Anonymous
Post 06/26/2016 14:12     Subject: Advice on breaking a share?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Logistically, if you are really trying to make it easiest for the nanny and other family, let them know you are leaving now, and tell them you are prepared to find alternate childcare arrangements if they find another family to replace yours this summer. All of you knew starting out that the share was not a permanent arrangement, so hopefully here will be no hard feelings.

As far as the emotional aspect, I am sure it seems that the kids have become close, but at 20 months old they will move on from friendships easily. (I assume you are talking about the kids' emotions, not yours.)The bigger adjustment will be to starting daycare, which might not be totally smooth at first but your child will most likely love it. Good luck!


What if OP is not prepared to cover for alternative arrangements? If OP knows, say 4 months in advance, OP could be on the hook to find 8 weeks of care. People who do nanny shares generally do it for cost. Otherwise, they would get their own nanny. OP could really be exposed financially in this case.

I say give the min weeks notice in the contract. OP has to look at herself.

+1. Don't shoot yourself in the foot.
Anonymous
Post 06/25/2016 22:51     Subject: Advice on breaking a share?
Anonymous wrote:Logistically, if you are really trying to make it easiest for the nanny and other family, let them know you are leaving now, and tell them you are prepared to find alternate childcare arrangements if they find another family to replace yours this summer. All of you knew starting out that the share was not a permanent arrangement, so hopefully here will be no hard feelings.

As far as the emotional aspect, I am sure it seems that the kids have become close, but at 20 months old they will move on from friendships easily. (I assume you are talking about the kids' emotions, not yours.)The bigger adjustment will be to starting daycare, which might not be totally smooth at first but your child will most likely love it. Good luck!


What if OP is not prepared to cover for alternative arrangements? If OP knows, say 4 months in advance, OP could be on the hook to find 8 weeks of care. People who do nanny shares generally do it for cost. Otherwise, they would get their own nanny. OP could really be exposed financially in this case.

I say give the min weeks notice in the contract. OP has to look at herself.
Anonymous
Post 06/23/2016 12:22     Subject: Advice on breaking a share?
We gave a month's notice when we left.
Anonymous
Post 06/23/2016 10:47     Subject: Advice on breaking a share?
I am sure they will understand if you have previously told them that your child was on a daycare waiting list.

Let them know sooner rather than later.

The earlier you tell them, the more time allocated for them to find a new family.

Good luck!
Anonymous
Post 06/23/2016 06:46     Subject: Advice on breaking a share?
Logistically, if you are really trying to make it easiest for the nanny and other family, let them know you are leaving now, and tell them you are prepared to find alternate childcare arrangements if they find another family to replace yours this summer. All of you knew starting out that the share was not a permanent arrangement, so hopefully here will be no hard feelings.

As far as the emotional aspect, I am sure it seems that the kids have become close, but at 20 months old they will move on from friendships easily. (I assume you are talking about the kids' emotions, not yours.)The bigger adjustment will be to starting daycare, which might not be totally smooth at first but your child will most likely love it. Good luck!
Anonymous
Post 06/23/2016 05:40     Subject: Advice on breaking a share?
Like an adult. Tell them and move on.
Anonymous
Post 06/23/2016 04:15     Subject: Advice on breaking a share?
Hi, my family has been a part of a wonderful nanny share since my daughter was 3 months old. She is now 20 months and we got a slot in a daycare which begins at the beginning of the school year. The share has been wonderful....good relationships all around and both of my kids are attached to the nanny and her family. I am dreading having to give them notice. I'm concerned about the other family being able to find care, the nanny's ability to find new work timely, and the emotional side of it all around. Any advice for how to handle?