Anonymous wrote:Say you try out a new restaurant. You eat a meal there. You decide you didn't like the food served there and you will never go back again. However, the waitress hands you the bill for the meal you just consumed. Would you say, "Well gosh we didn't like the food so we feel like we shouldn't have to pay for our meal"?

Say you meet a chef and offer to let him come do a cooking interview, he decides he doesn't like you r restaurant and doesn't want a job, do you pay him? no

Say you try out a new restaurant. You eat a meal there. You decide you didn't like the food served there and you will never go back again. However, the waitress hands you the bill for the meal you just consumed. Would you say, "Well gosh we didn't like the food so we feel like we shouldn't have to pay for our meal"?

Are you kidding? Of course you have to pay her for hours worked. How ridiculous of you.

How odd that someone could spend the day with OP amd decide never to do so again.

/sarcasm/

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Anonymous wrote:If they were only shadow days, and before her start date, I don't see that she did any "work". She just followed you around in preparation for her to work.

Don't pay her anything.

OP here. She did work. I showed her around and how he naps but then she took over with feedings, putting him down for naps, cleaning his bottles, etc.

Yes, you have to pay her. Not to mention that it just isn't worth the arguing with her over $80.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If they were only shadow days, and before her start date, I don't see that she did any "work". She just followed you around in preparation for her to work.

Don't pay her anything.

OP here. She did work. I showed her around and how he naps but then she took over with feedings, putting him down for naps, cleaning his bottles, etc.

Then you need to pay her

When I do "trials" for over an hour, I get paid immediately just in case either one of us decides it's not a good fit.

This is what you do. Why not?

Anonymous wrote:If they were only shadow days, and before her start date, I don't see that she did any "work". She just followed you around in preparation for her to work.

Don't pay her anything.

OP here. She did work. I showed her around and how he naps but then she took over with feedings, putting him down for naps, cleaning his bottles, etc.

I guess technically you have to pay her. But that takes balls to ask you for payment.

I am a doctor, and with my work I usually have a 1/2 day or so when I start a new job that I don't do any work at all. I just get a computer login, figure out how the system works, learn how to do my part of the billing, create note templates, maybe go a meeting, etc. I always get paid for that time. However, if I just did that, then quit later that day, I would not expect to get paid. If I did, I would consider it a pleasant surprise. I certainly wouldn't call and ask for my payment for those hours.

If they were only shadow days, and before her start date, I don't see that she did any "work". She just followed you around in preparation for her to work.

Don't pay her anything.

She didn't quit suddenly, she agreed to shadow for a day and - quite responsibly - alerted you to the fact that she wasn't a good fit. You need to pay her the agreed upon rate for the hours she worked (obviously? she didn't work that day for free.) and no more.

MB here. You should pay her the negotiated fee for the time she worked. There is never a guarantee that a trial nanny (shadow) will work out so you need backup care lined up.

Of course you still have to pay her. She worked that day. Sorry she quit last minute, without proper notice. But yes you need to pay her for the hours she worked

So, based on the tone of other threads, I think it is a matter of seconds before you get a ton of people saying "of course you terrible cheap person, you have to pay her!" but allow me to jump in first and say, if you do pay her--no way IN HELL do you pay her the full negotiated rate for her hourly. For shadowing she should make no more than minimum wage rates. If you do decide to pay at all (which I may or may not depending on how much work she actually did)

We hired a nanny that sound awesome. She did a shadows day the day before her start date. That night she told us she didn't think we were the right fit and quit. We had to pay a hefty fee for a temp nanny the next day. I got a text from the former nanny asking when she will have her pay ($80). We don't feel we should have to pay her since she quit last minute and we had to pay a large fee for a temp. She said she has to be paid for all hours worked. Do I really have to still pay her?