Thinking stfu isn't hate. It's normal venting. Saying it out loud..... that's wrong on many levels.
Hate is way more than wishing someone would stfu occasionally. Hate is like , Hitler. Or extreme racism. People use the word hate so loosely, like love, and it cheapens it. There's nothing wrong with venting in a constructive manner, and maybe if more people knew how to do it correctly, we'd have a less violent society.

Anonymous wrote:While I fully understand your frustration at this hellish situation, I find your use of the "F" bomb over and over problematic.

While I have had my issues w/my current employer, I would never in a million yrs. think of saying even in my head..."Shut the Fu%# up."

What you feel inside sounds like extreme hate, it goes many levels above frustration and tolerance.

That is not good.

what a sensitive perfect little princess you must be! stfu you too pp. Let the poor nanny vent! You are so special for not saying stfu even in your mind (oh god..seriously...), but some people are not as perfect as you.

I'd take a day off to recover.

I went through this for 8 months and barely made it out alive. I would "x" days off on a calendar, and planned a spa day for myself the weekend after she went back to work. It was truly horrible. Now that she's back at work things are amazing. I've been with them 5 years and almost quit during maternity leave, so glad I didnt. Hang on, op!!

Anonymous wrote:While I fully understand your frustration at this hellish situation, I find your use of the "F" bomb over and over problematic.

While I have had my issues w/my current employer, I would never in a million yrs. think of saying even in my head..."Shut the Fu%# up."

What you feel inside sounds like extreme hate, it goes many levels above frustration and tolerance.

That is not good.

Op here. Yeah. Sorry I was just so frustrated and fed up yesterday. It's so hard to watch my two year old charge beg and plead for their attention. Breaks ny heart. I'm just burned out. Yesterday was just a really bad day.

While I fully understand your frustration at this hellish situation, I find your use of the "F" bomb over and over problematic.

While I have had my issues w/my current employer, I would never in a million yrs. think of saying even in my head..."Shut the Fu%# up."

What you feel inside sounds like extreme hate, it goes many levels above frustration and tolerance.

That is not good.

I just realized that my MB is awesome! (She is also on maternity now!) Thanks OP

She needs to give you a big fat bonus for putting up with all that nonsense.

Ps. Thank for the prayers

Anonymous wrote:sounds horrible. you're in my prayers. why is she on leave if she is already leaving the nb with you and going out etc?

Op here. My thoughts exactly. She doesn't even breastfeed. Just go back to work already.

Op here. Four more weeks but she said she might go back early because she's bored ::::insert eyeroll:::::

sounds horrible. you're in my prayers. why is she on leave if she is already leaving the nb with you and going out etc?

Sounds like the job from hell.
How much longer is she scheduled to be off?

You need to have a quiet discussion with her and tell her how you feel.

Seriously I'm so stressed out and cannot wait for MB to go back to work!!! Omfg! I knew it would be different around the house but I didn't know it would be so soul sucking. The newborn wasn't even two weeks old when I started taking him most of the day along with my two year old charge. Fine. Whatever. But she is so annoying and stressful. She'll come in if the two year old is crying and give him whatever he wants. Turns on the tv etc. He's been throwing a tantrum here and there. She's runs in right away and makes it worse. If she stays out of it he usually is fine in about two minutes. After two years of being with them she's telling me how to fold shirts, how to do the dishes....how to change a diaper. Stfu. She disappears into her room all day or goes out. I USED to take my charge to classes but she's been making me stay home so she can get her hair done, nails or nap. I'm just going crazy. I'm already working an extra hour earlier in the morning and she's constantly asking for me to stay late. (I say no.) DB comes home early like every day and doesn't even hold the new baby. I cannot tell you how much it bothers me when the two year old asks for mommy or daddy to come play....they always say no and to go play with me. While the sit and text or watch tv. I miss the days she would leave for the whole day and we would be just fine. I used to like MB and DB. Now I hate them with a firery passion.

Go back to work!!! Go!!!!