Anonymous
10/17/2015 10:57
Subject: Re:I Have a Question....
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I can't believe you're peeved at the parents for this. You clearly went over the allotted TV time, and the parent found out. Why is the parent in the wrong here?
Because she has faithfully followed this rule for the duration of her employment with only one exception. Most nannies expect a fair bit of "checking up," such as looking at the netflix history daily, when they are new to a job, but once you have worked with them for a while, one would expect them to trust you to some extent as tou have proven what kind of person and what kind of nanny you are. So from the nanny's perspective, this series of events shows that a) they are still regularly checking the netflix history to track the amount of tv and b) the first and only time she disobeyed this rule they felt the need to bring it up, instead of viewing it within the context of her history of adherance. It shows a lack of good faith on their part. Yes, she made a mistake, but watching slightly too much tv is a very small mistake. If there is no allowance for even that level of mistake as a one-off, then there is no understanding that nanny is a human being with understandable imperfections and no appreciation for the times when she overlooks their inevitable flaws or times when she goes above and beyond. In a healthy nanny/family relationship, they would not be tracking daily, but would maybe still do spot checks on things like tv time, and if they noticed a trend towards more tv over a period of a few weeks, THEN they would bring it up.
You're absolutely wrong. You need to mention an issue before it becomes a big issue. There was nothing wrong with how the parent handled it. If the parent had waited for weeks then it would be...well we've been doing it for weeks and she never even noticed.
Anonymous
10/17/2015 09:07
Subject: Re:I Have a Question....
Anonymous wrote:I can't believe you're peeved at the parents for this. You clearly went over the allotted TV time, and the parent found out. Why is the parent in the wrong here?
Because she has faithfully followed this rule for the duration of her employment with only one exception. Most nannies expect a fair bit of "checking up," such as looking at the netflix history daily, when they are new to a job, but once you have worked with them for a while, one would expect them to trust you to some extent as tou have proven what kind of person and what kind of nanny you are. So from the nanny's perspective, this series of events shows that a) they are still regularly checking the netflix history to track the amount of tv and b) the first and only time she disobeyed this rule they felt the need to bring it up, instead of viewing it within the context of her history of adherance. It shows a lack of good faith on their part. Yes, she made a mistake, but watching slightly too much tv is a very small mistake. If there is no allowance for even that level of mistake as a one-off, then there is no understanding that nanny is a human being with understandable imperfections and no appreciation for the times when she overlooks their inevitable flaws or times when she goes above and beyond. In a healthy nanny/family relationship, they would not be tracking daily, but would maybe still do spot checks on things like tv time, and if they noticed a trend towards more tv over a period of a few weeks, THEN they would bring it up.
Anonymous
10/16/2015 23:13
Subject: I Have a Question....
Anonymous wrote:Even the AAP changed their anti screen time stance. PP are there any other forms of media your arbitrarily limit? If I watch a show with my daughter I sit with her and we talk about it, it isn't mindless. And it usually inspires whatever activity we do next. There is room in the day for television to be used appropriately.
I have only had charges who can't talk and watch at the same time. When they also can't discuss anything from what they watched, it's time to turn it off. For the teen who can't talk and watch but is capable of discussing later, sure, it has a place.
Anonymous
10/16/2015 13:54
Subject: I Have a Question....
Anonymous wrote:Even the AAP changed their anti screen time stance. PP are there any other forms of media your arbitrarily limit? If I watch a show with my daughter I sit with her and we talk about it, it isn't mindless. And it usually inspires whatever activity we do next. There is room in the day for television to be used appropriately.
Absolutely...I couldn't agree more.
Anonymous
10/16/2015 13:02
Subject: I Have a Question....
Even the AAP changed their anti screen time stance. PP are there any other forms of media your arbitrarily limit? If I watch a show with my daughter I sit with her and we talk about it, it isn't mindless. And it usually inspires whatever activity we do next. There is room in the day for television to be used appropriately.
Anonymous
10/16/2015 12:43
Subject: Re:I Have a Question....
Simple solution: one show or no shows. Personally, I don't use the television at all, as there are so many other things that a nanny can do with the child, all of which have much more benefit to the child that mindless screen time.
Anonymous
10/16/2015 11:21
Subject: Re:I Have a Question....
I can't believe you're peeved at the parents for this. You clearly went over the allotted TV time, and the parent found out. Why is the parent in the wrong here?
Anonymous
10/16/2015 11:04
Subject: I Have a Question....
Get over it, and just do your best to adhere to her rules.
No big deal.
If kid hollers when you turn off tv and begs for 1 more show, use an egg timer, and explain to him that tv goes off when timer goes off. Most kids do well with this.
No big deal.
If kid hollers when you turn off tv and begs for 1 more show, use an egg timer, and explain to him that tv goes off when timer goes off. Most kids do well with this.
Anonymous
10/16/2015 09:18
Subject: I Have a Question....
It could also be that the child told them about the shows they got to watch.
We have similar rules in our house, that are loosening as our kids age. Ours are now 4 and they rat us out all the time (nanny to parents, parents to nanny - they're equal opportunity.)
So maybe the kid was talking about the what he saw in a way that seemed unusual and then they checked.
Maybe they also have a camera you don't know about?
We have similar rules in our house, that are loosening as our kids age. Ours are now 4 and they rat us out all the time (nanny to parents, parents to nanny - they're equal opportunity.)
So maybe the kid was talking about the what he saw in a way that seemed unusual and then they checked.
Maybe they also have a camera you don't know about?
Anonymous
10/16/2015 09:11
Subject: I Have a Question....
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It is always like that. They pick on small thing but NEVER acknowledge the good thing that we have done for the kids or for them!
I couldn't agree more with you on that one PP.
Totally agree, almost like they are waiting for us to screw up
Anonymous
10/16/2015 05:13
Subject: I Have a Question....
Anonymous wrote:It is always like that. They pick on small thing but NEVER acknowledge the good thing that we have done for the kids or for them!
I couldn't agree more with you on that one PP.
Anonymous
10/16/2015 03:49
Subject: I Have a Question....
It is always like that. They pick on small thing but NEVER acknowledge the good thing that we have done for the kids or for them!
Anonymous
10/16/2015 03:11
Subject: I Have a Question....
Anonymous wrote:Yes, she can see what is in the history for Netflix account. It's annoying that she would bring it up after only one fluke. For all she knows you were cleaning an extra big mess or you were feeling ill or some other valid reason!
Thank you for answering my question.
That explains a lot.
Now I think that she is going into Netflix after I leave daily and checking up on how long the kid show was on. That is probably what most parents would do, but to me it feels a little micromanaged. I mean c'mom....I only went over ONE time.
Anonymous
10/16/2015 02:48
Subject: I Have a Question....
Yes, she can see what is in the history for Netflix account. It's annoying that she would bring it up after only one fluke. For all she knows you were cleaning an extra big mess or you were feeling ill or some other valid reason!
Anonymous
10/16/2015 02:40
Subject: I Have a Question....
Okay, so I currently am a nanny for a three yr. old adorable and fun-loving kid. I have been his nanny since he was seven mos. or so.
Anyway, his mother and father had told me he only can watch 30-40 min. of T.V. per my shift which consists of ten hours which is okay by me.
Yesterday I didn't realize that after one show which is 20 min., another one comes on after that and after that another one, etc.
So he ended up watching about an hour of T.V. since I wasn't keeping track of it.
Well today she casually mentioned to me that she felt her son was having too much screen/T.V. time while I was there and she gently reminded me to please do not go over forty min. of T.V.
I swear, yesterday was my only fluke. In like 2.5 yrs.
My question is this since I am old school about technology 'n stuff.
They have ROKU (which I don't know what it is...) and to get to her shows, I click on a box that says NETFLIX After that, it gives me a list of kid's shows, etc.
Is there a way that someone can go into the T.V. history, like a computer history, and see what was watched and for how long.
Because during his nap times, I have watched up to 1Hr. 45 Min. of T.V., mostly CNN and she never has mentioned this before.
Please offer any input if possible. Thx./
Anyway, his mother and father had told me he only can watch 30-40 min. of T.V. per my shift which consists of ten hours which is okay by me.
Yesterday I didn't realize that after one show which is 20 min., another one comes on after that and after that another one, etc.
So he ended up watching about an hour of T.V. since I wasn't keeping track of it.
Well today she casually mentioned to me that she felt her son was having too much screen/T.V. time while I was there and she gently reminded me to please do not go over forty min. of T.V.
I swear, yesterday was my only fluke. In like 2.5 yrs.
My question is this since I am old school about technology 'n stuff.
They have ROKU (which I don't know what it is...) and to get to her shows, I click on a box that says NETFLIX After that, it gives me a list of kid's shows, etc.
Is there a way that someone can go into the T.V. history, like a computer history, and see what was watched and for how long.
Because during his nap times, I have watched up to 1Hr. 45 Min. of T.V., mostly CNN and she never has mentioned this before.
Please offer any input if possible. Thx./