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Anonymous wrote: It sounds to me as if you are trying to do what is right and fair. I'm sorry that you are getting jumped on. I would assume that you do not have a contract, or you would not need to ask this question. So the new question is whether you both generally treat her time with you as guaranteed hours, or whether she is more of an as needed sitter. Does she plan on working for you those hours every single week? If she needs a day off, does she simply announced that she is not available, or does she do her best to schedule around those hours and notify you well in advance of any time she may be taking off? How long has she been with you? Does she show up even when it is not a convenient time for her because of weather, small holidays like Columbus Day, etc.? Is she flexible with you when you need her to be?

If, in looking at your relationship with her, it seems to you that she is treating this job very professionally, and I would do your best to pay her guaranteed hours as a professional (meaning that you pay her normal rate for her normal hours because you reserved them from her if, in looking at your relationship with her, it seems to you that she is treating this job very professionally, then I would do your best to pay her guaranteed hours as a professional (meaning that you pay her normal rate for her normal hours because she reserved those hours for you).

If, on the other hand, you feel that she mostly is not particularly professional, and she does not appear to be reserving hours for you, then I think you just need to have a conversation with her about her expectations and take it from there. If she does cancel you fairly regularly, but you otherwise really like her, then you may need to suck it up and pay her in order to keep her, if, on the other hand, you are not particularly enthused with her, and she is not really reserving this time for you anyway, then I would be more inclined to tell her that it is unpaid time off and she is welcome to look for different jobs during the hours she might otherwise have been working.

Stop condoning this because there is no way of sugar coating it. OP knows that she is supposed to give the nanny time off with pay but is trying to give her extra to do just because she will be away and Nanny will be off and paid for nothing.

Oh stop. I give my nanny 2 weeks of paid vacation and holidays. Our vacation just happens to not coincide with hers so I'm wondering what to do. So sorry to ask such a ridiculous question. We literally never take vacation. A few other friends have had their nannies come in and do jobs while they're gone so I was wondering what others did. I can see this board is not the place to ask though.

Your Nannies's vacation isn't supposed to coincide with yours, just like you manager or boss' and coworker's vacations always never coincide with your own. This is why we said you need a contract so everything is clear to her and you. This is how you keep good working relationship for a long time. And also, you nanny is not your personal assistant, make arrangements for your Dog and trash collection before you leave for vacation.

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Anonymous wrote: It sounds to me as if you are trying to do what is right and fair. I'm sorry that you are getting jumped on. I would assume that you do not have a contract, or you would not need to ask this question. So the new question is whether you both generally treat her time with you as guaranteed hours, or whether she is more of an as needed sitter. Does she plan on working for you those hours every single week? If she needs a day off, does she simply announced that she is not available, or does she do her best to schedule around those hours and notify you well in advance of any time she may be taking off? How long has she been with you? Does she show up even when it is not a convenient time for her because of weather, small holidays like Columbus Day, etc.? Is she flexible with you when you need her to be?

If, in looking at your relationship with her, it seems to you that she is treating this job very professionally, and I would do your best to pay her guaranteed hours as a professional (meaning that you pay her normal rate for her normal hours because you reserved them from her if, in looking at your relationship with her, it seems to you that she is treating this job very professionally, then I would do your best to pay her guaranteed hours as a professional (meaning that you pay her normal rate for her normal hours because she reserved those hours for you).

If, on the other hand, you feel that she mostly is not particularly professional, and she does not appear to be reserving hours for you, then I think you just need to have a conversation with her about her expectations and take it from there. If she does cancel you fairly regularly, but you otherwise really like her, then you may need to suck it up and pay her in order to keep her, if, on the other hand, you are not particularly enthused with her, and she is not really reserving this time for you anyway, then I would be more inclined to tell her that it is unpaid time off and she is welcome to look for different jobs during the hours she might otherwise have been working.

Stop condoning this because there is no way of sugar coating it. OP knows that she is supposed to give the nanny time off with pay but is trying to give her extra to do just because she will be away and Nanny will be off and paid for nothing.

All that OP is "supposed" to do is to treat the nanny with respect and live up to their agreement. If they didn't discuss this previously, then OP is under no obligation to offer benefits that the nanny never asked for or live up to a nonexistant contract. If you want to be treated as a professional and offered professional benefits, then you should have a contract. If you don't have a contract then you can't expect your boss to always do what you expect/prefer in these situations. I am a nanny BTW. And I have worked part time with and without a contract. When it was without a contract that was because I wanted the flexibility to cancel on them for any reason because that fit best with my schedule. The flip side of the flexibility on my part is that I didn't get PTO.

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Anonymous wrote: It sounds to me as if you are trying to do what is right and fair. I'm sorry that you are getting jumped on. I would assume that you do not have a contract, or you would not need to ask this question. So the new question is whether you both generally treat her time with you as guaranteed hours, or whether she is more of an as needed sitter. Does she plan on working for you those hours every single week? If she needs a day off, does she simply announced that she is not available, or does she do her best to schedule around those hours and notify you well in advance of any time she may be taking off? How long has she been with you? Does she show up even when it is not a convenient time for her because of weather, small holidays like Columbus Day, etc.? Is she flexible with you when you need her to be?

If, in looking at your relationship with her, it seems to you that she is treating this job very professionally, and I would do your best to pay her guaranteed hours as a professional (meaning that you pay her normal rate for her normal hours because you reserved them from her if, in looking at your relationship with her, it seems to you that she is treating this job very professionally, then I would do your best to pay her guaranteed hours as a professional (meaning that you pay her normal rate for her normal hours because she reserved those hours for you).

If, on the other hand, you feel that she mostly is not particularly professional, and she does not appear to be reserving hours for you, then I think you just need to have a conversation with her about her expectations and take it from there. If she does cancel you fairly regularly, but you otherwise really like her, then you may need to suck it up and pay her in order to keep her, if, on the other hand, you are not particularly enthused with her, and she is not really reserving this time for you anyway, then I would be more inclined to tell her that it is unpaid time off and she is welcome to look for different jobs during the hours she might otherwise have been working.

Stop condoning this because there is no way of sugar coating it. OP knows that she is supposed to give the nanny time off with pay but is trying to give her extra to do just because she will be away and Nanny will be off and paid for nothing.

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Anonymous wrote: It sounds to me as if you are trying to do what is right and fair. I'm sorry that you are getting jumped on. I would assume that you do not have a contract, or you would not need to ask this question. So the new question is whether you both generally treat her time with you as guaranteed hours, or whether she is more of an as needed sitter. Does she plan on working for you those hours every single week? If she needs a day off, does she simply announced that she is not available, or does she do her best to schedule around those hours and notify you well in advance of any time she may be taking off? How long has she been with you? Does she show up even when it is not a convenient time for her because of weather, small holidays like Columbus Day, etc.? Is she flexible with you when you need her to be?

If, in looking at your relationship with her, it seems to you that she is treating this job very professionally, and I would do your best to pay her guaranteed hours as a professional (meaning that you pay her normal rate for her normal hours because you reserved them from her if, in looking at your relationship with her, it seems to you that she is treating this job very professionally, then I would do your best to pay her guaranteed hours as a professional (meaning that you pay her normal rate for her normal hours because she reserved those hours for you).

If, on the other hand, you feel that she mostly is not particularly professional, and she does not appear to be reserving hours for you, then I think you just need to have a conversation with her about her expectations and take it from there. If she does cancel you fairly regularly, but you otherwise really like her, then you may need to suck it up and pay her in order to keep her, if, on the other hand, you are not particularly enthused with her, and she is not really reserving this time for you anyway, then I would be more inclined to tell her that it is unpaid time off and she is welcome to look for different jobs during the hours she might otherwise have been working.

Stop condoning this because there is no way of sugar coating it. OP knows that she is supposed to give the nanny time off with pay but is trying to give her extra to do just because she will be away and Nanny will be off and paid for nothing.

Oh stop. I give my nanny 2 weeks of paid vacation and holidays. Our vacation just happens to not coincide with hers so I'm wondering what to do. So sorry to ask such a ridiculous question. We literally never take vacation. A few other friends have had their nannies come in and do jobs while they're gone so I was wondering what others did. I can see this board is not the place to ask though.

Anonymous wrote:My nanny brings in the mail amd the trash cans while we are gone. When we had a pet, she would feed it.

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Anonymous wrote: It sounds to me as if you are trying to do what is right and fair. I'm sorry that you are getting jumped on. I would assume that you do not have a contract, or you would not need to ask this question. So the new question is whether you both generally treat her time with you as guaranteed hours, or whether she is more of an as needed sitter. Does she plan on working for you those hours every single week? If she needs a day off, does she simply announced that she is not available, or does she do her best to schedule around those hours and notify you well in advance of any time she may be taking off? How long has she been with you? Does she show up even when it is not a convenient time for her because of weather, small holidays like Columbus Day, etc.? Is she flexible with you when you need her to be?

If, in looking at your relationship with her, it seems to you that she is treating this job very professionally, and I would do your best to pay her guaranteed hours as a professional (meaning that you pay her normal rate for her normal hours because you reserved them from her if, in looking at your relationship with her, it seems to you that she is treating this job very professionally, then I would do your best to pay her guaranteed hours as a professional (meaning that you pay her normal rate for her normal hours because she reserved those hours for you).

If, on the other hand, you feel that she mostly is not particularly professional, and she does not appear to be reserving hours for you, then I think you just need to have a conversation with her about her expectations and take it from there. If she does cancel you fairly regularly, but you otherwise really like her, then you may need to suck it up and pay her in order to keep her, if, on the other hand, you are not particularly enthused with her, and she is not really reserving this time for you anyway, then I would be more inclined to tell her that it is unpaid time off and she is welcome to look for different jobs during the hours she might otherwise have been working.

Stop condoning this because there is no way of sugar coating it. OP knows that she is supposed to give the nanny time off with pay but is trying to give her extra to do just because she will be away and Nanny will be off and paid for nothing.

Oh stop. I give my nanny 2 weeks of paid vacation and holidays. Our vacation just happens to not coincide with hers so I'm wondering what to do. So sorry to ask such a ridiculous question. We literally never take vacation. A few other friends have had their nannies come in and do jobs while they're gone so I was wondering what others did. I can see this board is not the place to ask though.

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Anonymous wrote: It sounds to me as if you are trying to do what is right and fair. I'm sorry that you are getting jumped on. I would assume that you do not have a contract, or you would not need to ask this question. So the new question is whether you both generally treat her time with you as guaranteed hours, or whether she is more of an as needed sitter. Does she plan on working for you those hours every single week? If she needs a day off, does she simply announced that she is not available, or does she do her best to schedule around those hours and notify you well in advance of any time she may be taking off? How long has she been with you? Does she show up even when it is not a convenient time for her because of weather, small holidays like Columbus Day, etc.? Is she flexible with you when you need her to be?

If, in looking at your relationship with her, it seems to you that she is treating this job very professionally, and I would do your best to pay her guaranteed hours as a professional (meaning that you pay her normal rate for her normal hours because you reserved them from her if, in looking at your relationship with her, it seems to you that she is treating this job very professionally, then I would do your best to pay her guaranteed hours as a professional (meaning that you pay her normal rate for her normal hours because she reserved those hours for you).

If, on the other hand, you feel that she mostly is not particularly professional, and she does not appear to be reserving hours for you, then I think you just need to have a conversation with her about her expectations and take it from there. If she does cancel you fairly regularly, but you otherwise really like her, then you may need to suck it up and pay her in order to keep her, if, on the other hand, you are not particularly enthused with her, and she is not really reserving this time for you anyway, then I would be more inclined to tell her that it is unpaid time off and she is welcome to look for different jobs during the hours she might otherwise have been working.

Stop condoning this because there is no way of sugar coating it. OP knows that she is supposed to give the nanny time off with pay but is trying to give her extra to do just because she will be away and Nanny will be off and paid for nothing.

Anonymous wrote: It sounds to me as if you are trying to do what is right and fair. I'm sorry that you are getting jumped on. I would assume that you do not have a contract, or you would not need to ask this question. So the new question is whether you both generally treat her time with you as guaranteed hours, or whether she is more of an as needed sitter. Does she plan on working for you those hours every single week? If she needs a day off, does she simply announced that she is not available, or does she do her best to schedule around those hours and notify you well in advance of any time she may be taking off? How long has she been with you? Does she show up even when it is not a convenient time for her because of weather, small holidays like Columbus Day, etc.? Is she flexible with you when you need her to be?

If, in looking at your relationship with her, it seems to you that she is treating this job very professionally, and I would do your best to pay her guaranteed hours as a professional (meaning that you pay her normal rate for her normal hours because you reserved them from her if, in looking at your relationship with her, it seems to you that she is treating this job very professionally, then I would do your best to pay her guaranteed hours as a professional (meaning that you pay her normal rate for her normal hours because she reserved those hours for you).

If, on the other hand, you feel that she mostly is not particularly professional, and she does not appear to be reserving hours for you, then I think you just need to have a conversation with her about her expectations and take it from there. If she does cancel you fairly regularly, but you otherwise really like her, then you may need to suck it up and pay her in order to keep her, if, on the other hand, you are not particularly enthused with her, and she is not really reserving this time for you anyway, then I would be more inclined to tell her that it is unpaid time off and she is welcome to look for different jobs during the hours she might otherwise have been working.

Anonymous wrote:You simply pay her her regular wages. Most nannies don't double as your housekeeper while you're on vacation. Are you new on this forum?