Anonymous wrote:My nanny family lives close to me so my commute is tolerable. They share their collective family dysfunction with me so I don't feel left out. They leave incredible messes for me but the give me lots o



I live close to where they live.

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My nanny family lives close to me so my commute is tolerable. They share their collective family dysfunction with me so I don't feel left out. They leave incredible messes for me but the give me lots o



I live close to where they live.

My MB & DB are both super involved parents. When they come home their work phones go in a cabinet for the night and they're fully engaged with their kiddos.

They treat me as a professional. They respect my opinions, ask for my advice, and trust me to make the best decisions for their children while the children are in my care.

They also respect that their home is my work place. They don't leave messes for me to walk into on Monday mornings, and they don't expect me to handle household tasks that aren't in my contract.

Fun 'perks': they added me to their gym membership, they'll randomly leave gift cards for me to local restaurants as a small 'thank you', they leave random thank you cards for me throughout the year, they celebrate my birthday and our nanny-versary.

*since then

*united front

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, it is indeed refreshing to hear some good stuff on here as well!

OP, your bosses sound incredibly awesome.

Thank you I'm so blessed to have found them. Things were rocky at one point but we all make sure to stay on the same page now and we get along so well.

What was rocky and how did you work through it? I think I'm entering a bit of a rocky phase with my mb who I have really liked so far...

Well they were really bad about sending mixed signals to the kids. Like saying "no don't do this" but when the kid would do it anyway they would let it go or not stop them and they would undermine me. They essentially were teaching the kids that their words meant nothing so the kids basically ignored them. I eventually told them both I needed to have a discussion with them and had some notes of things I'd observed and dates. I suggested that if they say something to follow through and if the kid doesn't stop then they should physically intervene and make him stop to show that their words have meaning. I also needed them to understand that while I was there I was in charge so that we could be on the same page and the kids wouldn't play us against each other. Having examples of incidents and being very polite yet professional made the convo very pleasant and easy. Since the. We've been a united feont!

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, it is indeed refreshing to hear some good stuff on here as well!

OP, your bosses sound incredibly awesome.

Thank you I'm so blessed to have found them. Things were rocky at one point but we all make sure to stay on the same page now and we get along so well.

What was rocky and how did you work through it? I think I'm entering a bit of a rocky phase with my mb who I have really liked so far...

Anonymous wrote:Yes, it is indeed refreshing to hear some good stuff on here as well!

OP, your bosses sound incredibly awesome.

Thank you I'm so blessed to have found them. Things were rocky at one point but we all make sure to stay on the same page now and we get along so well.

Anonymous wrote:My nf respects me as a professional. That this is my career choice, that I know what I am doing. We raise their kids together, as equals.

This really makes everyday a great day, a day I look forward to going to work.

Op here. Yes this is a great thing to have in a nf. I've worked for people in the past that you could sense that despite you taking care of he most important things in their lives they thought less of it and didn't value my experience or expertise. My current family calls me my charges 3rd parent and welcome any input and make sure to never undermine me. It's so refreshing.

I work for an amazing couple, too. I feel respected and appreciated every day. And my charge is the most adorable child in the world! I love being a nanny and am so grateful to have found this wonderful couple to work for.

My bosses work ridiculously long hours but nevertheles manage to be loving and involved parents. They put their kids first, even when it's hard. As a result I have so much respect dor them that it is easy to work as a team. They are also very open and appreciative and considerate in all of their interactions with me. The best might be that they actually listen to me, which means that I'm not constantly trying to work around typical stupid first-time parent choices. If I tell them, e.g., that we need to start introducing the potty before DC hits the rebellious stage, they hear me out and we work together to find a plan that works for everyone.

Yes, it is indeed refreshing to hear some good stuff on here as well!

OP, your bosses sound incredibly awesome.

My nf respects me as a professional. That this is my career choice, that I know what I am doing. We raise their kids together, as equals.

This really makes everyday a great day, a day I look forward to going to work.

My mb frequently gives me gifts of clothing or coupons. Nothing fancy but appreciated.

I see a lot of threads complaining. The autumn air and beautiful weather out is making me feel especially grateful today. Let's show some appreciation and name some of the kind things your nf has done for you or just things you love about them! I'll start:

One of the major things a few months ago was I renewed my insurance plan and needed to pay a upfront cost. I filled out a form to get $200 advance from my upcoming weeks pay. The following morning they had left a check for it and she left a note that it was so I could deposit it asap if needed The next pay period came and I noticed it didn't change. Mb and db insisted I forget about it.

I recently went to a concert with friends on a work night and they gave me the day off without me asking for it and said it wouldn't count as pto. They also came home early the day of the show and said they just wanted me to be able to go and have a great time!

Occasionally when mb places a home delivery order for household supplies she will text to see what we need and will also order the same for me to take to my own house. Things like charmin, bounty towels, soft soap refills, and detergent pods etc