Anonymous wrote:In your post you called her DCs nanny. In real life I'm sure you've called her my nanny or our nanny at some point. It's ok for you to claim ownership of her but not the other way around?

This is OP. Actually, NO, I would never call the nanny "My nanny" or "Our nanny" when speaking to her! How weird is that?

Anonymous wrote:My house. My friend. My boss. My day. My desk. My job. My coworkers. My baby. Not seeing the problem. Do you call the desk/computer/pen/employees etc you use at work "mine"? Would your boss be annoyed that you're referring to the company desk as yours, afraid you'll forget who it belongs to? If you're a manager or otherwise have employees report to you, do you call them "mine"? My admins? My nurses? My staff?

Yes, OP you're absolutely overreacting.

Actually, it is totally different. You refer to your boss as "my boss" when speaking about him in the THIRD PERSON, NOT when speaking TO HIM.

Ex 1. You speaking to a friend: "My boss asked me to stay late today, how annoying!"
Ex 2. You speaking to your boss: "Hi, my boss, how late do you want me to stay?"

See how #2 sounds weird? You don't call your boss "my boss" to his face. You call him by his first or last name, Sir, or Boss, but not "my boss." In the same vein, I am totally okay if nanny refers to DC as "my baby" in the third person when speaking to others. Calling him "my baby" TO HIM is different. Also, it's different between a baby and boss. People do not get possessive about bosses, but they do about babies. And I don't just mean me, the MB, but the nannies, too. DC's nanny acted a little possessive and emotional with DC a few weeks in and I think that made me even more sensitized to her calling him my baby.

Also, I do not mean to imply that nanny crossed a line and is doing something unequivocally wrong by calling DC "my baby." I was just wondering if it was an overreaction on my part to not like it and judging by the mixed responses, my reaction is not completely out there.

Anonymous wrote:I am not the same poster as the OP from this thread: http://www.dcurbanmom.com/nanny-forum/posts/list/324973.page I read the foregoing thread and it reminded me of something similar in my situation. DC's nanny has been with us about six months (DC is about a year old now) and has been calling DC "my baby" from the beginning. Unlike the wife from the other thread, I DO NOT MIND the nanny showing DC affection, I welcome it! We have no family in the area and nanny is the next closest thing. I am fine with nanny hugging DC and saying "I love you." But I get annoyed that nanny calls DC "my baby" because he is NOT her baby. DC is my and my husband's baby. No one else, not even the grandparents say "my baby." At the beginning it was really bad, I think nanny was going through some personal problems because a few times she got really emotional and teary-eyed, hugging DC and saying "oh my sweet baby" "I love you, my baby" over and over and thank goodness it only lasted a week because I definitely would have said something to her if it continued. I've asked other MBs and they also feel uncomfortable anyone outside immediate family saying "my baby." Are we MBs just overreacting or is this not cool?

I see lots Spanish nanny saying that refer the kids like my,baby,my kid and blabla bla,am a nanny when I refer to the kids I say,the kids I am taking care I never say my kis.but about love we really love them,is impossible not to love this inocente Angels.

In your post you called her DCs nanny. In real life I'm sure you've called her my nanny or our nanny at some point. It's ok for you to claim ownership of her but not the other way around?

My house. My friend. My boss. My day. My desk. My job. My coworkers. My baby. Not seeing the problem. Do you call the desk/computer/pen/employees etc you use at work "mine"? Would your boss be annoyed that you're referring to the company desk as yours, afraid you'll forget who it belongs to? If you're a manager or otherwise have employees report to you, do you call them "mine"? My admins? My nurses? My staff?

Yes, OP you're absolutely overreacting.

I'm an MB and I would have no problem with it. My nanny speaks my language and there's no real equivalent to "my baby" but she gets called "my sweetie, my sunshine etc" by the nanny and all her grandmothers and that's totally fine. More affection is more affection.

Thanks everyone for the replies and not judging. I have not said anything nor will I ever to DC's nanny, it would just be awkward at this point. I know sometimes I can be sensitive so I wanted to do a sanity check. Sounds like I am not totally insane! I'm also thinking ahead, if anyone else starts calling DC my baby, I will nip it in the bud fast.

Been a nanny for 12 years now.

Have always called my charges "my babies"

Never had a problem.

I've had this happen with both of our previous nannies and it doesn't bother me - in fact I'm glad that my kids feel so well loved because it helps me feel better about the time that I have to spend away from them. On the other hand, it has only happened after our nanny has bonded with the baby and if I was hearing that from day one I might be more irritated by it.

Nanny here: No you are not overreacting, you are the mom and a professional nanny knows that. I am sure your nanny was not trying to over step on purpose, it is a learning curve. Communication is so important in this line of work, you need to express your feelings in a nice way. Are you a stay at home mom OP? Sometimes personalities do not mesh, no one is at fault here.

I don't have a nanny, but with my first child I used to cringe when my mom or MIL would say this. Now with the second child, I think I dealing with it better but it's still very annoying. I don't think you're overreacting...yet. I'm not sure how you tell the nanny to stop without it being an overreaction. Try to think of it like she's a teacher saying "I love my students" or calling her students "my kids." Try to reframe your thinking otherwise it will make things very awkward.

Anonymous wrote:I think you are overreacting.

~ nanny

I concur.

A child can never have too much love.

Let them form their own individual bond and be grateful you have a nanny who loves your child so much.

I think you are overreacting.

~ nanny

I'd be uncomfortable with it. Not sure I'd say something though.

I am not the same poster as the OP from this thread: http://www.dcurbanmom.com/nanny-forum/posts/list/324973.page I read the foregoing thread and it reminded me of something similar in my situation. DC's nanny has been with us about six months (DC is about a year old now) and has been calling DC "my baby" from the beginning. Unlike the wife from the other thread, I DO NOT MIND the nanny showing DC affection, I welcome it! We have no family in the area and nanny is the next closest thing. I am fine with nanny hugging DC and saying "I love you." But I get annoyed that nanny calls DC "my baby" because he is NOT her baby. DC is my and my husband's baby. No one else, not even the grandparents say "my baby." At the beginning it was really bad, I think nanny was going through some personal problems because a few times she got really emotional and teary-eyed, hugging DC and saying "oh my sweet baby" "I love you, my baby" over and over and thank goodness it only lasted a week because I definitely would have said something to her if it continued. I've asked other MBs and they also feel uncomfortable anyone outside immediate family saying "my baby." Are we MBs just overreacting or is this not cool?