Anonymous
06/21/2016 23:36
Subject: Would you work for a charge that hits you
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Why do they have so many caregivers? These kids sound angry and confused. And they just added a third baby?
The new baby may explain some of the newly extreme behavior, especially from the younger one, but there's a problem in this house. Either not enough sleep, not enough consistency, or just too many changes all the time.
Only here would someone try to make having multiple loving family members involved in a child's life problematic. Children thrive when they are surrounded by people that love and care for them, not when they are isolated with an egotistical nanny.
Children thrive best when they have some sort of consistency to their lives.
Consistency and multiple loving caregivers aren't mutually exclusive. Stop trying to make this about something it is not.
Anonymous
06/21/2016 22:12
Subject: Would you work for a charge that hits you
Anonymous wrote:For a year and a half I've been working for a very sweet family with two boys. The oldest is 4 1/2 and he give me his first hit shortly after I started with them. The problem was very minor back then but it has escalated a lot and now he's bigger and more violent. I report every incident to the parents, and they are genuinely trying to get this kid under control. He is a very angry child. If he wants to do something and you tell him no he throws a huge tantrum. If you try to force him to do anything or if you try to take him to his room/time out you will get hit or kicked. He's even bit his mom before and tried to bite me. If he bumps his head by his own fault he will get very mad and violently hit or throw the thing that hurt him, despite me telling him when that happens just come for a hug, etc.
His brother is 2 1/2 and is showing the same tendencies. Neither boy listens or follows direction, and they can rarely play together without literally physically attacking each other. I am full time but only 4 days a week with these boys, so they have many different caregivers (myself, grandparents, parents, and sometimes a babysitter) and so I feel I can't get anywhere with them - one behavior I finally work out of them only to have it return the next week after a weekend with grandparents.
I'm still with the family because I love the parents and the pay is great, but I'm sick of being hit and kids not listening.
They sound quite seriously disturbed. Are they getting any kind of family counseling?
Anonymous
06/21/2016 22:09
Subject: Would you work for a charge that hits you
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Why do they have so many caregivers? These kids sound angry and confused. And they just added a third baby?
The new baby may explain some of the newly extreme behavior, especially from the younger one, but there's a problem in this house. Either not enough sleep, not enough consistency, or just too many changes all the time.
Only here would someone try to make having multiple loving family members involved in a child's life problematic. Children thrive when they are surrounded by people that love and care for them, not when they are isolated with an egotistical nanny.
Children thrive best when they have some sort of consistency to their lives.
Anonymous
06/21/2016 17:24
Subject: Would you work for a charge that hits you
Anonymous wrote:Why do they have so many caregivers? These kids sound angry and confused. And they just added a third baby?
The new baby may explain some of the newly extreme behavior, especially from the younger one, but there's a problem in this house. Either not enough sleep, not enough consistency, or just too many changes all the time.
Only here would someone try to make having multiple loving family members involved in a child's life problematic. Children thrive when they are surrounded by people that love and care for them, not when they are isolated with an egotistical nanny.
Anonymous
06/21/2016 15:57
Subject: Would you work for a charge that hits you
I once had a charge hit me. I snatched her up so quick. Had a stern talk with her, and sent her to bed.
Anonymous
06/16/2016 09:58
Subject: Would you work for a charge that hits you
Why do they have so many caregivers? These kids sound angry and confused. And they just added a third baby?
The new baby may explain some of the newly extreme behavior, especially from the younger one, but there's a problem in this house. Either not enough sleep, not enough consistency, or just too many changes all the time.
The new baby may explain some of the newly extreme behavior, especially from the younger one, but there's a problem in this house. Either not enough sleep, not enough consistency, or just too many changes all the time.
Anonymous
06/16/2016 07:00
Subject: Would you work for a charge that hits you
Anonymous wrote:It sounds like they are getting away with very bad behavior with their other caregivers and it's affecting you and your efforts. Nothing u can really do about that imo, except move on
This is the OP. You're right. The mom is on maternity leave right now and their behavior is 100xs worse with their parents around. I have seen a lot of lax parenting. They aren't as bad with me. The older kid also hits at school, too.
Anonymous
06/16/2016 06:49
Subject: Would you work for a charge that hits you
It sounds like they are getting away with very bad behavior with their other caregivers and it's affecting you and your efforts. Nothing u can really do about that imo, except move on
Anonymous
06/16/2016 05:41
Subject: Would you work for a charge that hits you
Have they had the boys evaluated for some sort of mental illness or disability? Id you are firm and consistent, most kids learn to code switch--following your rules when they are with you, and behaving worse for other caregivers who have lax rules. The level of behavior, lack of coping skills and the fact that their routine seems to be so crucial to them tells me that they may have something bigger going on--at least the older boy. If they haven't been evaluated I would look into it.
If they have and you are sure that it's behavioral, then Inwould quit simply because you are obviously not capable of meeting his needs. If this behavior is continuing to escalate, then he needs someone else who can address this differently.
If they have and you are sure that it's behavioral, then Inwould quit simply because you are obviously not capable of meeting his needs. If this behavior is continuing to escalate, then he needs someone else who can address this differently.
Anonymous
06/15/2016 22:41
Subject: Would you work for a charge that hits you
Anonymous wrote:Usually those are behaviors the nanny would address.
You sound very inexperienced. "Address" troubled kids to death, but a nanny cannot solve a family's problems. Not even close. To the op, I'd quit.
Anonymous
06/15/2016 22:10
Subject: Would you work for a charge that hits you
Anonymous wrote:Usually those are behaviors the nanny would address.
And they are addressed. M
Anonymous
06/15/2016 22:09
Subject: Would you work for a charge that hits you
Usually those are behaviors the nanny would address.
Anonymous
06/15/2016 21:25
Subject: Would you work for a charge that hits you
For a year and a half I've been working for a very sweet family with two boys. The oldest is 4 1/2 and he give me his first hit shortly after I started with them. The problem was very minor back then but it has escalated a lot and now he's bigger and more violent. I report every incident to the parents, and they are genuinely trying to get this kid under control. He is a very angry child. If he wants to do something and you tell him no he throws a huge tantrum. If you try to force him to do anything or if you try to take him to his room/time out you will get hit or kicked. He's even bit his mom before and tried to bite me. If he bumps his head by his own fault he will get very mad and violently hit or throw the thing that hurt him, despite me telling him when that happens just come for a hug, etc.
His brother is 2 1/2 and is showing the same tendencies. Neither boy listens or follows direction, and they can rarely play together without literally physically attacking each other. I am full time but only 4 days a week with these boys, so they have many different caregivers (myself, grandparents, parents, and sometimes a babysitter) and so I feel I can't get anywhere with them - one behavior I finally work out of them only to have it return the next week after a weekend with grandparents.
I'm still with the family because I love the parents and the pay is great, but I'm sick of being hit and kids not listening.
His brother is 2 1/2 and is showing the same tendencies. Neither boy listens or follows direction, and they can rarely play together without literally physically attacking each other. I am full time but only 4 days a week with these boys, so they have many different caregivers (myself, grandparents, parents, and sometimes a babysitter) and so I feel I can't get anywhere with them - one behavior I finally work out of them only to have it return the next week after a weekend with grandparents.
I'm still with the family because I love the parents and the pay is great, but I'm sick of being hit and kids not listening.