Anonymous
Post 07/05/2016 14:50     Subject: Son locked nanny in a room nanny enforcing punishment

Ps. No wonder he's awful considering you reward bad behaviour!!!!! Proper thing to do was "hey DC your motorized car arrive as scheduled but since you locked nanny in the basement you can't use it for a week".
Anonymous
Post 07/05/2016 14:49     Subject: Son locked nanny in a room nanny enforcing punishment

Wow your kid is a brat and you need to support your nanny.
Anonymous
Post 07/05/2016 14:40     Subject: Son locked nanny in a room nanny enforcing punishment

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I don't know where it was stated that I didn't talk to my ds about this but I did apologize profusely to our nanny when I called her that day and found out.

To the people saying my child is a monster you must not be parents yourselves because kids especially little boys can be a handful.


I have 3 sons yes they can be handfuls at times but yours is a monster. This isn't his first rodeo he's locked you into the basement before. What do you do about his behavior op? I'm sorry your kid is a handful as you say, to me he's a spawn of Satan and I wouldn't be surprised if your nanny starts looking for a new position.
Anonymous
Post 07/05/2016 14:39     Subject: Son locked nanny in a room nanny enforcing punishment

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I don't know where it was stated that I didn't talk to my ds about this but I did apologize profusely to our nanny when I called her that day and found out.

To the people saying my child is a monster you must not be parents yourselves because kids especially little boys can be a handful.


Can firmly say DS never did anything like this. And if he did, it would not be a repeated thing. By your own admission, he's done this multiple times. So clearly your "talks" are not working. If you want to be a permissive parent, fine. But don't expect your nanny to smile through being locked out for 30 min because you want to think this is just kids being kids.
Anonymous
Post 07/05/2016 14:37     Subject: Son locked nanny in a room nanny enforcing punishment

Anonymous wrote:If I had been locked in a room for 30 minutes by your child I would have called 911 and insisted that he be arrested for false inprisment . I would have also quit


+ 1
Anonymous
Post 07/05/2016 14:31     Subject: Son locked nanny in a room nanny enforcing punishment

If I had been locked in a room for 30 minutes by your child I would have called 911 and insisted that he be arrested for false inprisment . I would have also quit
Anonymous
Post 07/05/2016 14:26     Subject: Son locked nanny in a room nanny enforcing punishment

Op here. I don't know where it was stated that I didn't talk to my ds about this but I did apologize profusely to our nanny when I called her that day and found out.

To the people saying my child is a monster you must not be parents yourselves because kids especially little boys can be a handful.
Anonymous
Post 07/05/2016 14:21     Subject: Son locked nanny in a room nanny enforcing punishment

If my 4.5 yr old or 3 yr old did that then the bike would be sent back or sold. They would have to write (dictate) an apology letter and apologize in person. We would move the lock to an adult height the kids couldn't reach. We would apologize to the nanny. We would give our girls a HUGE talking-to when we came home. Then a reminder Monday morning. Totally unacceptable behavior.
Anonymous
Post 07/05/2016 14:17     Subject: Re:Son locked nanny in a room nanny enforcing punishment

OP, I am a MB, and you need to back your nanny on this one. It might have even been a good idea not to give him the bike for at least a week.
Anonymous
Post 07/05/2016 13:36     Subject: Son locked nanny in a room nanny enforcing punishment

Lol you're right OP. Continue with the punishment you've been doing. You know, the one that works so well that your DS continues to do this.
Anonymous
Post 07/05/2016 13:34     Subject: Son locked nanny in a room nanny enforcing punishment

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Your nanny is feeling angry and disrespected (which I understand), and is feeling a little humiliated and unappreciated about being left outside to stew while another adult in the house was taking a nap. She doesn't want to quit her job, so she's taking it out on your son (IMO). He is three. The punishment needed to come immediately after the event, there needed to be a lot of talking about it, and you need to do something to make sure it doesn't happen again, like possibly change the lock so DS can't mess with it.

You also need to make it clear that you take this seriously and you're really, really sorry about the rough day she had.


I don't mean that you're apologizing for your son -- I can't tell from your post whether he's a typical three-year-old having a bad day, or out of control, as a PP suggests. I mean that as a fellow adult who has had horrible days taking care of children you love, you commiserate with her and feel bad for her. Make sure she doesn't think that you think she should just not care about this kind of thing because she's paid to take it, or something.


I think its clear she doesn't care. Can't hurt her precious snowflakes feelings because he did something wrong. This is something that happens once then you discipline so it doesn't happen again. Can you imagine if snowflake got hurt while nanny was locked away? OP would be blaming nanny. Hopefully nanny sees her boss isn't a good person and quits. She deserves a better family.
Anonymous
Post 07/05/2016 13:19     Subject: Son locked nanny in a room nanny enforcing punishment

Anonymous wrote:Your nanny is feeling angry and disrespected (which I understand), and is feeling a little humiliated and unappreciated about being left outside to stew while another adult in the house was taking a nap. She doesn't want to quit her job, so she's taking it out on your son (IMO). He is three. The punishment needed to come immediately after the event, there needed to be a lot of talking about it, and you need to do something to make sure it doesn't happen again, like possibly change the lock so DS can't mess with it.

You also need to make it clear that you take this seriously and you're really, really sorry about the rough day she had.


I don't mean that you're apologizing for your son -- I can't tell from your post whether he's a typical three-year-old having a bad day, or out of control, as a PP suggests. I mean that as a fellow adult who has had horrible days taking care of children you love, you commiserate with her and feel bad for her. Make sure she doesn't think that you think she should just not care about this kind of thing because she's paid to take it, or something.
Anonymous
Post 07/05/2016 13:17     Subject: Son locked nanny in a room nanny enforcing punishment

Your nanny is feeling angry and disrespected (which I understand), and is feeling a little humiliated and unappreciated about being left outside to stew while another adult in the house was taking a nap. She doesn't want to quit her job, so she's taking it out on your son (IMO). He is three. The punishment needed to come immediately after the event, there needed to be a lot of talking about it, and you need to do something to make sure it doesn't happen again, like possibly change the lock so DS can't mess with it.

You also need to make it clear that you take this seriously and you're really, really sorry about the rough day she had.
Anonymous
Post 07/05/2016 13:17     Subject: Son locked nanny in a room nanny enforcing punishment

Anonymous wrote:My 3 1/2 year old son has the tendency to dash when redirected or spoken to harshly. Last Thursday I called our nanny to let her know I was a few minutes behind schedule only to find her sounding upset that he had dashed from her while in the playroom located in our basement and he proceeded to lock her in it. We keep a set of keys down there (he's done this to me before) that will unlock the outside door and there is also a key to the front door on the same chain. Dh was home not feeling well so didn't hear her beating on the door. She used the keys to get out and still wasn't able to get inside because when dh came home early he also locked the bolt on the front door. My ds finally came back to let her out of the basement, she says after around 30/40 minutes. Afterwards he continued to misbehave until I came home.

Over the weekend ds received a motorized bike that we keep in the basement for charging and because that's the only area with enough space for him to drive it. He absolutely loved it. I did not just up and decide to give him this it had been preordered before the basement incident. I spoke with dh over lunch and asked if he remembered to tell her about not letting it charge too long and he proceeded to tell me that she said there was no need because she told ds last week that she would not allow him basement playtime for a week so he learns a lesson and until then he is only allowed toys on main floor.

I've not seen her yet because dh sees her in the morning but I'm feeling this is a bit harsh. He is only 3. I don't want to not have her back but can't help but feel he may not even understand this punishment. I feel I should say something this evening.

I'm sorry, OP, but you are clearly the one who doesn't understand the absolute necessity of consequences in this situation. I'm horrified that your child is behaving this way at only three. You have a monster child in the making. Or maybe a very special needs behavior problem child. You desperately need some serious parenting help. Please get yourself a good therapist to help work out your issues. Your child's future depends on it.
Anonymous
Post 07/05/2016 13:09     Subject: Son locked nanny in a room nanny enforcing punishment

My 3 1/2 year old son has the tendency to dash when redirected or spoken to harshly. Last Thursday I called our nanny to let her know I was a few minutes behind schedule only to find her sounding upset that he had dashed from her while in the playroom located in our basement and he proceeded to lock her in it. We keep a set of keys down there (he's done this to me before) that will unlock the outside door and there is also a key to the front door on the same chain. Dh was home not feeling well so didn't hear her beating on the door. She used the keys to get out and still wasn't able to get inside because when dh came home early he also locked the bolt on the front door. My ds finally came back to let her out of the basement, she says after around 30/40 minutes. Afterwards he continued to misbehave until I came home.

Over the weekend ds received a motorized bike that we keep in the basement for charging and because that's the only area with enough space for him to drive it. He absolutely loved it. I did not just up and decide to give him this it had been preordered before the basement incident. I spoke with dh over lunch and asked if he remembered to tell her about not letting it charge too long and he proceeded to tell me that she said there was no need because she told ds last week that she would not allow him basement playtime for a week so he learns a lesson and until then he is only allowed toys on main floor.

I've not seen her yet because dh sees her in the morning but I'm feeling this is a bit harsh. He is only 3. I don't want to not have her back but can't help but feel he may not even understand this punishment. I feel I should say something this evening.