Anonymous wrote:
I love my job most of the time but sometimes I feel like I go above and beyond with no real thanks. Like everyone I'm sure. We are coming up on my year end review and I have a good idea what will be offered but I'd like to counter that without coming across as pushy.

I work 40 hours a week in suburb outside Los Angeles. Initially my only job was the direct care of newborn twins. Not even laundry was asked. Over the year it has evolved into much more. I am happy with the tasks and duties- that isn't the issue.

-Care of the twin girls
-Care of older brother (2)
-All kids laundry
-All meals including cooking a full dinner for kids
-Prepping adults dinner every night
-Cleaning up from the night before (toys,etc. That were clean when I left)
-Doing family dishes from night before
-Unloading DW
-Keeping stock of pantry
-Grocery shopping
-Kids clothes, diaper,etc shopping
-Coordinating schedule for cleaning company and gardeners....

I am sure there is more I'm leaving out. And again I don't mind doing all of this.

But it is a lot with 3 kids under 3! Especially with educational games , field trips, and classes.

My starting salary was $23/hour two weeks vacation, holidays. Gas reimbursement

After 6 months it was up to $24/hour mainly because the older child was bullied at preschool and now staying home with me all day.

In passing my employers have said in February we will raise your salary to $26/hour for your yearly bonus.

I would like to ask for $27/hour plus another week of vacation.

Or something like that.

Is this too much?

I don't know any parent who could accomplish all that. These people are taking advantage of you, OP. Let them pay up or leave. Don't be stupid. They have no respect for that.

Most raises are 3 to 7 % per year so I'd day $2 per hour more is too much to expect.

Anonymous wrote:Move to Maryland??

So you can underpay someone to do all your duties as a parent?

It's not for you to decide what makes someone else a parent.

Move to Maryland??

So you can underpay someone to do all your duties as a parent?

Anonymous wrote:OMG do you want to move to Maryland?!?!? You do A LOT.

Why would OP want to move to Maryland? She is happy with her position.

If you are interested in that level of care, advertise for it. There are a number of people who would be happy to do it for you.

OMG do you want to move to Maryland?!?!? You do A LOT.

That sounds reasonable.

I would never do that job. Talk about job creep!

I think $27 an hr, and an extra week would be reasonable. I work in the Newport Beach area and it's a similar market to The L.A burbs.

One more thing - if they don't offer the $26 then you need a script for how you react/handle that as well. Hopefully that won't happen!

Oh for heaven's sake. The responses on these threads are ridiculous.

OP, you have said that your employers have already told you they plan to bump you to $26 - which is great. You would like $27. That one dollar difference is not a huge gap and should not be a deal breaker for either side (IMO).

So, it's all in how you approach it. Of course you can ask - just do it professionally and graciously. Assuming they offer the $26 then say something like "I so appreciate the many considerations you have extended, and that raise is appreciated as well. I would like to ask you to consider going to $27, in light of all of the household responsibilites I have taken on beyond childcare (cooking for the family, grocery shopping, coordinator service visits, etc...) I would love to be with you all for as long as you need help, and that additional amount would really mean a lot to me."

Then see what they say. You're already pretty well compensated so it's likely that another $50-75/week (or whatever this would amount to given your hours) isn't a financial problem for them.

Be prepared to accept $26.50 (you don't want to die on the hill of $1 in either direction I presume.) Also think about other benefits or considerations you could ask for if they balk at the money. Maybe health insurance, or a commuting benefit, or a couple more vacation days, or the ability to take one longer vacation, or ....

When negotiating it's always good to have a couple of things to ask for - the thing you most want and one or two other items that would be great but aren't critical. That way you have something to easily give up and something to really try for - it allows the other person to say yes to something more easily sometimes.

Good luck!

Anonymous wrote:OMG, even if they paid you $30/hr, they'd still be getting the deal of a lifetime.

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I couldn't agree more.

You are wearing so many hats, you sound like a two-for-one deal to me...Err...Rather 20 for one.

You are basically a chef, laundress, maid, household manager...And oh yeah...A NANNY.

For all your duties, you should be making one hundred per hour. No kidding.

Anonymous wrote:Just ask them to pay you 1K a week. They have eyes they know whats going on around the house.

OP here

I make about that now 1k a week before taxes

Of course they know what goes on! They get detailed text updates throughout the day! We have a pretty good relationship and our families have know each other for years. Sense of familiarity yet money issues are awkward.

OMG, even if they paid you $30/hr, they'd still be getting the deal of a lifetime.

Just ask them to pay you 1K a week. They have eyes they know whats going on around the house.

I love my job most of the time but sometimes I feel like I go above and beyond with no real thanks. Like everyone I'm sure. We are coming up on my year end review and I have a good idea what will be offered but I'd like to counter that without coming across as pushy.

I work 40 hours a week in suburb outside Los Angeles. Initially my only job was the direct care of newborn twins. Not even laundry was asked. Over the year it has evolved into much more. I am happy with the tasks and duties- that isn't the issue.

-Care of the twin girls
-Care of older brother (2)
-All kids laundry
-All meals including cooking a full dinner for kids
-Prepping adults dinner every night
-Cleaning up from the night before (toys,etc. That were clean when I left)
-Doing family dishes from night before
-Unloading DW
-Keeping stock of pantry
-Grocery shopping
-Kids clothes, diaper,etc shopping
-Coordinating schedule for cleaning company and gardeners....

I am sure there is more I'm leaving out. And again I don't mind doing all of this.

But it is a lot with 3 kids under 3! Especially with educational games , field trips, and classes.

My starting salary was $23/hour two weeks vacation, holidays. Gas reimbursement

After 6 months it was up to $24/hour mainly because the older child was bullied at preschool and now staying home with me all day.

In passing my employers have said in February we will raise your salary to $26/hour for your yearly bonus.

I would like to ask for $27/hour plus another week of vacation.

Or something like that.

Is this too much?