Anonymous
03/23/2016 11:26
Subject: Introducing child to new nanny
I have had to do this. The first day - (A few hours) we spent playing together as a group and maybe a walk or drive to the park (or walk around the block). then the second day - a meal or snack all the while showing the nanny around the kitchen and talking about DS favorite foods/pickiness.
If all is going well I will set the table and then LEAVE! Come back after 30 minutes or so.
Third tell, tell DS that I Nanny is coming over to play. Leave as soon as she gets there. Maybe come home 30 early to play together again and talk to Nanny about the day.
If all is going well I will set the table and then LEAVE! Come back after 30 minutes or so.
Third tell, tell DS that I Nanny is coming over to play. Leave as soon as she gets there. Maybe come home 30 early to play together again and talk to Nanny about the day.
Anonymous
03/22/2016 23:27
Subject: Introducing child to new nanny
Your problem is that you want to have the nanny over, and then go off and do things around the house. This is a moment when you need to get down on the floor and play, the three of you. You need to do that a couple/few times.
Anonymous
03/22/2016 20:32
Subject: Introducing child to new nanny
Anonymous wrote:Who is the adult, you or the child? "Larlo, this is your new nanny. " give a kiss and get out the door. Do not dwaddle. Just go. So he cries. When he sees that you come back everyday, he will stop crying..
Is it really necessary to be an ass? OP is just asking for advice about a new patenting situation she/he is about to encounter. Why can't you give advice without cutting people down!? Geesh!
Anonymous
03/22/2016 13:50
Subject: Introducing child to new nanny
Who is the adult, you or the child? "Larlo, this is your new nanny. " give a kiss and get out the door. Do not dwaddle. Just go. So he cries. When he sees that you come back everyday, he will stop crying..
Anonymous
03/22/2016 11:45
Subject: Introducing child to new nanny
It's no big deal if he cries at drop off. Lots of kids still do at that age. The real question is whether he continues to cry after you leave or quickly transitions into the new environment.
Anonymous
03/22/2016 10:29
Subject: Re:Introducing child to new nanny
Thanks. He's been going to daycare since 4 months old but STILL cries when I drop him off. The babysitters we've had in our home have all been the daycare teachers so he knew them all very well. With the school switch (he's leaving the daycare for a Montessori school), we needed an am/pm sitter.
Anonymous
03/21/2016 23:35
Subject: Introducing child to new nanny
Tell DC that you have a new friend coming to spend the day with you. Don't try to push him to get to know her and don't make her feel that she needs to bond with him--she won't be able to with you there and putting pressure on the situation will make it harder, not easier. Treat her as though she is your dear and trusted friend and that you want to tell her all about your son and his day. Plan to spend some time all together doing something he likes. Day 2, plan something fun for him to do with her and leave them alone. Either send them somewhere without you or you leave the house.
Anonymous
03/21/2016 22:42
Subject: Introducing child to new nanny
I would plan on shadowing them for no more than approximately 3-4 days.
Even still, it sounds like the transition will be a tough one either way.
His first few days with his brand-new nanny will be difficult, but remain consistent & eventually everything will come together.
I should know.
I once nannied a little boy of the same age who had never left his mother's side as she was a full-time SAHM.
Once she returned to work, I was to care for him.
The first few days were grueling. He would literally cry + cry the first few days. The only time he wasn't crying was when he cried himself to sleep.
Within a week things had settled down. Hopefully his new nanny is patient since one must be a trooper and committed to him.
Since your son already has experienced school, his transition should be less painful than my experience.
Hope things go smoothly!
Even still, it sounds like the transition will be a tough one either way.
His first few days with his brand-new nanny will be difficult, but remain consistent & eventually everything will come together.
I should know.
I once nannied a little boy of the same age who had never left his mother's side as she was a full-time SAHM.
Once she returned to work, I was to care for him.
The first few days were grueling. He would literally cry + cry the first few days. The only time he wasn't crying was when he cried himself to sleep.
Within a week things had settled down. Hopefully his new nanny is patient since one must be a trooper and committed to him.
Since your son already has experienced school, his transition should be less painful than my experience.
Hope things go smoothly!
Anonymous
03/21/2016 22:29
Subject: Introducing child to new nanny
The quick goodbye is the best goodbye. IME as a nanny, getting a clingy kid out the door ASAP works best. It gets them focused on something other than "there's a stranger in my house." Send them to the park or zoo or to get a treat etc.
Anonymous
03/21/2016 21:55
Subject: Introducing child to new nanny
Yes, what is his history?
Most children will only cry and cling for as long as the parents enable it. A very few are genuinely distressed for more than 5-10 minutes; in over 15 years of childcare I've met two of them, and they were both much younger than 3. Unless your son has some kind of trauma or special needs, spend an hour or two with them playing all together - show her the things he enjoys doing, walk with her to the local park, the things that will make her more successful in engaging him - and then get out of there!
Most children will only cry and cling for as long as the parents enable it. A very few are genuinely distressed for more than 5-10 minutes; in over 15 years of childcare I've met two of them, and they were both much younger than 3. Unless your son has some kind of trauma or special needs, spend an hour or two with them playing all together - show her the things he enjoys doing, walk with her to the local park, the things that will make her more successful in engaging him - and then get out of there!
Anonymous
03/21/2016 20:59
Subject: Introducing child to new nanny
What's his history with sitters?
Anonymous
03/21/2016 20:53
Subject: Introducing child to new nanny
We have a part time nanny starting with us in a few days to look after my 3 year old son before and after school. Any tips on how to get him accustomed to someone new? He is very mommy obsessed and clingy to me. I want to spend some time with the two of them before leaving them alone but I know my son will just ignore her and follow me around the house. How much time/transition did you have in this kind of situation? Thanks