In what realm does "I'm paying you well, so therefore I can do what I want and you don't deserve my honesty or straightforwardness" make any sense? It has nothing to do with how much you're paying her. $30/hour, big whoop. She still deserves to know if she's being watched on camera or not. Get over this nasty attitude that the fact that you pay her overrides human decency.

I truly don't understand why you're so defensive over them though. It would literally be a 30 second conversation, or better yet a text. And I'm 100% positive she's just going to say "okay, thanks for telling me!". Over. It's done. How is that "making a big deal" about them?

From one MB to another, this is stupid. Mention the cameras. It would take less than a minute. If this is the mindset you're going into this working relationship with, there are going to many more difficult conversations to come, so you'd better get used to it.

You sound like a troll.

Of course you mention they are there. You frame it as a household safety device as you give her the first-day tour. "We have two outdoor security cameras that cover both doors 24-hours a day. Here is the alarm panel, I have the code written here for you; now let's practice disarming it..."

Why wouldn't you do that? I'll admit, I've never had an expensive home. But I grew up in one and I've worked in dozens and no one has ever been weird about the security that was in place. Why are you? What are you afraid would happen or what bad feelings are you afraid would arise if you pointed them out to her?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just say, "Hey nanny, just to let you know, we have security cameras watching our front and back doors. They will never be watching you or the baby, and we really only ever keep tabs on them when we go out of town, but I wanted to make you aware of them anyway."

Is it really that difficult? Could be done through a text if you want.

I'd just rather not make an issue of them unless she brings them up. I mean we're paying her very well. Even if they were facing her head on she shouldn't have an issue with them.

"Very well" means $30-35+ per hour, FYI.

Do not start off ANY relationship with any form of deception thrown in.

If you do, things never end well.

And considering you have a child...your child involved makes me sad.

By the way, if she has been to your home, then she likely has already seen the cameras and has no issue with them.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just say, "Hey nanny, just to let you know, we have security cameras watching our front and back doors. They will never be watching you or the baby, and we really only ever keep tabs on them when we go out of town, but I wanted to make you aware of them anyway."

Is it really that difficult? Could be done through a text if you want.

I'd just rather not make an issue of them unless she brings them up. I mean we're paying her very well. Even if they were facing her head on she shouldn't have an issue with them.

The fact that you DO NOT want to tell her makes me doubt your honesty.

Anonymous wrote:Just say, "Hey nanny, just to let you know, we have security cameras watching our front and back doors. They will never be watching you or the baby, and we really only ever keep tabs on them when we go out of town, but I wanted to make you aware of them anyway."

Is it really that difficult? Could be done through a text if you want.

I'd just rather not make an issue of them unless she brings them up. I mean we're paying her very well. Even if they were facing her head on she shouldn't have an issue with them.

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Anonymous wrote:We have small security cameras inside the house near our front and back doors. We can access these cameras if we want to see what's going on but rarely do so. When we are out of town we arm them and they're triggered to record if someone comes in the house, otherwise they don't come on. We have a nanny starting on Monday and I really don't want to have a discussion about them. The cameras are in plain site and if she asks we will explain, but I feel like if we come out and talk about them now she will think we have them to watch her or something. They're not recording, is it okay to just leave the topic alone and if she has concern about them wait for her to ask us?

You expect absolute honesty and integrity from the nanny but you are incapable of giving the same to her. You disgust me. I hope she quits as soon as she finds out what a despicable person you are.

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Huh? Did you even read the post?

Anonymous wrote:We have small security cameras inside the house near our front and back doors. We can access these cameras if we want to see what's going on but rarely do so. When we are out of town we arm them and they're triggered to record if someone comes in the house, otherwise they don't come on. We have a nanny starting on Monday and I really don't want to have a discussion about them. The cameras are in plain site and if she asks we will explain, but I feel like if we come out and talk about them now she will think we have them to watch her or something. They're not recording, is it okay to just leave the topic alone and if she has concern about them wait for her to ask us?

You expect absolute honesty and integrity from the nanny but you are incapable of giving the same to her. You disgust me. I hope she quits as soon as she finds out what a despicable person you are.

Just say, "Hey nanny, just to let you know, we have security cameras watching our front and back doors. They will never be watching you or the baby, and we really only ever keep tabs on them when we go out of town, but I wanted to make you aware of them anyway."

Is it really that difficult? Could be done through a text if you want.

I'm an MB. I think it is FAR better to disclose upfront that you have these cameras, have always had them, and what their purpose is.

Otherwise of course the nanny will assume that you have them to watch her.

Presuming you want to have a relationship with the nanny that is based on honesty and trust, and where she can feel comfortable coming to you with any concerns or questions, then you start that by being upfront with her.

What do you gain by not discussing it? The possibility that she will feel spied upon, mistrusted, and subject to scrutiny and that you didn't respect her enough to at least tell her that you have nanny cams.

I have an unpopular opinion (for this site). It is that many, many houses have security cameras, and anyone working inside homes should expect them to be there.

We have small security cameras inside the house near our front and back doors. We can access these cameras if we want to see what's going on but rarely do so. When we are out of town we arm them and they're triggered to record if someone comes in the house, otherwise they don't come on. We have a nanny starting on Monday and I really don't want to have a discussion about them. The cameras are in plain site and if she asks we will explain, but I feel like if we come out and talk about them now she will think we have them to watch her or something. They're not recording, is it okay to just leave the topic alone and if she has concern about them wait for her to ask us?