Anonymous wrote:I would be very careful because a 4-year-long job is an important reference for you. I would probably try to tough it out. Are your days full? If you have time in the day that you are filling with extra stuff (not directly related to day-to-day functioning), maybe you could talk to them about cutting those hours and taking some time for yourself (take a class, go to the gym, volunteer) so that there is part of your day you enjoy.

This is really good, and smart, advice. It's only a few more months OP, and i bet the family would rather work with you to keep those months stable and easy for them. Maybe there is a compromise solution in here.

Anonymous wrote:I would be very careful because a 4-year-long job is an important reference for you. I would probably try to tough it out. Are your days full? If you have time in the day that you are filling with extra stuff (not directly related to day-to-day functioning), maybe you could talk to them about cutting those hours and taking some time for yourself (take a class, go to the gym, volunteer) so that there is part of your day you enjoy.

This is good advice.

Move on, OP.

I would be very careful because a 4-year-long job is an important reference for you. I would probably try to tough it out. Are your days full? If you have time in the day that you are filling with extra stuff (not directly related to day-to-day functioning), maybe you could talk to them about cutting those hours and taking some time for yourself (take a class, go to the gym, volunteer) so that there is part of your day you enjoy.

I don't see how some families think that just because a person enjoys caring for children, then it is a given that they must enjoy cooking/cleaning/laundry, etc. as well. This is so ignorant if you ask me.

If they need you "on standby" when their child is attending school, then you should be compensated for reserving those days/hours solely for them.

You shouldn't have to be their maid, laundress + household manager in an instant.

5-6 months is a long time to be miserable on the job OP.

I say.....Give your notice and move on.

Good luck!!

Anonymous wrote:Op, here..not sure how badly it would mess them up. They're both gone by the time it's time to take the child and aren't home in time to get him from his program.

This is their problem, not yours.

Fine a new job and specify no housework unrelated to child. Give two weeks notice and never look back.

Time to allow mommy and daddy a little time to be mommy and daddy.

Get another job.

Anonymous wrote:Op, here..not sure how badly it would mess them up. They're both gone by the time it's time to take the child and aren't home in time to get him from his program.

Me again, I also think it may upset them a lot. I keep their house running smoothly to where they don't have to do anything when they get home besides pop dinner in the over, play with their kid, and go to bed. They don't even touch dinner dishes.

Op, here..not sure how badly it would mess them up. They're both gone by the time it's time to take the child and aren't home in time to get him from his program.

They're most likely to be very angry when you give notice, so don't give them much notice, or you'll be out of work prematurely.

Not at all! In fact, they'll probably be (mostly) happy about it since it appears they're mostly keeping you on for the sake of continuity.

MB here - of course it's not wrong to leave a job that you're not happy with. It would be nice to give them as much notice as possible, and I would suggest that you have another position lined up before quitting but there's nothing that says that you have to stay until the child goes to school.

There's nothing wrong with deciding a situation isn't working for you, finding a new job, giving proper notice at the old one, and moving on.

I've been with the same family since the child was a baby (4 years), my job will be ending once the child goes back to school in the Fall but I'm seriously not happy at work anymore. My job has transitioned from a full time nanny into a full time maid since the child has been placed in a full day program. I take the child to the program in the morning and don't seem him again until the late afternoon. While he is gone, I cook dinner, laundry, clean, run errands, and try to do anything and everything to keep myself busy. The pay is great but I'm not happy. I have no desire to come to work and clean and be a housekeeper. I thought that I would be able to troop through it for the last year but I can't. Is it wrong of me to put a notice in before my time is up? The family that I work for is great but also has downfalls which make the situation worse.