Shares can easily become a nightmare, so not such a great arrangement if you have better options.

Another MB here saying don't do it. She wouldn't let your babies play on the floor together when they both had colds? Yikes - imagine what will happen when your baby has a runny nose and her peanut doesn't - she is not going to want you to bring your baby to the share. Then you're going to be forced to stay home from work or scramble to find some sort of back-up care. That's going to get old, really fast. Babies in shares share slobber, germs and snot. They will mouth the same toys. They will trade germs, colds, pink eye, etc. She's not going to be able to roll with that. Get out now.

Don't do it!! We are now in a nanny share with an amazing family. They are laid back and very appreciative of our amazing nanny. But we found them after two failed attempts at sharing. The first family bailed for cost reasons two weeks before the share was to start. At first we were disappointed but quickly realized it would've been a disaster working with them. The mom was obsessed with keeping her baby "germ free," wanted a nanny cam, and scheduled countless conference calls about silly details while trying to set everything up (before they bailed). It was exhausting! They were nice people and I clicked with the other mom at a moms group, but in the end I'm glad they found other child care. The other family we shared with for a month or so after that was okay, but they really needed their own nanny given their unpredictable work schedules. They also were rather dismissive of our nanny, which was very disappointing. So you need to find a family who has a similar parenting style and management style (and let's be honest, find a mom with these traits -- the dads typically follow the mom's lead). It's hard to find and you may have to have some trials with several families, but if your gut is saying no, don't do it!!

Well she can always volunteer to host the share in her own home.

However she does sound a bit overprotective like you said so I encourage both you + the nanny find another family to work with.

I see nothing but problems down the line if you work w/this family.

I second the recommendation to move on, forget it.

Op here. Our current family in the share is so easy going and nice. I had no idea how lucky are.

Doesn't sound like this will work OP.

Totally agree w/ 8:13 (and I'm an MB.)

Forget it, OP. Believe me.

I'm an MB in a share and luckily our other family is low key. But even then, a share is incredibly difficult- there are going to be different opinions about all sorts of things. And the families need to be incredibly flexible to make it work. I absolutely would not do this. Find another share. She should hire her own person.

Anonymous wrote:I'm trying to set up a nanny share with another mom. Her child has some respiratory and digestive issues that require some special care. The bright side is that these are issues he should outgrow by the time he's two.

The mom is incredibly overprotective. For example we tried to set up a playdate but she wouldn't let her kid play on the floor with my daughter since they both have colds. She also was worried about him sleeping in a room with a carpet because she doesn't know if he's allergic to the dust (?) Or to our cat.

I'm trying to be compassionate and accomdating to her concerns but I'm wondering if she's going to be comfortable enough to let her son join this share. Our nanny said as much.

Even if by some miracle the two of you can make it work, she will drive your nanny to quit. Guaranteed. I was in a similar situation. I loved my easy-going MB, but could never please the high-strung MB. I had to leave for my own sanity and happiness.

I'm trying to set up a nanny share with another mom. Her child has some respiratory and digestive issues that require some special care. The bright side is that these are issues he should outgrow by the time he's two.

The mom is incredibly overprotective. For example we tried to set up a playdate but she wouldn't let her kid play on the floor with my daughter since they both have colds. She also was worried about him sleeping in a room with a carpet because she doesn't know if he's allergic to the dust (?) Or to our cat.

I'm trying to be compassionate and accomdating to her concerns but I'm wondering if she's going to be comfortable enough to let her son join this share. Our nanny said as much.