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Anonymous wrote:How the hell are you going to raise a child on such low incomes???? THAT should be your main worry - if I were you I'd be quickly looking into an abortion. Or adoption, I guess but then you'd still have the issue of having to take maternity leave.

Wow you're making me feel so much better. I actually called an abortion clinic the day I found out, but I just can't do it. Adoption is something I know I can't go through with, I'm already attached. My boyfriend and I have been going out for a long time and were planning on getting married soon anyway. He will be a certified journeyman plumber in 2 and a half years, they make a good income. We will probably go into debt a bit at first but we have good families to help. His parents own 12 KFCs and my dad has an executive accounting position plus he is in the Air Force reserves so I'm sure they will help a little bit. It's not like I'm 16 and haven't finished high school, I'm halfway through college. How rude for you to respond to me that way. Why did I even ask for advice on this website.

I'm not here to coddle you and tell you what you want to hear. I'm giving you an honest response. I've been very poor and I've raised children. Help from grandparents "a little bit" is buying the carseat, and babysitting once a month. It sounds like you'll need free full time childcare. I've told my kids that if they make stupid decisions I will not help them nurture those decisions. If my 21 yr old daughter came home pregnant I would offer to drive her to Planning Parenthood. My idea of helping would NOT be to watch her baby for her while she worked some shit job that barely pays over minimum wage. It would NOT be giving her money for daycare. You can not afford this baby. Or, you need a higher paying job. Maybe your boyfriend needs to take on a night job - working security, or shelving in a supermarket or something. I hope your boyfriend's education is being paid for on scholarship because you two are going to have a ton of expenses. If you're not on Medi-Cal now you should sign up for that, along with WIC.

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Anonymous wrote:How the hell are you going to raise a child on such low incomes???? THAT should be your main worry - if I were you I'd be quickly looking into an abortion. Or adoption, I guess but then you'd still have the issue of having to take maternity leave.

Wow you're making me feel so much better. I actually called an abortion clinic the day I found out, but I just can't do it. Adoption is something I know I can't go through with, I'm already attached. My boyfriend and I have been going out for a long time and were planning on getting married soon anyway. He will be a certified journeyman plumber in 2 and a half years, they make a good income. We will probably go into debt a bit at first but we have good families to help. His parents own 12 KFCs and my dad has an executive accounting position plus he is in the Air Force reserves so I'm sure they will help a little bit. It's not like I'm 16 and haven't finished high school, I'm halfway through college. How rude for you to respond to me that way. Why did I even ask for advice on this website.

Nice, financial plans that involve mooching of dads KFC and a guy in the air force reserves. Please do tell your accountant dad about your brilliant plan and let us know what he says =)

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Anonymous wrote:This is what happens nannies and nanny agencies when you keep filling this board with your nonsense about nannies making $20-30 an hour. You are leading these 21 year old new nannies down a bad path thinking they are worth that when really they are worth 10-12, 15 after a decade of experience. Please stop messing with the board and trying to convince people nanny wages are so great.

$17 was the going rate according to care.com for the area. I even said after I said $17 that I was willing to go lower. I didn't actually expect 17. Would have been nice to be paid $14-15 though.

Also- $10 would be under the minimum wage for my area so I have no clue why you're saying that's what I deserve.

Minimum wage applies to real business hun, not every single work transaction in the area. I can pay the neighbor kid $5 to spend 2 hours cutting my grass, totally legal. And I can pay the babysitter under minimum wage if I want. Fortunately here the minimum wage is very low, lower than I would ever pay a babysitter so no worry.

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Anonymous wrote:This is what happens nannies and nanny agencies when you keep filling this board with your nonsense about nannies making $20-30 an hour. You are leading these 21 year old new nannies down a bad path thinking they are worth that when really they are worth 10-12, 15 after a decade of experience. Please stop messing with the board and trying to convince people nanny wages are so great.

$17 was the going rate according to care.com for the area. I even said after I said $17 that I was willing to go lower. I didn't actually expect 17. Would have been nice to be paid $14-15 though.

Exactly what I just said. Nannies and agencies (and care.com included) are trying to inflate wages well beyond what any parent would ever pay. If care.com reported the actual wages how many potential sitter and nannies would want to sign up for a chance at $12 an hour? So they show $17, $20, $21+ instead to get people to sign up and pay them.

Anonymous wrote:How the hell are you going to raise a child on such low incomes???? THAT should be your main worry - if I were you I'd be quickly looking into an abortion. Or adoption, I guess but then you'd still have the issue of having to take maternity leave.

Wow you're making me feel so much better. I actually called an abortion clinic the day I found out, but I just can't do it. Adoption is something I know I can't go through with, I'm already attached. My boyfriend and I have been going out for a long time and were planning on getting married soon anyway. He will be a certified journeyman plumber in 2 and a half years, they make a good income. We will probably go into debt a bit at first but we have good families to help. His parents own 12 KFCs and my dad has an executive accounting position plus he is in the Air Force reserves so I'm sure they will help a little bit. It's not like I'm 16 and haven't finished high school, I'm halfway through college. How rude for you to respond to me that way. Why did I even ask for advice on this website.

How the hell are you going to raise a child on such low incomes???? THAT should be your main worry - if I were you I'd be quickly looking into an abortion. Or adoption, I guess but then you'd still have the issue of having to take maternity leave.

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Anonymous wrote:This is what happens nannies and nanny agencies when you keep filling this board with your nonsense about nannies making $20-30 an hour. You are leading these 21 year old new nannies down a bad path thinking they are worth that when really they are worth 10-12, 15 after a decade of experience. Please stop messing with the board and trying to convince people nanny wages are so great.

$17 was the going rate according to care.com for the area. I even said after I said $17 that I was willing to go lower. I didn't actually expect 17. Would have been nice to be paid $14-15 though.

Also- $10 would be under the minimum wage for my area so I have no clue why you're saying that's what I deserve.

Anonymous wrote:This is what happens nannies and nanny agencies when you keep filling this board with your nonsense about nannies making $20-30 an hour. You are leading these 21 year old new nannies down a bad path thinking they are worth that when really they are worth 10-12, 15 after a decade of experience. Please stop messing with the board and trying to convince people nanny wages are so great.

$17 was the going rate according to care.com for the area. I even said after I said $17 that I was willing to go lower. I didn't actually expect 17. Would have been nice to be paid $14-15 though.

This is what happens nannies and nanny agencies when you keep filling this board with your nonsense about nannies making $20-30 an hour. You are leading these 21 year old new nannies down a bad path thinking they are worth that when really they are worth 10-12, 15 after a decade of experience. Please stop messing with the board and trying to convince people nanny wages are so great.

Anonymous wrote:Cliff notes, please.

Sorry, didn't know how to make this any smaller. I have a lot on my mind right now

Anonymous wrote:Compromise at $15 an hour. $17 for a 21 year old for part time, seems like a lot. You need to be honest with them for your plan to bring the baby and then reducing it to $12 an hour is reasonable as you cannot give their kids as much attention with a newborn/infant. I'd be very concerned as a parent that many young kids.

I already make $13 am hour, I don't want to ask for more shortly before I tell them I am pregnant. I made $15 an hour for an infant and toddler plus small benefits before. This job has no benefits

OP here,
Thought I should mention that before I was hired the mom asked me over text about my "future plans" since they wanted at least a 1 year commitment. I had a feeling she was referring to getting married etc since I mentioned that my boyfriend also works in the area that the dad boss does that's a super long commute. I had already told them that I had two or more years of school left and that it would be online, so that's why I think this text was referring to my future plans to start a family etc. either way, I just talked about my school plans taking several more years in my text back to her, saying I had considered being a career nanny after college. (I have no clue what I'm doing with this sociology degree)

Cliff notes, please.

Compromise at $15 an hour. $17 for a 21 year old for part time, seems like a lot. You need to be honest with them for your plan to bring the baby and then reducing it to $12 an hour is reasonable as you cannot give their kids as much attention with a newborn/infant. I'd be very concerned as a parent that many young kids.

I have been working for this family for only 6 weeks. I first interviewed with them in March well before I became pregnant, they seemed to like me a lot and said that they want to make my switch from my old job worth it. I had asked for $17 an hour for 3 children, ages 2, 4 and 7. Well, they didn't reply for a few days, I had other offers for interviews so I checked in with them, saying if they were interested I would not bother with the interviews, and they said they would get back to me that weekend after checking references (this was on a Monday or Tuesday). A few weeks go by, and I check in with them again, mad at myself that I did not go to the interview the last weekend. After about a month of this sillyness they say they want to set up a trial day, and also sent me a daily rate that ended up being just over minimum wage here. I talked them up to $13 an hour because I was desperate to leave the other family I was with that had inconsistent hours and a messy divorce. Well here I am now, they absolutely love me, the grandma even told the mom after she met me to make sure I stay on for years because I am so good with the kids. The 7 year old told me I was the only potential nanny that interviewed, I am guessing they were waiting around to find a cheaper nanny, they even said at the interview that they didn't know what the cost of the nanny would be after I said my rate. I am their first nanny, the youngest does not speak yet but is going to therapy, I think that is a major reason they made the switch from daycare, but I have a feeling they aren't afraid to go back to daycare if they had to.
I am 10 weeks pregnant now, and I have no clue how to tell them. I feel like they didn't want me that bad in the first place since it took so long to get hired, and I feel that they are kind of cheap. The families around here drop people so easily no matter how great you are it seems (Sacramento, CA) and it took months for me to find this job even though I have a ton of experience (babysat since age 12, 3 years of gymnastics coaching, camp counselor, plus I've been a part time nanny ever since I had my license at 16. My boyfriend is a plumbing apprentice making only $12 an hour, so I really need a job. My job is only 20-30 hours a week because I am a part time student (which I probably have to stop doing even though it's online) I am only 21 so I feel that this will be a bit of a shock to them. I also would like to bring my baby with, but I have no clue how that would work out since it's such a big age difference.
Sorry if this is all over the place, I have had all day MS and barley get sleep.