Anonymous
06/09/2016 09:16
Subject: If you want to be in your child's memory tomorrow, BE IN THEIR LIFE TODAY!
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Anonymous
06/09/2016 09:11
Subject: If you want to be in your child's memory tomorrow, BE IN THEIR LIFE TODAY!
I agree with this poster! I can't stand that dr Laura lady but she is SPOT ON when it comes to these working parents and not even raising their own children. Being a nanny has allowed me to nurture these poor children that would otherwise get dumped into a daycare center where they just get treated like robots and have to stick to routines and schedules that fit the needs of the school and teachers. There are some great centers and preschools out there but nothing can trump getting what you need at home. Having a nanny is the next best thing to having one of your actual parents home. If socialization is what you are after there are many ways to get this.
I am not coming down in moms either. I also advocate for dads that can stay home.
Can we imagine the difference there would be in behavior and personality development? So many concerns and diagnoses are rooted in behavioral issues it sickens me. The behavioral issues are rooted in attention seeking because these kids now don't get it from the ones that created them in the first place. They are popped out then boom back to work and back to only seeing their parents at dinner and bed then a couple of days for the weekend. Do you parents really think this is adequate? I mean deep down do you really believe it? If you do, you should not have children. STOP having more children! It's ok to just be married.
When it comes to single parent it's different and I understand there needs to be an income. Nannies are too expensive some times in these situations. This is when I suggest living close to a relative that can help, or even living with family like grandma and grandpa to supplement for the absent parent. If it's not an option I think in come day cares with low ratios are the next best thing. It's more lenient the schedules are less stressful and they will come to see the provider as family.
But please let go of these material "needs" and standards of society. If you need to downsize your home, cars, vacations per year whatever it may be, DO IT. If it means going from $400000 year income household to $200000 or from $150,000 to $60,000 DO IT. One parent be there for your kids in their formative years. Be the one seeing those "firsts". Don't depend on watching a camera from your cell or texts and daily reports. Get back to your career part time after they go to school.
This industry has completely changed my views. I am defintely staying home when I start my own family I don't care if we have to have a tight budget. Nothing can substitute a parents attention and touch. No job is more important once you decide to become a parent. And if you think so you shouldn't be a parent. This is the pink elephant in the room that no one wants to mention so I know feathers will be ruffled. Mbs will be angry and say it's judgemental and become defensive. "You wouldn't have a job is we didn't work! Etc etc". I have degrees to work in other areas but I have my heartstrings pulled by these children that need someone their for them at home. No one will tell the truth
I am not coming down in moms either. I also advocate for dads that can stay home.
Can we imagine the difference there would be in behavior and personality development? So many concerns and diagnoses are rooted in behavioral issues it sickens me. The behavioral issues are rooted in attention seeking because these kids now don't get it from the ones that created them in the first place. They are popped out then boom back to work and back to only seeing their parents at dinner and bed then a couple of days for the weekend. Do you parents really think this is adequate? I mean deep down do you really believe it? If you do, you should not have children. STOP having more children! It's ok to just be married.
When it comes to single parent it's different and I understand there needs to be an income. Nannies are too expensive some times in these situations. This is when I suggest living close to a relative that can help, or even living with family like grandma and grandpa to supplement for the absent parent. If it's not an option I think in come day cares with low ratios are the next best thing. It's more lenient the schedules are less stressful and they will come to see the provider as family.
But please let go of these material "needs" and standards of society. If you need to downsize your home, cars, vacations per year whatever it may be, DO IT. If it means going from $400000 year income household to $200000 or from $150,000 to $60,000 DO IT. One parent be there for your kids in their formative years. Be the one seeing those "firsts". Don't depend on watching a camera from your cell or texts and daily reports. Get back to your career part time after they go to school.
This industry has completely changed my views. I am defintely staying home when I start my own family I don't care if we have to have a tight budget. Nothing can substitute a parents attention and touch. No job is more important once you decide to become a parent. And if you think so you shouldn't be a parent. This is the pink elephant in the room that no one wants to mention so I know feathers will be ruffled. Mbs will be angry and say it's judgemental and become defensive. "You wouldn't have a job is we didn't work! Etc etc". I have degrees to work in other areas but I have my heartstrings pulled by these children that need someone their for them at home. No one will tell the truth
Anonymous
05/20/2016 22:55
Subject: Re:If you want to be in your child's memory tomorrow, BE IN THEIR LIFE TODAY!
Anonymous wrote:wowAnonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:The subject line sounds like a bad mother's day hallmark card.
Uh that would be a weird preachy offensive hallmark card.
Um, yeah. Hence the irony.
Anonymous
05/20/2016 19:30
Subject: Re:If you want to be in your child's memory tomorrow, BE IN THEIR LIFE TODAY!
wowAnonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:The subject line sounds like a bad mother's day hallmark card.
Uh that would be a weird preachy offensive hallmark card.
Anonymous
05/20/2016 08:14
Subject: Re:If you want to be in your child's memory tomorrow, BE IN THEIR LIFE TODAY!
Anonymous wrote:The subject line sounds like a bad mother's day hallmark card.
Uh that would be a weird preachy offensive hallmark card.
Anonymous
05/19/2016 18:01
Subject: If you want to be in your child's memory tomorrow, BE IN THEIR LIFE TODAY!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Buying toys, and allowing a child to get away with anything in order for them to show you affection will only work for very little time. Trying to find an issue with everything that your nanny do because of your insecurities is only hurting you more. You can not get upset because your child follows everyone else's directions but yours. These children aren't research. Spend time with your child please!
Do you feel better? Maybe a walk will help?
NP. Guilty?
Guilty? Of what?
Anonymous
05/19/2016 16:56
Subject: Re:If you want to be in your child's memory tomorrow, BE IN THEIR LIFE TODAY!
The subject line sounds like a bad mother's day hallmark card.
Anonymous
05/19/2016 16:25
Subject: If you want to be in your child's memory tomorrow, BE IN THEIR LIFE TODAY!
Anonymous wrote:Wake up and smell the coffee!!! You are back!
Anonymous
05/18/2016 19:27
Subject: If you want to be in your child's memory tomorrow, BE IN THEIR LIFE TODAY!
maybe you're a mom who feels guilty lol HAHA!Anonymous wrote:It's Preacher Nanny!
Anonymous
05/18/2016 04:47
Subject: If you want to be in your child's memory tomorrow, BE IN THEIR LIFE TODAY!
It's Preacher Nanny!
Anonymous
05/17/2016 13:41
Subject: If you want to be in your child's memory tomorrow, BE IN THEIR LIFE TODAY!
Wake up and smell the coffee!!! You are back!!
Anonymous
05/17/2016 13:35
Subject: If you want to be in your child's memory tomorrow, BE IN THEIR LIFE TODAY!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Buying toys, and allowing a child to get away with anything in order for them to show you affection will only work for very little time. Trying to find an issue with everything that your nanny do because of your insecurities is only hurting you more. You can not get upset because your child follows everyone else's directions but yours. These children aren't research. Spend time with your child please!
Do you feel better? Maybe a walk will help?
NP. Guilty?
Anonymous
05/17/2016 13:18
Subject: If you want to be in your child's memory tomorrow, BE IN THEIR LIFE TODAY!
Anonymous wrote:Buying toys, and allowing a child to get away with anything in order for them to show you affection will only work for very little time. Trying to find an issue with everything that your nanny do because of your insecurities is only hurting you more. You can not get upset because your child follows everyone else's directions but yours. These children aren't research. Spend time with your child please!
Do you feel better? Maybe a walk will help?
Anonymous
05/17/2016 13:11
Subject: If you want to be in your child's memory tomorrow, BE IN THEIR LIFE TODAY!
Buying toys, and allowing a child to get away with anything in order for them to show you affection will only work for very little time. Trying to find an issue with everything that your nanny do because of your insecurities is only hurting you more. You can not get upset because your child follows everyone else's directions but yours. These children aren't research. Spend time with your child please!