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Anonymous wrote:I take my 3 year-old and 11 month-old (I'm mom) to the pool a couple times a week. 3 year-old wears puddle jumper and I hold the baby. I do have a raft that the baby can float in, but not all pools allow them.

Yea it's really not that hard. I'm shocked to see a nanny here complaining, and even more shocked to find other nannies agreeing with her. Not all jobs are a good fit for everyone and for OP nannying is clearly not the job for her.

You can be obtuse and be a jackass if you want. I know this childs behavior and am accustomed to it, but not while at a pool where he could run near a larger pool while I have the baby in my hands. Even his mother has her husband with her when they go. Like I said I have a charge that just started walking and the older displays very sporadic behavior and temperament. He is already getting treatment for these issues. My concern is safety. If you only have snarky insults to offer why respond? does it make you feel better about yourself?

You can explain it all you want. But seriously if I was your MB and found out you always felt moments away from losing control of the children. If you have these fears at the pool then a parking lot, a playground, or even the sidewalk would be just as dangerous with you.

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Anonymous wrote:I take my 3 year-old and 11 month-old (I'm mom) to the pool a couple times a week. 3 year-old wears puddle jumper and I hold the baby. I do have a raft that the baby can float in, but not all pools allow them.

Yea it's really not that hard. I'm shocked to see a nanny here complaining, and even more shocked to find other nannies agreeing with her. Not all jobs are a good fit for everyone and for OP nannying is clearly not the job for her.

You can be obtuse and be a jackass if you want. I know this childs behavior and am accustomed to it, but not while at a pool where he could run near a larger pool while I have the baby in my hands. Even his mother has her husband with her when they go. Like I said I have a charge that just started walking and the older displays very sporadic behavior and temperament. He is already getting treatment for these issues. My concern is safety. If you only have snarky insults to offer why respond? does it make you feel better about yourself?

Anonymous wrote:The puddle jumpers go to 50 lbs. I dont know why you had one charge that switched to arm floats at age 4. These are the safest because they wont come off.
Agree with the PP that I would put a PJ on the 3yo. The parents probably want him to get used to the water so he will do better in swimming lessons.

The 1yo might be too light for a PJ but at least you can focus on him more if you know the 3yo is wearing one.

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OP here. I didn't switch y charge to them. His mother did because he was a good swimmer and that is what he began to wear while he was with her at the pool. This charge was also a very good listener and didn't have any special needs or behavioral issues.

Anonymous wrote:I take my 3 year-old and 11 month-old (I'm mom) to the pool a couple times a week. 3 year-old wears puddle jumper and I hold the baby. I do have a raft that the baby can float in, but not all pools allow them.

Yea it's really not that hard. I'm shocked to see a nanny here complaining, and even more shocked to find other nannies agreeing with her. Not all jobs are a good fit for everyone and for OP nannying is clearly not the job for her.

I take my 3 year-old and 11 month-old (I'm mom) to the pool a couple times a week. 3 year-old wears puddle jumper and I hold the baby. I do have a raft that the baby can float in, but not all pools allow them.

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Anonymous wrote:Is there any chance the family could find a better nanny that could handle two children?

Don't be such a fool. She is not talking about being unable to handle two kids at the playground, she is talking about it being dangerous with a fresh walker and a 3yo in a pool, where one second of inattention could result in tragedy.

OP, I used to take my just turned 3yo and just turned 4yo to the pool and I was there for about half an hour on my own before MB joined me with the older kid. I swear I was sweating in the water it was so stressful. Can't imagine doing it with a 3yo and essentially a baby who you need to hold onto the entire time. Both of them need your undivided attention at all times.

I would see if a friend of yours would join you for another pair of hands (if the family is okay with it of course), or suggest that you wait with the pool with you solo until both of the kids are a bit older. And I wouldn't go about it from the point of view that you can't do it - stress how it isn't safe even with your complete and utter attention on the kids.

But in any case go to the pool with MB or DB to be shown the ropes - maybe it has been made so safe you will not have these worries.

You couldn't manage a 3 and 4 year old in the baby pool? Jesus.

We didn't have a baby pool - there was a proper lengths pool and a 'paddling' pool that was around waist deep (I'm average height), so it came up just above the heads of my charges if they stood on tip toe at the bottom of the pool, so the kids had to either cling to the edges or stay afloat all the time. There were also a couple of slides on each side, and a ton of older kids who were much faster than my charges. I honestly don't understand what you get out of insulting someone over nothing in an anonymous forum?? How was your comment in any way helpful to the OP?

I didn't make the original comment, just the response to you. How was YOUR response helpful to the OP given your situation was totally different? OP already stated there is a gated baby pool, therefore yes, she should be able to manage two kids.

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Anonymous wrote:Is there any chance the family could find a better nanny that could handle two children?

Don't be such a fool. She is not talking about being unable to handle two kids at the playground, she is talking about it being dangerous with a fresh walker and a 3yo in a pool, where one second of inattention could result in tragedy.

OP, I used to take my just turned 3yo and just turned 4yo to the pool and I was there for about half an hour on my own before MB joined me with the older kid. I swear I was sweating in the water it was so stressful. Can't imagine doing it with a 3yo and essentially a baby who you need to hold onto the entire time. Both of them need your undivided attention at all times.

I would see if a friend of yours would join you for another pair of hands (if the family is okay with it of course), or suggest that you wait with the pool with you solo until both of the kids are a bit older. And I wouldn't go about it from the point of view that you can't do it - stress how it isn't safe even with your complete and utter attention on the kids.

But in any case go to the pool with MB or DB to be shown the ropes - maybe it has been made so safe you will not have these worries.

You couldn't manage a 3 and 4 year old in the baby pool? Jesus.

We didn't have a baby pool - there was a proper lengths pool and a 'paddling' pool that was around waist deep (I'm average height), so it came up just above the heads of my charges if they stood on tip toe at the bottom of the pool, so the kids had to either cling to the edges or stay afloat all the time. There were also a couple of slides on each side, and a ton of older kids who were much faster than my charges. I honestly don't understand what you get out of insulting someone over nothing in an anonymous forum?? How was your comment in any way helpful to the OP?

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Anonymous wrote:Is there any chance the family could find a better nanny that could handle two children?

Don't be such a fool. She is not talking about being unable to handle two kids at the playground, she is talking about it being dangerous with a fresh walker and a 3yo in a pool, where one second of inattention could result in tragedy.

OP, I used to take my just turned 3yo and just turned 4yo to the pool and I was there for about half an hour on my own before MB joined me with the older kid. I swear I was sweating in the water it was so stressful. Can't imagine doing it with a 3yo and essentially a baby who you need to hold onto the entire time. Both of them need your undivided attention at all times.

I would see if a friend of yours would join you for another pair of hands (if the family is okay with it of course), or suggest that you wait with the pool with you solo until both of the kids are a bit older. And I wouldn't go about it from the point of view that you can't do it - stress how it isn't safe even with your complete and utter attention on the kids.

But in any case go to the pool with MB or DB to be shown the ropes - maybe it has been made so safe you will not have these worries.

You couldn't manage a 3 and 4 year old in the baby pool? Jesus.

I'm really confused. Baby pools are like a foot deep, small, and generally fenced in. It is incredibly easy to keep an eye on two kids in a baby pool. You just need to make ground rules - if you run, leave the area, etc, we leave immediately.

Not being able to handle two kids in a baby pool IS completely unreasonable.

The puddle jumpers go to 50 lbs. I dont know why you had one charge that switched to arm floats at age 4. These are the safest because they wont come off.
Agree with the PP that I would put a PJ on the 3yo. The parents probably want him to get used to the water so he will do better in swimming lessons.

The 1yo might be too light for a PJ but at least you can focus on him more if you know the 3yo is wearing one.

Anonymous wrote:Is there any chance the family could find a better nanny that could handle two children?

Don't be such a fool. She is not talking about being unable to handle two kids at the playground, she is talking about it being dangerous with a fresh walker and a 3yo in a pool, where one second of inattention could result in tragedy.

OP, I used to take my just turned 3yo and just turned 4yo to the pool and I was there for about half an hour on my own before MB joined me with the older kid. I swear I was sweating in the water it was so stressful. Can't imagine doing it with a 3yo and essentially a baby who you need to hold onto the entire time. Both of them need your undivided attention at all times.

I would see if a friend of yours would join you for another pair of hands (if the family is okay with it of course), or suggest that you wait with the pool with you solo until both of the kids are a bit older. And I wouldn't go about it from the point of view that you can't do it - stress how it isn't safe even with your complete and utter attention on the kids.

But in any case go to the pool with MB or DB to be shown the ropes - maybe it has been made so safe you will not have these worries.

Is there any chance the family could find a better nanny that could handle two children?

Anonymous wrote:Ask that they get the kid puddle jumpers, and that they make time to go with you.

With the puddle jumpers on, I think you'll find the pool much less intimidating.

http://www.target.com/p/stearns-puddle-jumper-life-jacket-fish/-/A-17141990?ref=tgt_adv_XS000000&AFID=google_pla_df&CPNG=PLA_Sports%2BShopping&adgroup=SC_Sports_Top+Performers&LID=700000001170770pgs&network=g&device=c&location=9011427&gclid=COit--be180CFdM2gQodr3QGhQ&gclsrc=aw.ds

Thanks! I forgot about these. I actually used to put one of these on my last 3 year old charge until he turned 4 and only needed the arm floaties. I haven't seen any of these around the house with their other pool items so I think I will ask them to get these first. And yes We need to stick to the plan of one of them going with me to show me how things go with them the first time. My charge can really be err... something else some of the time lol

Ask that they get the kid puddle jumpers, and that they make time to go with you.

With the puddle jumpers on, I think you'll find the pool much less intimidating.

http://www.target.com/p/stearns-puddle-jumper-life-jacket-fish/-/A-17141990?ref=tgt_adv_XS000000&AFID=google_pla_df&CPNG=PLA_Sports%2BShopping&adgroup=SC_Sports_Top+Performers&LID=700000001170770pgs&network=g&device=c&location=9011427&gclid=COit--be180CFdM2gQodr3QGhQ&gclsrc=aw.ds

Hi its that time of year. The pool that my NF usually goes too has been under some remodeling in the past couple of months but recently opened back up. They have been taking the kids on some weekends and say that they built a wall around it and that the kiddie pool is shallow and "safe". They have been saying that they will drive over with me one day and show me what they do etc and where it is. But then all of a sudden I texted MB that I wanted to spend the day at the aquarium on friday (we have a membership to the Aquarium, Children's Museum and Zoo) and she asked out of the blue if Id like to go to the pool instead. I was caught off guard because they still haven't shown me where it is etc. & neither of them would be available to go with me. I told her no thank you. Not to mention we even discussed that it may be very different for me considering I would be doing this solo and she usually has her husband.

So later that day once she was home I asked how DS's (3) swim lessons had been going and she said not too well. He changes his mind often and gets in and out of the pool and is apprehensive to a lot of the things the instructor says the kids should do. I suggested that maybe one on one lessons would be a better fit for him. She didn't really say anything to this. He has extreme behavioral issues and sleep issues and a lot of it is tied to sleep deprivation so its hard for him to stay focused on activities. So the swimming apparently is no different.

So my thing is am I out of line if I just straight up tell MB that this pool thing is just not something I think I want on the agenda for the summer? Besides my 3 yr old charge and the issues he has here and there I would also have to watch his 15 month old brother. We have plenty of other things to do for the summer and he also has a camp once per week and they take him to the pool on the weekends. I have always taken charges to the pool but they have always been at least 3 and up. Never what I consider a young toddler that honestly just started walking within the last 3 weeks and still stumbles. I just keep having visions of him running etc and me having the baby in my arms etc.

what do you guys think. Nannies and Mbs please chime in. Thanks in advance!