How far exactly are you going to be re-locating? And also, would her husband be on board w/this idea?

This would make your question a bit easier to answer. Thx.

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Anonymous wrote:OP:

We are moving from DC area to San Fran.

We would guaranteed at least another 5 years with us.

I have no idea how to get her husband a job except be patient and give them time.

I'd pay for the move and any time it took for them to transition or find a job.

Do I need to pay for a house or apartment on top of a salary? What percent would be a good incentive? Do I pay for visits to her husband if she decides to come alone for a few months?

wow just wow really !!! You didn't have a better thing to do and your precious life and your sons? Just wow good to know !

Sorry I don't understand.

Anonymous wrote:OP:

We are moving from DC area to San Fran.

We would guaranteed at least another 5 years with us.

I have no idea how to get her husband a job except be patient and give them time.

I'd pay for the move and any time it took for them to transition or find a job.

Do I need to pay for a house or apartment on top of a salary? What percent would be a good incentive? Do I pay for visits to her husband if she decides to come alone for a few months?

wow just wow really !!! You didn't have a better thing to do and your precious life and your sons? Just wow good to know !

OP:

We are moving from DC area to San Fran.

We would guaranteed at least another 5 years with us.

I have no idea how to get her husband a job except be patient and give them time.

I'd pay for the move and any time it took for them to transition or find a job.

Do I need to pay for a house or apartment on top of a salary? What percent would be a good incentive? Do I pay for visits to her husband if she decides to come alone for a few months?

Where are you moving? What is his field? Will he realistically be able to find work in the new location?
Also, what is the nanny market in the new location? If you don't need her anymore, will she be able to find another, good nanny job?

It's very risky and I would bring it up far in advanced to they can really look into it.

I think you just tell her that you know they have considered moving and that you would gladly continue to employ her there if moving works for them. I definitely think you could offer her some substantial overtime or bonus time to come out with you for a month to help ease transition, but I can't imagine just ditching my husband for several months. Even a month would be long (but doable).

For 55k? Yeah no. I would not move with you, sorry. You sound pretty self absorbed.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The package would have to be pretty extraordinary, I think, unless you are moving somewhere they have thought about moving, too.

You would have to help the husband find a job, and/or cover his salary for some time to make it less of a gamble for them.

I disagree with this. sure, it would be nice if you helped him find a job but I do not think that is necessarily your responsibility. when people are asked to move for work it isn't their employer's responsibility to find a job for the spouse as well. I do think you should give her a bonus and a raise though

People only agree to relocate for a job if it's a better opportunity, a better place to live for their family, or will allow them to live better than they do now. In this case, it's the same job, and they will lose most of their family income. Not to mention that nannying is not a permanent thing. How many years after the move could you guarantee her employment?

OP, if she says they will only move if her husband finds a job, how long are you willing to wait before you pull the plug? I think you can float the idea to her, but I can't imagine it would be attractive.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The package would have to be pretty extraordinary, I think, unless you are moving somewhere they have thought about moving, too.

You would have to help the husband find a job, and/or cover his salary for some time to make it less of a gamble for them.

I disagree with this. sure, it would be nice if you helped him find a job but I do not think that is necessarily your responsibility. when people are asked to move for work it isn't their employer's responsibility to find a job for the spouse as well. I do think you should give her a bonus and a raise though

If he'll risk being unemployed, it'd be stupid to give up what he has here.

Anonymous wrote:The package would have to be pretty extraordinary, I think, unless you are moving somewhere they have thought about moving, too.

You would have to help the husband find a job, and/or cover his salary for some time to make it less of a gamble for them.

I disagree with this. sure, it would be nice if you helped him find a job but I do not think that is necessarily your responsibility. when people are asked to move for work it isn't their employer's responsibility to find a job for the spouse as well. I do think you should give her a bonus and a raise though

OP here

Yes we would only consider it if her husband moved. We wouldn't want her moving without him. She makes 55k right now.we hadn't thought about the husbands salary I think he makes around 80-90k and we couldn't afford to supplement that....also not sure I know many contacts in his field.

They have talked about moving and we thought he would try to find a jib out there on his own or through his company. Obviously we will do whatever to help....so much to think about

I'd think it might be more feasible with a single person.

The package would have to be pretty extraordinary, I think, unless you are moving somewhere they have thought about moving, too.

You would have to help the husband find a job, and/or cover his salary for some time to make it less of a gamble for them.

Would you expect her husband to relocate?

Has any relocated with their nanny? what was the process like?

We are looking to relocate because of my job and we are thinking of asking our amazing nanny to come with us. She is married with no kids.

What type of package do I need to put together? The other idea we had was if she wanted to come out for a few months and help get us settled. Which we would be so thankful for.

I would love to hear from other moms who have had experience doing this or nannies who have been the ones to relocate.