Anonymous wrote:Why not start by having a conversation with her? Find out what her needs are, and if she wants to stay on.
We have spoken about whether she enjoys working for us and she says she loves it. I know she loves our kids. I've found that talking to her about money or the terms of her employment generally doesn't lead anywhere productive. I don't mean that in a bad way, more that she tends to go along with whatever we suggest. Here's what we can offer you, does that work? Yes, no problem. Slight change in schedule? No problem. Do XYZ to help us out or help our next door neighbor? No problem. Obviously this is GREAT from our perspective, but because of it I want to be sure I'm not taking advantage. For example, I am very hesitant to ask her to babysit and I don't think we ever have, because I don't want her to feel like she can't say no. Anyway, long explanation for why I'm turning to the internet to gauge the fairness of the raise.