Anonymous
Post 06/01/2016 23:36     Subject: Taking a stand
I am a neat freak & personally just HAVE to clean up a mess whenever I see one.

It would bother me like crazy to have to "work around" someone else's mess. It just would.
Anonymous
Post 06/01/2016 23:32     Subject: Taking a stand
Sooner or later people reach their threshold & it sure looks like you just reached yours OP!!

You are doing the right thing here.
Now they will see that you are not a door mat, but a human being who has actual feelings and deserves respect.
Anonymous
Post 06/01/2016 22:18     Subject: Taking a stand
Op here- The thing that really frustrates me is that I go out of my way and above and beyond to make their lives easier. Laundry, groceries, organizing, plus they have a housekeeper once a week. I don't understand how the parents just destroy the house on the weekend. The mess is just laziness, pure and simple. I somehow manage to keep the house near and tidy and during naps I do so much stuff that they literally have nothing to do on the weekend but maintain the house. I'm just really frustrated.
Anonymous
Post 06/01/2016 22:11     Subject: Re:Taking a stand
Anonymous wrote:MB here - not to say that I know what OPs situation is, but sometimes the mess had nothing to do with the nanny at all. I try to clean up after the kids, but at the end of a long busy weekend with 3 kids it's entirely possible that the house is destroyed and that I am not able to get it completely cleaned up before heading back to work. I will get to it. Just because there's a mess doesn't mean that I expect the nanny to clean it up. I'm sorry if a nanny would find it disrespectful, but we are busy and tired parents who are doing the best that we can and if you expect to come in to a spotless house every morning then we probably aren't the family for you.



Then your house must be a mess all the time. In my house, everybody clean up as we go along and when children were young, DH and I cleaned up as we went along. There is no excuse to ever leave your house looking like a pig sty. I don't even leave a pile of dirty dishes for weekly housecleaner.
Anonymous
Post 06/01/2016 21:23     Subject: Re:Taking a stand
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:MB here - not to say that I know what OPs situation is, but sometimes the mess had nothing to do with the nanny at all. I try to clean up after the kids, but at the end of a long busy weekend with 3 kids it's entirely possible that the house is destroyed and that I am not able to get it completely cleaned up before heading back to work. I will get to it. Just because there's a mess doesn't mean that I expect the nanny to clean it up. I'm sorry if a nanny would find it disrespectful, but we are busy and tired parents who are doing the best that we can and if you expect to come in to a spotless house every morning then we probably aren't the family for you.
That's awesome and you're a terrific normal person. Just tell me you don't mind when I've been by myself handling your multiple children Monday through Friday ten hours a day changing diapers, organizing play dates and park excursions, making sterile bottles handling your breast milk, cleaning pee off the wall while potty training your five year old and figuring out why it's OK for Larla to have a popsicle every weekend but never on Thursday and you come home and the children's lines aren't changed and the dog has gone unfed-WELL- you'll understand.

Well, that should shut her up.
It never ceases to amaze me what parents demand of ONE nanny, when the TWO of them can't even get their kids to bed at a decent hour. Wtf?

Anonymous
Post 06/01/2016 20:15     Subject: Re:Taking a stand
Anonymous wrote:MB here - not to say that I know what OPs situation is, but sometimes the mess had nothing to do with the nanny at all. I try to clean up after the kids, but at the end of a long busy weekend with 3 kids it's entirely possible that the house is destroyed and that I am not able to get it completely cleaned up before heading back to work. I will get to it. Just because there's a mess doesn't mean that I expect the nanny to clean it up. I'm sorry if a nanny would find it disrespectful, but we are busy and tired parents who are doing the best that we can and if you expect to come in to a spotless house every morning then we probably aren't the family for you.
That's awesome and you're a terrific normal person. Just tell me you don't mind when I've been by myself handling your multiple children Monday through Friday ten hours a day changing diapers, organizing play dates and park excursions, making sterile bottles handling your breast milk, cleaning pee off the wall while potty training your five year old and figuring out why it's OK for Larla to have a popsicle every weekend but never on Thursday and you come home and the children's lines aren't changed and the dog has gone unfed-WELL- you'll understand.
Anonymous
Post 06/01/2016 18:08     Subject: Taking a stand
Anonymous wrote:For years I've been having job creep and doing the Monday morning/after holiday weekend pigsty clean up. Today I just left all the mess and it feels great!!! I am not the skivvy maid. My bosses won't say anything as its not my job to clean up their mess, but I'm sure they will notice. I'm just so over it, they do not respect me when they leave this kind of mess.


All nannies should follow your lead, unless they enjoy doing it AND are generously compensated.
Anonymous
Post 06/01/2016 12:16     Subject: Taking a stand
It works both ways. We have a nanny who leaves a mess. Let's trade. You work for us, she work for the pigs?
Anonymous
Post 06/01/2016 11:42     Subject: Taking a stand
OP here- It definitely wasn't my mess. I leave the house spotless when I leave, plus the housekeeper was there on Friday! It's just beyond how people can create such a mess and then just leave it all for the nanny when she comes to work. I find it very disrespectful. And this time, I didn't clean it up. What are they going to say? Get mad at me for not cleaning a pigsty they created??
Anonymous
Post 06/01/2016 09:48     Subject: Re:Taking a stand
MB here - not to say that I know what OPs situation is, but sometimes the mess had nothing to do with the nanny at all. I try to clean up after the kids, but at the end of a long busy weekend with 3 kids it's entirely possible that the house is destroyed and that I am not able to get it completely cleaned up before heading back to work. I will get to it. Just because there's a mess doesn't mean that I expect the nanny to clean it up. I'm sorry if a nanny would find it disrespectful, but we are busy and tired parents who are doing the best that we can and if you expect to come in to a spotless house every morning then we probably aren't the family for you.
Anonymous
Post 06/01/2016 07:38     Subject: Taking a stand
Anonymous wrote:For years I've been having job creep and doing the Monday morning/after holiday weekend pigsty clean up. Today I just left all the mess and it feels great!!! I am not the skivvy maid. My bosses won't say anything as its not my job to clean up their mess, but I'm sure they will notice. I'm just so over it, they do not respect me when they leave this kind of mess.


Have you started looking for a new job? If you aren't performing your duties I can't imagine you will have this one for long.
Anonymous
Post 06/01/2016 06:01     Subject: Taking a stand
Anonymous wrote:Why post this here instead of facebook? This is for MBs.

NP. Stop being so full of yourself. This is a NANNY forum. There's another one called the PARENT forum.
Anonymous
Post 06/01/2016 02:12     Subject: Taking a stand
^^ "Nanny forums" = for nannies as well, or nah?
Anonymous
Post 06/01/2016 00:46     Subject: Taking a stand
Why post this here instead of facebook? This is for MBs.
Anonymous
Post 05/31/2016 22:09     Subject: Taking a stand
For years I've been having job creep and doing the Monday morning/after holiday weekend pigsty clean up. Today I just left all the mess and it feels great!!! I am not the skivvy maid. My bosses won't say anything as its not my job to clean up their mess, but I'm sure they will notice. I'm just so over it, they do not respect me when they leave this kind of mess.