Anonymous
Post 12/19/2016 15:15     Subject: Re:No Xmas card from MB/DB
I am shocked that people think it is weird to not have a small handwritten note, even something as simple as 'Thanks for your help this year. Love George and Emily.' Kind of thing. This is not a random person, this is someone who has worked for the family and been there for the child.
A little handwritten note of appreciation isn't asking much. Not when other nannies expect large cash bonuses and huge gifts. This isn't the case here.
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2016 14:33     Subject: No Xmas card from MB/DB
Anonymous wrote:OMG, what do you nannies want? I give a cash bonus and a small gift, with a little card that says "Thank you for all you do for us." That's it.

I think I let her know she's appreciated, but I have four children, a husband, parents, in-laws, other relatives, friends, and employees to buy and write cards for. No one is getting a lengthy paeon to their wonderfulness for Christmas. Most of those people are getting a tag that says "To: Mom; From: Daughter" only. I thought the hug/smile/"hope you have a wonderful holiday" that goes with it expresses my feelings well enough.

All the ways this holiday gifting/bonus thing can end in hurt feelings has me wanting to just not do it.


No, no. You're fine. OP is weird about this. You carry on the way you have been.
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2016 14:31     Subject: No Xmas card from MB/DB
OMG, what do you nannies want? I give a cash bonus and a small gift, with a little card that says "Thank you for all you do for us." That's it.

I think I let her know she's appreciated, but I have four children, a husband, parents, in-laws, other relatives, friends, and employees to buy and write cards for. No one is getting a lengthy paeon to their wonderfulness for Christmas. Most of those people are getting a tag that says "To: Mom; From: Daughter" only. I thought the hug/smile/"hope you have a wonderful holiday" that goes with it expresses my feelings well enough.

All the ways this holiday gifting/bonus thing can end in hurt feelings has me wanting to just not do it.
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2016 14:12     Subject: No Xmas card from MB/DB
Did they give you anything else at all (bonus or gift), or just the card? Were you with them last Christmas? If so, what did they give you last Christmas? If not, when did you start working with them?

Not all nanny families are generous at Christmas. I've gone several years without a Christmas gift or bonus; usually I got a piece of paper my nanny kid had scribbled on as a "card." I'm not sure what (if anything) I'm getting from my nanny family this year, but my best friend (whose nanny family left for Christmas vacation already), received NOTHING (not even a card from the child), and she's been with them since November 2015. Just the way it goes sometimes.
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2016 13:40     Subject: Re:No Xmas card from MB/DB
Maybe you would feel differently if you were on the receiving end PP.
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2016 13:34     Subject: Re:No Xmas card from MB/DB
Anonymous wrote:OP here. Why would it be a troll post? I think it is something a lot of nannies would feel hurt by to be honest.



Nanny here I don't think it something that would hurt. All I can say is grow up people.
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2016 13:04     Subject: Re:No Xmas card from MB/DB
OP here. Why would it be a troll post? I think it is something a lot of nannies would feel hurt by to be honest.
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2016 12:56     Subject: No Xmas card from MB/DB
Anonymous wrote:Troll post




I agree. Troll
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2016 12:26     Subject: No Xmas card from MB/DB
Troll post
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2016 12:20     Subject: Re:No Xmas card from MB/DB
Anonymous wrote:I feel embarrassed as I wrote them a long message in my card. They clearly don't think I am doing the greatest of jobs to not bother writing anything. As a nanny it really sucks and makes me feel unappreciated and that my work means nothing to them.


You express your feelings in a card. That doesn't mean everyone else does. Haven't you heard of the five love languages? Some people show their love by being physically affectionate, some by cooking for those they love, some by saying "I love you", some by taking care of the person, etc. You get the idea.

Did they give you a Christmas gift with the card from the kids? Did they fire you? If yes and no then you're doing a fine job. Stop being dramatic.
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2016 11:15     Subject: Re:No Xmas card from MB/DB
I just feel hurt they didn't put their names or a message of appreciation. It hurts they can't be bothered to do that as I have really gone the extra mile for them this year.
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2016 11:13     Subject: Re:No Xmas card from MB/DB
Anonymous wrote:I feel embarrassed as I wrote them a long message in my card. They clearly don't think I am doing the greatest of jobs to not bother writing anything. As a nanny it really sucks and makes me feel unappreciated and that my work means nothing to them.


Why are you so dramatic? Do they pay you? You're an employee. They wrote w card from their kids that's nice enough. My boss at work doesn't write me a card.
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2016 10:51     Subject: Re:No Xmas card from MB/DB
I feel embarrassed as I wrote them a long message in my card. They clearly don't think I am doing the greatest of jobs to not bother writing anything. As a nanny it really sucks and makes me feel unappreciated and that my work means nothing to them.
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2016 10:43     Subject: No Xmas card from MB/DB
Really? Is it really that bad?

I think if they took the time to create a card for you (even if they only put the kids' names on it) then clearly they are thinking about you.
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2016 10:36     Subject: No Xmas card from MB/DB
I am hurt. MB and DB didn't write a Christmas card for me and just did it from their three sons. I am now thinking they don't think much of me at all also embarrassed as I wrote them a really long card