Anonymous wrote:Only you know what would work best for your family. If aunts, uncles, and grandparents are not appropriate for whatever reason, of course you're going to want to choose someone who already knows them well and would be able to provide a loving home and a secure lifestyle.

Many people don't have family who are still alive to take their kids. Additionally, many people are waiting til 30s or early 40s to have kids, so their parents are less physically and emotionally able to take care of their kids. Aunts and uncles usually either already have their own children (sometimes more children than they should have), or they don't want kids. Frequently a caregiver who knows the kids better than extended relatives would be a better choice for the children; whether family would fight for the kids is another issue altogether.

Anonymous wrote:If the Nanny/Family dynamic is more laid back vs. professional, then I see no issue in discussing this further.

I mean, seriously...Who loves your child as much as you?? Your nanny of course.

Sounds like you all are a super match.

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Only you know what would work best for your family. If aunts, uncles, and grandparents are not appropriate for whatever reason, of course you're going to want to choose someone who already knows them well and would be able to provide a loving home and a secure lifestyle.

If the Nanny/Family dynamic is more laid back vs. professional, then I see no issue in discussing this further.

I mean, seriously...Who loves your child as much as you?? Your nanny of course.

Sounds like you all are a super match.

It would depend on your family, financial and work/social situation. Every time my MB/DB is traveling for a week or more, I'm given temporary guardianship, that way I can handle an emergency without needing to wait for their authorization. But there's a huge difference between that and permanent guardianship due to your demise. I would suggest talking to a lawyer about the ramifications, and if you seriously consider it, set up a trust for each child's college education, and a separate trust for the children's care.

Our nanny jokingly said if we ever die we'll leave you our kids! Without going into it. For the record-It was a totally appropriate comment for the discussion we were having and really funny.

Later that night my DH mentioned leaving our kids to our nanny and her husband if we die. On a serious note. I then started thinking maybe not such a crazy idea. Either way. For us to be her kids guardian and her ours.