MB here - I just went through a search and found 3 candidates who would all have been great for our family. I was having a very hard time deciding between them and then one who I think would have been my second choice called to let me know that the hours (until 6:30pm) weren't a perfect fit for what she was looking for so she would have to pass. It was a relief not to have to reject someone who seems to be a fantastic nanny.

Anonymous wrote:It's hard. I hate applying as an employee.
But as an employer you get rejections too.
I had this one candidate say no just 3 days after she was selling her skills to me really hard, so eager for the job. When I told her yes we like her but just to be safe asked to do a paid working day trial, she went silent, didn't return my calls. Then days later she told me the she applied to a better paying job the day after she interviwed with me and that that employer was about to offer her the job at a higher rate. I couldn't match that other offer. I was so excited about her then got rejected. I felt disappointed and even kinda bitter.

Searching for a nanny has been like online dating. The ones with great profiles aren't interested in you, and the ones pursuing me I don't want. You just need one match, one job, but it's a painful process.

Nanny here. The one who said job hunting is the pits. I never thought about it from the potential employers point of view. I am glad you shared your perspective. I guess it is hard for all concerned.

It's hard. I hate applying as an employee.
But as an employer you get rejections too.
I had this one candidate say no just 3 days after she was selling her skills to me really hard, so eager for the job. When I told her yes we like her but just to be safe asked to do a paid working day trial, she went silent, didn't return my calls. Then days later she told me the she applied to a better paying job the day after she interviwed with me and that that employer was about to offer her the job at a higher rate. I couldn't match that other offer. I was so excited about her then got rejected. I felt disappointed and even kinda bitter.

Searching for a nanny has been like online dating. The ones with great profiles aren't interested in you, and the ones pursuing me I don't want. You just need one match, one job, but it's a painful process.

Oh, job hunting is the pits, isn't it? It's like you put on your best outfit, and your shiniest happy face, then go knock on doors and say, "Hello, please reject me!"

Just remember, you only need one family to not reject you. Eventually you will find that one family and then everyone will live happily ever after.

Yes I have absolutely been to interviews where I thought I had really nailed it.

The chemistry was excellent and it seemed the prospective family and I were on the same page about parenting philosophy, pay, etc.

Then I get the dreaded email telling me they thank me for taking time to meet them, but they have decided to go with another candidate.
However if things do not work out with her, they will contact me so they are keeping my info.

Or I never hear back and contact them to see if they had made a decision yet only to find out they did, but wished me luck in my search and that I seemed like a good nanny.

I'm sure all nannies have felt discouraged at one time or another.

But keep forging ahead....Remember that there is a perfect family out there and one reason they are perfect is that they recognize what an awesome nanny you are.

Cast your net far and wide. There's someone out there...every pot has its lid. Join nextdoor, post on craigslist, get recommendations from people you know etc.

OP: I can empathize so much right now! Although, some of it's my own fault, since I turned down three job offers(great families;
not the right fit). I've been seriously bummed out that I will be corresponding with potential families and they just disappear.

I had two families I was corresponding with whose positions sounded like a great fit for me. One stopped responding all together and and the other only responded a week later, after I reached out.

I completely understand these families are super busy trying to find the right fit, I just wish the ones I was actively corresponding with would let me know they were no longer interested. I'm moving from MA to CT, so that's part of the reason, I think? I'm not sure!

Anyway, I know it's frustrating, so best of luck to you OP!

I applied to a job that sounded like a good fit ( though they didn't elaborate on what they wanted). It been two weeks and I haven't heard anything. I saw they reached out to parent referrals on the site. I get the hint that they are not interested but it just sucks. I'm starting to ask what's wrong with me that I can't snag a good family or even get them interested in me. I'm sure other nannies have been in my place. It's just not fun.