Anonymous wrote:As much as a nanny tries to look for parents who match her style, it's impossible to find a perfect match. One of the many reasons that I don't like working with infants under 6 months (FTPs) is that the parents don't yet know what discipline style or parenting style they will use once the child is mobile. So many parents think they want to do one thing, then they do the complete opposite later. I would much rather work with a family who has been consistent for the last few years or who knows that I'm being hired to deal with a specific issue.

Agree it's part of the reason I limit myself to the birth to 1 year crowd, after a year things can get dicey, only exceptions I make are for experienced parents who for the most part know their style.

OP here

Thank you everyone. I'm contacting the agencies to let them know my availability, that I'm ready to start interviewing. It was a tough day yesterday and I can already see the bigger issues that will arise down the road, and I don't feel it's fair to anyone (child, parents, or myself) to continue.

As much as a nanny tries to look for parents who match her style, it's impossible to find a perfect match. One of the many reasons that I don't like working with infants under 6 months (FTPs) is that the parents don't yet know what discipline style or parenting style they will use once the child is mobile. So many parents think they want to do one thing, then they do the complete opposite later. I would much rather work with a family who has been consistent for the last few years or who knows that I'm being hired to deal with a specific issue.

Anonymous wrote:Can't you just tell the agency you'll be available starting Jan 15th and would like to begin interviewing now?

Give the Brandon Walsh reasoning: I would never want to leave you high and dry, so I'm sure you understand that I can't leave my current employers high and dry.

If you are working with an agency they should understand and encourage this and only share your profile with families looking for care after the start of the year.
If you are searching on you own look for families within your time frame.
BTW I've BTDT with not seeing eye to eye with parents in never ends well you are wise to move on now, as things will get worse as child ages, and learns to manipulate parents against you.

Good luck!

Can't you just tell the agency you'll be available starting Jan 15th and would like to begin interviewing now?

Give the Brandon Walsh reasoning: I would never want to leave you high and dry, so I'm sure you understand that I can't leave my current employers high and dry.

So maybe a bit more stressed right now.

I'm a nanny and as my nk gets older (I started when he was 6 weeks old & he is now 3), I see things both his parents and I disagree on. They are his parents and I would never go against their wishes. I have had conversations on several occasions, but it always ends in well we are the parents. I try to lay everything out as a person who has cared for children for over 25 yrs, been there done that, but in a sense that I am just "guiding" them not "telling" them how to parent.

I think the time has come that I need to start looking for a new position. I care for them all deeply, but feel I'm not giving my best because of the things both parents and I disagree on.

I want to start looking now and give a months notice, but don't want the agencies to not place me because I can't start a new job asap.
Has anyone worked with an agency, when you were still employed? Did you give enough notice?

Thanks