection of some resentment I have towards DH (he barely lifts a finger to help with DD) rather than actual jealousy; if DH helped out more, I know I would not mind her wanting to be with him. Long story short, if you are feeling jealous towards your child's nanny, I think there might be more going on beneath the surface, such as guilt that you do not spend more time with your DC because you're always working or that the time you spend with DC is not as loving (because you're so exhausted), etc. etc.

Is it normal to feel jealous?

Good. There's plenty of love to go around. The most important thing is that my kids feel loved, secure and protected. I welcome anyone who can help achieve this.

It's not like people only have 10 points of love to give out and if they give 5 to mom and 5 to dad there's none left, so if they give 2 to nanny they're shorting their mom of love. We as humans have infinite amounts of love to give.

That I won the Nanny lotto!

I think it's sweet.

That's about it.

I think it's cute. And in the back of my mind, my heart already breaks for them for when the nanny is no longer a daily presence in their lives.

The more people who love my kids and who they trust and love back, the better.

Good!

Your child says 'I love you' to their nanny?
And regularly says (When nanny goes home) 'I love you, I miss you'.