Anonymous
Post 04/16/2016 19:56     Subject: Vent: I love our nanny but sometimes she drives me crazy!
MB here. The pans and the clothes are annoying but the door thing must simply be fixed. Bother her *every* time about it. Develop a system with her for checking. And I think the PPs point about calling tv police might scare her into paying more attention.
I am not crazy - I've let lots of things go with nannies,'even laziness about things. But safety is just not ok. Good luck!
Anonymous
Post 04/16/2016 17:22     Subject: Vent: I love our nanny but sometimes she drives me crazy!
Anonymous wrote:I'm not here asking for advice because there really is no solution but I just need to vent for a few minutes to people who might understand. She's amazing with the children. They love her and she loves them like I do and I love her for that. She has so much energy and when it comes to her interaction with the children she's the best we could have hoped for. She routinely goes above and beyond what she needs to do for us and likewise we make sure she knows how much we appreciate her. BUT, her lack of attention to detail is driving me crazy. I have to spend an hour every week reorganizing the children's drawers and hunting down clothes that were put anywhere but where they were supposed to be. This is even after we talked about trying to keep their clothes organized and ways to make it easier for her. She just doesn't pay attention. She ruined an entire set of our pots and pans because she kept using metal and scraping them. This is after I told her many many times she needed to use rubber or plastic. I can't even count how many times I've come home to find the front door wide open because she forgets to lock it and it blows open and I came home last week to find her microwaving food in a plastic container that I've told her many times isn't microwave safe.

Despite all this we love her and intend to keep her for a very long time. I've said everything there is to say to her to try to get her to remember and pay more attention to things and I don't think there's anything left to say. Just needed to vent a bit.




I my case the problem is the parents ,they massy every time I am sick of this....
Anonymous
Post 04/15/2016 18:16     Subject: Re:Vent: I love our nanny but sometimes she drives me crazy!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:For starters, I would remove or hide the metal utensils she is using on your pots and pans and also the plastic that isn't microwave safe. I agree that the front door open should not be overlooked.


How do you hide all the big spoons in the house?


I am 5'2". My employers are 5'8" and 5'9". They could easily put the big spoons up on a top shelf of a high cupboard if I were the nanny being discussed in this thread.
Anonymous
Post 04/15/2016 17:30     Subject: Vent: I love our nanny but sometimes she drives me crazy!
These are very legitimate concerns OP.

While she sounds great on so many levels, her lack of attention to detail may unfortunately put your children's safety in immediate danger.

I couldn't overlook any of this stuff.
Since you already discussed all of this with her to no avail, for the future welfare of your kids, you need to seriously decide if you will ever be 100% secure knowing your little ones are in the care of someone who cannot even remember to lock a door.
Anonymous
Post 04/15/2016 11:48     Subject: Vent: I love our nanny but sometimes she drives me crazy!
Anonymous wrote:It sounds like she's young and hasn't been taught these things. I would recommend that you keep mentioning these things to her as they come up. Maybe something will stick. Also, I once didn't shut my door all they way, it didn't latch and came home to my front door wide open. Thankfully DH was with me, otherwise I would have been scared to walk in. Wind blew the unlocked back door open once as well. The dog enjoyed being able to hang out outside!


I used to live next door to a guy retired from the FBI. He said when you approach home and your front door is open, you should turn and walk away. NEVER go in. Police will not be angry at you to find out wind blew a door open. They just don't want you to get assaulted because you accidentally confronted robbers while they were in the middle of robbing you.
Anonymous
Post 04/15/2016 09:38     Subject: Re:Vent: I love our nanny but sometimes she drives me crazy!
Anonymous wrote:For starters, I would remove or hide the metal utensils she is using on your pots and pans and also the plastic that isn't microwave safe. I agree that the front door open should not be overlooked.


How do you hide all the big spoons in the house?
Anonymous
Post 04/15/2016 08:08     Subject: Re:Vent: I love our nanny but sometimes she drives me crazy!
For starters, I would remove or hide the metal utensils she is using on your pots and pans and also the plastic that isn't microwave safe. I agree that the front door open should not be overlooked.
Anonymous
Post 04/14/2016 23:34     Subject: Vent: I love our nanny but sometimes she drives me crazy!
It sounds like she's young and hasn't been taught these things. I would recommend that you keep mentioning these things to her as they come up. Maybe something will stick. Also, I once didn't shut my door all they way, it didn't latch and came home to my front door wide open. Thankfully DH was with me, otherwise I would have been scared to walk in. Wind blew the unlocked back door open once as well. The dog enjoyed being able to hang out outside!
Anonymous
Post 04/14/2016 22:00     Subject: Vent: I love our nanny but sometimes she drives me crazy!
Is it possible that there is too much on her plate? I had a job where I was a bit like this, but I have toddler twins, a newborn, and was doing lots of cooking, cleaning (mom left all dishes for my watch) and laundry (parents too). The mom was also a packrat and had probably 3X as many clothes for each size as other families and way more toys and it was just an awful lot to keep track of. Totally possible there's no parallel but worth considering.
Anonymous
Post 04/14/2016 19:29     Subject: Re:Vent: I love our nanny but sometimes she drives me crazy!
Don't have her wash pots, then they won't be ruined (or don't have metal scrapers). Have her wash the clothes and fold them, but leave them in baskets. It won't take long for you to put them away, but you'll know where they are. Replace the plastic dishes with microwave-safe dishes.

I don't know what to tell you about the door.
Anonymous
Post 04/14/2016 18:55     Subject: Vent: I love our nanny but sometimes she drives me crazy!
These issues wouldn't fly with me. A jacket hung in the kid's closet rather than the coat closet is something I can overlook. Ruining kitchen supplies, leaving us in an unsafe position (not just unlocked door, but door wide open), and potential fire would all be dealbreakers for my husband and me.
Anonymous
Post 04/14/2016 18:39     Subject: Vent: I love our nanny but sometimes she drives me crazy!
The open door can't be overlooked. Then the plastic in the microwave. These are basic safety issues. Is she from another culture?
Anonymous
Post 04/14/2016 18:33     Subject: Vent: I love our nanny but sometimes she drives me crazy!
If she were able to change these behaviors, I think she would have by now. Accept her limitations or move on.
Anonymous
Post 04/14/2016 18:27     Subject: Vent: I love our nanny but sometimes she drives me crazy!
I'm not here asking for advice because there really is no solution but I just need to vent for a few minutes to people who might understand. She's amazing with the children. They love her and she loves them like I do and I love her for that. She has so much energy and when it comes to her interaction with the children she's the best we could have hoped for. She routinely goes above and beyond what she needs to do for us and likewise we make sure she knows how much we appreciate her. BUT, her lack of attention to detail is driving me crazy. I have to spend an hour every week reorganizing the children's drawers and hunting down clothes that were put anywhere but where they were supposed to be. This is even after we talked about trying to keep their clothes organized and ways to make it easier for her. She just doesn't pay attention. She ruined an entire set of our pots and pans because she kept using metal and scraping them. This is after I told her many many times she needed to use rubber or plastic. I can't even count how many times I've come home to find the front door wide open because she forgets to lock it and it blows open and I came home last week to find her microwaving food in a plastic container that I've told her many times isn't microwave safe.

Despite all this we love her and intend to keep her for a very long time. I've said everything there is to say to her to try to get her to remember and pay more attention to things and I don't think there's anything left to say. Just needed to vent a bit.