Anonymous wrote:Personalities differ. I'm an accountant type. I like being precise. If I owe you $98, I expect the $2 back. If you consider it petty, I can think the same of you. Why is nanny being petty about giving change, especially when she has no legal right to the $2?

As for the parents laundry, I like to be precise there too. Nanny should not be doing parent laundry.

It's not petty but if you're concerned about every dollar you should have exact change. Asking the nanny to be prepared to make change for you is ridiculous, and so keeping tabs to dock it in the future if you don't have a regular arrangement.

Personalities differ. I'm an accountant type. I like being precise. If I owe you $98, I expect the $2 back. If you consider it petty, I can think the same of you. Why is nanny being petty about giving change, especially when she has no legal right to the $2?

As for the parents laundry, I like to be precise there too. Nanny should not be doing parent laundry.

Tell them you BABYSIT and for folding clothes, etc., it is extra. Otherwise, just quit working for these cheap a..holes.

Just tell them flat out "It doesn't seem that our expectations match so I think it's best we not work together."

Tell your main employer "I just wanted to let you know, I let the Dicksons know that since our expectations for babysitting don't align, it's best we not work together anymore."

Just say no. Being a doormat is not right.

This makes me grateful for my nf. They recommended me to some friends and I said that I usually don't like to sit for friends of my main nf because it can be awkward if it isn't a good fit and DB flat out said that if their friends made them choose between us, they'd pick me.

If your current bosses recommend you to a bad family, and they admit they do not like one of the parents then that is just not cool.

Anyway as a date night sitter, you shouldn't have had to do anyone's laundry.
That is just insane!! Unless of course they are willing to pay you an extra stipend for it.

I had a bit of a similar situation, nightmare mom and the nice dad my nanny family were actually friends with. The kids were nice but the mom was so petty, it's incredible. Same thing with the $98 - except the shorted me the $2 the next time. They left a mess of the house before leaving and the first couple of times I babysat I tidied up a bit, but then once they left an entire weekend worth of dirty dishes (two toddlers, 5yo and two parents from I'm guessing Friday night to Sunday night), and their dishwasher was broken, so I didn't even bother. I always came after the kids had their dinner so I didn't even walk into the kitchen once during my shifts, so I didn't do anything. The mom was mad but trying to conceal it, ugh. So not my job to do it. That was the last time I babysat - that was also when she took out the $2 I 'owed' her. I know they thought I was lazy because the mom mentioned it to my regular MB - but thankfully my MB knew I was not.

I started babysitting for a friends of my current employer. The baby is easy and great. However, I hate the mom. They have a daytime nanny, but always leave laundry ( adult and baby) and baby food making to me. I don't mind doing little stuff for the baby ( he is sleeping most of the time) but not the parents laundry. I think it's inappropriate to ask a date night sitter to handle those things. The worst is the mom nickels and dimes me. The pay for one night was $98. She only had 20's and wanted me to pay her the $2 difference. The next time the dad had seen I prepared homemade baby food and folded the baby's laundry. He gave me me an extra $10. The mom had a mad look on her face. This time she shorts me $10, and tells me " there is laundry for you to fold ( hers) in the dryer". I told her " Sorry, I don't do parental laundry". She gave me the dirtiest look. She then asked if I could work July 4th. I told her no.

Since I turned her down the last two times ( one on July 4th), she has made comments to my boss. I don't want to cause drama with my current family, but I want to tell these people I am not interested in babysitting for them. I also do not want to cause tension or make my boss look bad. My bosses are friends with the dad ( MB doesn't like the wife either). The dad is very nice.