Is MB frazzled recently? Maybe she just didn't stop for a second to think everything through, including the terms of your contract and what this sort of trip will be like for you.

OP here. I haven't had a chance to email Mb, but will let you know what happens. My contract states that I have 10 days of vacation and can use it as I see fit.
I've always broken it up into 2 weeklong vacations (1 to my home state and 1 to DH's home state). Like I said before, I am absolutely flabbergasted by this. My bosses have always been extremely fair and generous in terms of pay and flexibility. I really don't think she's being malicious. I think she doesn't know what the customary thing to do is.
She sees it as a fun trip to the beach for me. I will more than likely be working more than 25 hours. Between, the rehearsal dinner, wedding events and the wedding itself (MB and DB are in the wedding), I think I will easily work 25 hours. This doesn't count beach trips (where they'll probably be drinking and I'll be charged with the children's care) and dinners out by themselves, etc.- I think I'm going to be working significantly more than 25.
I really don't mind sharing a room with my charge, but only if I'm being paid my weekly salary. I'll keep you all posted.
Thanks everyone!

This is absolutely hilarious. Please follow up with us OP! I am dying to hear what she says.

Explain nothing. Tell her that you cannot go. Look for a new job and leave this cheap cretin ASAP!

Anonymous wrote:I would say what you said here: that there has been a misunderstanding. You agreed to go for work, not as a vacation for you, and that you'll have to bow out of the trip.

I suspect once she realizes she'll have to pay you on top of everything else once you're not going, she'll change her tune.

MB here and I totally agree w/ the bolded wording. Your employers are nuts, so I don't envy you having to deal with this. But I think that language above is a gracious way to approach it, and it gives them the out of "a misunderstanding" which may allow your working relationship to be decent.

They should be ashamed of themselves.

No way.

Dear MB,

Thank you for your invitation to allow me to join your family. Unfortunately, I will have to decline. I am unable to waive my weekly salary due to your vacation when I am available to work (or per our contract, I am to be paid full salary when you are on vacation). At this time, it is not in my budget to share the cost of the vacation home with your family nor pay for any of the additional costs associated with the trip.

Have a wonderful time. Please let me know what I can do to help you in terms of the kids needs in preparing for your trip.

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Anonymous wrote:Explain to her that for you this is work not a vacation. You expect to be paid in full and to have your housing, food, transportation and entertainment expenses covered while working. You are required to be there for your job and won't pay for the house.

entertainment?

Yes what if the nanny is required to take the children to the movies, an amusement park or an aquarium. The nanny should not have to pay for her ticket while working.

Ah okay. I was thinking you meant for off duty jaunts, probably because that was so obviously not "entertainment" for a nanny in my mind, but now that I know that MBs like this are out there...

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Anonymous wrote:Explain to her that for you this is work not a vacation. You expect to be paid in full and to have your housing, food, transportation and entertainment expenses covered while working. You are required to be there for your job and won't pay for the house.

entertainment?

Yes what if the nanny is required to take the children to the movies, an amusement park or an aquarium. The nanny should not have to pay for her ticket while working.

Anonymous wrote:I would say what you said here: that there has been a misunderstanding. You agreed to go for work, not as a vacation for you, and that you'll have to bow out of the trip.

I suspect once she realizes she'll have to pay you on top of everything else once you're not going, she'll change her tune.

+1

Offering to bow out now that you realize the misunderstanding will go over much better than trying to instruct her on what she owes you in exchange for your attendance. Just be gracious but clear that this isn't a vacation for you - it's on your boss to offer a package that makes it worth your while to come, since she's the one who wants you there.

btw - what does your contract say about vacation? Is it that you pick one week and they pick one? If you opt out of this trip, they may make this their "own pick" week - so just be ready for that outcome.

Anonymous wrote:I would say what you said here: that there has been a misunderstanding. You agreed to go for work, not as a vacation for you, and that you'll have to bow out of the trip.

I suspect once she realizes she'll have to pay you on top of everything else once you're not going, she'll change her tune.

Ah great answer because it gets to the heart of where OP's MB has gone off the rails. Since she thinks OP thinks it's a great vacation she wants to go on for her own sake, just saying thanks but no thanks works well.

I would say what you said here: that there has been a misunderstanding. You agreed to go for work, not as a vacation for you, and that you'll have to bow out of the trip.

I suspect once she realizes she'll have to pay you on top of everything else once you're not going, she'll change her tune.

Anonymous wrote:Explain to her that for you this is work not a vacation. You expect to be paid in full and to have your housing, food, transportation and entertainment expenses covered while working. You are required to be there for your job and won't pay for the house.

entertainment?

Explain to her that for you this is work not a vacation. You expect to be paid in full and to have your housing, food, transportation and entertainment expenses covered while working. You are required to be there for your job and won't pay for the house.

Yikes. Her expectations are so far from reality, building her a bridge is going to be difficult.

I would start with, I guess, explaining industry practice (nannies get private accommodations paid along with food and full pay) and then offer any concession you're willing to make (are you willing to take any reduction in pay for a reduction in hours?) and then at the end say if this doesn't work for them you can try to help her find vacation help.

My MB asked me to accompany them to the beach next August to help with my 2 charges (will be 1 and 4 next summer).
While thinking about it, I thought that I would only expect my regular pay, as I've been with them for 3 years and we have a great relationship.
My NF is renting a house on the beach with MB's parents, her 2 siblings and their girlfriends.
MB emailed me this morning about the trip. She said that since I would only be working about 25 hours (I normally work 45), she would expect to wave my weekly salary and only charge me $150 for my portion of the house rental!?!?
I am absolutely shocked. I don't even want to go on this stupid trip, but agreed to it because I like to be flexible to them.
I don't even know how to respond to this nonsense. I won't even have my own room. I'll be sharing with my 4 yo charge.
How the hell do I respond to her? I have guaranteed hours, BTW.