I hate this too! With all the texting etc they still want to do little chit chats. I want to stop working on time! 5 pm mean 5 pm not 5.20 pm!

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Anonymous wrote:Amen! Just put your bag on your shoulder, she will get the hint. Also have your stuff ready by the door.

If op does this her mb will think she hates her kids and job

Did you read her post? Its obvious she does.

She wants to go home on time! A nanny can love your kids to death, but at the end of what for many of us is a 12 hour day, she rightfully wants to leave, not chat another 20 minutes while your kids behave like helions trying to get your attention.

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Anonymous wrote:You can't act like you have somewhere to rush off to each day, nor should you have to. MBs and DBs should respect the time THEY designated as the end time. This is not about occasionally being 5 minutes late. This is about the daily 10-20 minute conversations that occur unpaid and unrecognized. And when something happens multiple times each week, it is no longer occasional!

this is my issue. I don't want to be dishonest and pretend Im going somewhere. I shouldn't have to do that at all. I just need to leave even if its because I like walking into my own home no later than 5:45 so i can walk my dog before sundown. On top of this Ive mentioned my traffic issue with her more than once. She doesn't drive but 4 miles to work and a straight shot. I however have to get on an interstate.

yesterday we needed to chat about one of my charges appointments so I notice she came home 15 minutes early. I loved the consideration but with him pulling on her and interrupting etc it was still 5:10 by the time I got in my car. Which in turn gives all other drivers that get off at 5 a 10 minute leg up and the streets get clogged. Annoying

Im just going to have my things close to the door and after i brief her immediately put my bag on and say "ok have a great night!" We are still getting to know one another so I think that is the biggest reason for her wanting to converse with me so much. But she needs to do like pp said and have lunch with me occasionally. I had one mb that took me to lunch once a month to a restaurant of my choosing so that we could talk etc. And she worked from home. I know this isn't logical for everyone and I honestly don't want to go out to lunch but it seems to be a need of hers

mainly i posted to see if other nannies have this going on or if its something about me that says "talk to me". Im not a small talk person as is. And i wanted other mbs to be aware because you could lose a good nanny over something like this if its consistent

So why don't you just stay 25-30 minutes more so you can leave at 5:30 when the streets are clear?

Why should she have to do that, when she gets paid to leave at a time that otherwise would work out fine, that is if she was ever able to leave then.

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Anonymous wrote:You can't act like you have somewhere to rush off to each day, nor should you have to. MBs and DBs should respect the time THEY designated as the end time. This is not about occasionally being 5 minutes late. This is about the daily 10-20 minute conversations that occur unpaid and unrecognized. And when something happens multiple times each week, it is no longer occasional!

this is my issue. I don't want to be dishonest and pretend Im going somewhere. I shouldn't have to do that at all. I just need to leave even if its because I like walking into my own home no later than 5:45 so i can walk my dog before sundown. On top of this Ive mentioned my traffic issue with her more than once. She doesn't drive but 4 miles to work and a straight shot. I however have to get on an interstate.

yesterday we needed to chat about one of my charges appointments so I notice she came home 15 minutes early. I loved the consideration but with him pulling on her and interrupting etc it was still 5:10 by the time I got in my car. Which in turn gives all other drivers that get off at 5 a 10 minute leg up and the streets get clogged. Annoying

Im just going to have my things close to the door and after i brief her immediately put my bag on and say "ok have a great night!" We are still getting to know one another so I think that is the biggest reason for her wanting to converse with me so much. But she needs to do like pp said and have lunch with me occasionally. I had one mb that took me to lunch once a month to a restaurant of my choosing so that we could talk etc. And she worked from home. I know this isn't logical for everyone and I honestly don't want to go out to lunch but it seems to be a need of hers

mainly i posted to see if other nannies have this going on or if its something about me that says "talk to me". Im not a small talk person as is. And i wanted other mbs to be aware because you could lose a good nanny over something like this if its consistent

So why don't you just stay 25-30 minutes more so you can leave at 5:30 when the streets are clear?

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Anonymous wrote:Amen! Just put your bag on your shoulder, she will get the hint. Also have your stuff ready by the door.

If op does this her mb will think she hates her kids and job

Did you read her post? Its obvious she does.

Anonymous wrote:You can't act like you have somewhere to rush off to each day, nor should you have to. MBs and DBs should respect the time THEY designated as the end time. This is not about occasionally being 5 minutes late. This is about the daily 10-20 minute conversations that occur unpaid and unrecognized. And when something happens multiple times each week, it is no longer occasional!

this is my issue. I don't want to be dishonest and pretend Im going somewhere. I shouldn't have to do that at all. I just need to leave even if its because I like walking into my own home no later than 5:45 so i can walk my dog before sundown. On top of this Ive mentioned my traffic issue with her more than once. She doesn't drive but 4 miles to work and a straight shot. I however have to get on an interstate.

yesterday we needed to chat about one of my charges appointments so I notice she came home 15 minutes early. I loved the consideration but with him pulling on her and interrupting etc it was still 5:10 by the time I got in my car. Which in turn gives all other drivers that get off at 5 a 10 minute leg up and the streets get clogged. Annoying

Im just going to have my things close to the door and after i brief her immediately put my bag on and say "ok have a great night!" We are still getting to know one another so I think that is the biggest reason for her wanting to converse with me so much. But she needs to do like pp said and have lunch with me occasionally. I had one mb that took me to lunch once a month to a restaurant of my choosing so that we could talk etc. And she worked from home. I know this isn't logical for everyone and I honestly don't want to go out to lunch but it seems to be a need of hers

mainly i posted to see if other nannies have this going on or if its something about me that says "talk to me". Im not a small talk person as is. And i wanted other mbs to be aware because you could lose a good nanny over something like this if its consistent

You can't act like you have somewhere to rush off to each day, nor should you have to. MBs and DBs should respect the time THEY designated as the end time. This is not about occasionally being 5 minutes late. This is about the daily 10-20 minute conversations that occur unpaid and unrecognized. And when something happens multiple times each week, it is no longer occasional!

The reason that men do not engage in conversation is that men typically are not so big on conversation especially after a long hard daily at work.

Women not so much.

My suggestion would be to act as if you have somewhere to be soon.

Only a truly selfish and inconsiderable person would keep you knowing this.

Anonymous wrote:This is why I have lunch with my nanny once a week. Then we can talk for an hour without rushing.

I love when that's possible. Not all MBs or DBs can do that, unfortunately. And not all of them want to come eat at home while the nanny does other things, eats and talks.

This is why I have lunch with my nanny once a week. Then we can talk for an hour without rushing.

Anonymous wrote:I started putting a section in my contract right after hours and payment schedule, stating that "my end time is defined at the time at which I am free to leave, not the time at which a parent arrives. I am happy to give updates or wait for you to settle in, but all of these things should occur prior to the designated end time." When this begins to happen, as it always does, I can easily just point to this section of the contract.

this sounds like a great idea! otherwise parents that do this to nannies need to make the end time :15 after or whatever and pay the extra $ after it adds up by friday. ridiculous. as if their bosses call them into their offices to chat for 10 minutes more everyday as they leave.

I started putting a section in my contract right after hours and payment schedule, stating that "my end time is defined at the time at which I am free to leave, not the time at which a parent arrives. I am happy to give updates or wait for you to settle in, but all of these things should occur prior to the designated end time." When this begins to happen, as it always does, I can easily just point to this section of the contract.

Anonymous wrote:Amen! Just put your bag on your shoulder, she will get the hint. Also have your stuff ready by the door.

If op does this her mb will think she hates her kids and job

Amen! Just put your bag on your shoulder, she will get the hint. Also have your stuff ready by the door.

We have to go home too. Nannies have lives too. We need to run errands too. We hate traffic too. Talking to nannies for 5 minutes, ok. But stretching to 10-20 minutes convos, "showing me something" or asking if you can change really quick is not ok! UGH my mb and I text throughout the day AND I leave a daily report that is extremely and probably too detailed. Yet everyday she seems to think I want to keep chatting and hear about her day or talk in depth about my charge's days. I DONT. If I was hired to get off of work at 5 I need to be headed out by 5:05 unless there is a reason you're late. I don't get the inconsideration or ignorance about this. I have had 3 women that do this to me and its rude. The worst was the one that would come in and ignore me trying to fill her in on our day so she could get down on her kids levels and ask them questions she knew darn well they wouldn't even answer accurately. TALK TO ME. I can tell what REALLY happened at school because we know he is just going to fib or say he doesn't know! Im the adult and need to go home. I nipped that in the bud by picking up my keys and putting my shoes and she began to chase after me to talk more. Nope. Now I have one that definitely gives me her attention and listens but tries to stretch out the convo. Thank God sometimes her husband comes home at the same time and distracts her so I can hurry and say bye. Granted it usually takes me 20 minutes or so to get home from this side of town, but hello! 5 o'clock traffic means 40 at least and in bad weather nearly an hour if I don't hurry and beat all I can.

I notice dads dont do this. They barely want to hear anything. I wish there was some in between. Is this just me or do other nannies deal with this a lot also?