Anonymous
10/22/2015 13:58
Subject: Need advice on letting our nanny go?
If it's so much fun to be unemployed at this time of year, then don't take a TEMPORARY nanny position. The OP hired their nanny for a temporary position, and the nanny accepted the temporary position. The end is sooner than expected by about 5 weeks, but still, it was a temporary position which the nanny took, knowing it was a temporary position.
Got it?
OP, you're doing fine with the severence you're giving her. And, yes, who wants to get a text that their position is ending? Always nicer to do it in person.
Got it?
OP, you're doing fine with the severence you're giving her. And, yes, who wants to get a text that their position is ending? Always nicer to do it in person.
Anonymous
10/22/2015 13:34
Subject: Need advice on letting our nanny go?
It is so much fun to be unemployed this time of year.
Anonymous
10/22/2015 10:34
Subject: Need advice on letting our nanny go?
OP, ignore the bitter responder(s). You are very much taking the high road here.
I think paying 3 weeks is unnecessary - two weeks is MORE than gracious.
I think paying 3 weeks is unnecessary - two weeks is MORE than gracious.
Anonymous
10/22/2015 10:27
Subject: Need advice on letting our nanny go?
OP here. There is some confusion. We have not known for six weeks. She has been with is for the six weeks out of three months employment we needed her. We found out yesterday about the daycare spot but wanted to wait until today ( she was off yesterday) to tell her in person.
I don't think we are crappy prople and don't get all the hate. We hired an interim nanny, found out our daycare spot is available sooner, and we plan to pay severance and vacation
( close to $3,000). It sucks it ending sooner but such is life.
I don't think we are crappy prople and don't get all the hate. We hired an interim nanny, found out our daycare spot is available sooner, and we plan to pay severance and vacation
( close to $3,000). It sucks it ending sooner but such is life.
Anonymous
10/22/2015 09:51
Subject: Need advice on letting our nanny go?
I hope you get all that you so richly deserves and may they come soon and in spades. What a truly crappy thing to do.
Anonymous
10/22/2015 07:45
Subject: Need advice on letting our nanny go?
Anonymous wrote:No offense OP, really, but I have to completely truthful here.
You have known for the past SIX weeks about this and yet you have not told her a thing yet....??! That is pretty inconsiderate if you were to ask me. The more notice you give her, the better.
Sounds like you waited until the last minute to tell her. Expect her to be upset if she finds out you knew the past six weeks, I would be too.
To make up for your inconsideration, offer her the vacation pay along with the severance pay.
At least you will keep your side of the street clean. Meaning letting her go will be a much smoother action.
PP do a little reading - OP just found out about the opening today and is waiting until the very first day she sees the nanny in person. The nanny went into the job knowing it was short term and they were waiting for a daycare spot.
OP, I agree with another PP that it isn't that terrible you'll be needing her for 2, not 3 months. Sometimes that's just how life goes. Give the week severance and Thanksgiving and you should be all set.
Anonymous
10/22/2015 04:24
Subject: Need advice on letting our nanny go?
No offense OP, really, but I have to completely truthful here.
You have known for the past SIX weeks about this and yet you have not told her a thing yet....??! That is pretty inconsiderate if you were to ask me. The more notice you give her, the better.
Sounds like you waited until the last minute to tell her. Expect her to be upset if she finds out you knew the past six weeks, I would be too.
To make up for your inconsideration, offer her the vacation pay along with the severance pay.
At least you will keep your side of the street clean. Meaning letting her go will be a much smoother action.
You have known for the past SIX weeks about this and yet you have not told her a thing yet....??! That is pretty inconsiderate if you were to ask me. The more notice you give her, the better.
Sounds like you waited until the last minute to tell her. Expect her to be upset if she finds out you knew the past six weeks, I would be too.
To make up for your inconsideration, offer her the vacation pay along with the severance pay.
At least you will keep your side of the street clean. Meaning letting her go will be a much smoother action.
Anonymous
10/22/2015 00:43
Subject: Need advice on letting our nanny go?
Anonymous wrote:OP here. We hired her as an interim nanny until our desired daycare had a spot. We were very upfront and she knows we are on the wait list. We were told we would get a spot first week of December but found out today there is a spot open and it's ours. We didn't anticipate an opening so soon.
We like her and are not trying to mess her over. We were thinking of two weeks severance and a week vacation. We would give a review on the nanny site and a recommendation letter.
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I think that sounds really generous.
Anonymous
10/22/2015 00:32
Subject: Need advice on letting our nanny go?
OP here. We hired her as an interim nanny until our desired daycare had a spot. We were very upfront and she knows we are on the wait list. We were told we would get a spot first week of December but found out today there is a spot open and it's ours. We didn't anticipate an opening so soon.
We like her and are not trying to mess her over. We were thinking of two weeks severance and a week vacation. We would give a review on the nanny site and a recommendation letter.
We like her and are not trying to mess her over. We were thinking of two weeks severance and a week vacation. We would give a review on the nanny site and a recommendation letter.
Anonymous
10/22/2015 00:28
Subject: Need advice on letting our nanny go?
I would definitely pay her the thanksgiving week, as well as the one week severance.
It won't hurt you much financially since you were going to pay it anyway, and it would be a help to her since you're not keeping to the arrangement you set up.
It won't hurt you much financially since you were going to pay it anyway, and it would be a help to her since you're not keeping to the arrangement you set up.
Anonymous
10/21/2015 22:49
Subject: Need advice on letting our nanny go?
So you hired a nanny in September, for a short term period planned to be through December. It turns out you will only need her for 2, not 3, months.
Is that right?
If so, then yes I think a week's severance is gracious. But if she was hired for a short term position that just ended up being shorter than expected I don't think you are doing anything terrible.
And if she was hired knowing that this was just until a daycare slot opened up then she knew what she was getting into. Every experienced caregiver or seasoned parent can understand this scenario.
Do be decent to her, of course. Great recommendation that clearly states why the employment ended sooner than expected, generous severance if you can swing it, etc... But I don't think you're doing anything wrong here.
Is that right?
If so, then yes I think a week's severance is gracious. But if she was hired for a short term position that just ended up being shorter than expected I don't think you are doing anything terrible.
And if she was hired knowing that this was just until a daycare slot opened up then she knew what she was getting into. Every experienced caregiver or seasoned parent can understand this scenario.
Do be decent to her, of course. Great recommendation that clearly states why the employment ended sooner than expected, generous severance if you can swing it, etc... But I don't think you're doing anything wrong here.
Anonymous
10/21/2015 22:35
Subject: Need advice on letting our nanny go?
Was she aware of this going into the job? That you were on a wait list and planning to enroll?
I hope so. Otherwise this is really shitty.
Pay her severance, vacation these are non negotiable.
Also I would ask around if anyone else is looking for a nanny and help her pick up some extra work or point her in the direction.
Call. Let her decide if she wants to come in Fri. I wouldn't
I hope so. Otherwise this is really shitty.
Pay her severance, vacation these are non negotiable.
Also I would ask around if anyone else is looking for a nanny and help her pick up some extra work or point her in the direction.
Call. Let her decide if she wants to come in Fri. I wouldn't
Anonymous
10/21/2015 21:55
Subject: Need advice on letting our nanny go?
Anonymous wrote:Honestly you're being a pretty cruddy employer. You could have at least told her when you found out. You want to tell her on her last day? Wow.
Let me ask, how would you feel if she did that? And yes. Pay the vacation days and the severance. It may take her a few weeks to find a job.
-an mb
We just found out today and she is off on Wednesdays. We want to tell her in person rather than by phone.
Anonymous
10/21/2015 21:35
Subject: Need advice on letting our nanny go?
Honestly you're being a pretty cruddy employer. You could have at least told her when you found out. You want to tell her on her last day? Wow.
Let me ask, how would you feel if she did that? And yes. Pay the vacation days and the severance. It may take her a few weeks to find a job.
-an mb
Let me ask, how would you feel if she did that? And yes. Pay the vacation days and the severance. It may take her a few weeks to find a job.
-an mb
Anonymous
10/21/2015 21:26
Subject: Need advice on letting our nanny go?
We hired an interim nanny until our expected daycare spot opening in December. It's been six weeks and we unexpectedly got the call that a spot opened and we need to take it or lose it. Another spot may not be available in December anymore, so we have decided to take the available spot. Our baby girl is set to start next Monday. We are sad to lose a great nanny and unsure of how to tell her. We will give her a great recommendation letter but do we tell her tomorrow or Friday? Our contract says a weeks severance but do we pay for the vacation week she was supposed to have off for Thanksgiving, too? We feel terrible and hope she understands this. We want to do what's right by her. Any advice is kindly appreciated