Anonymous
Post 09/30/2015 18:44     Subject: How to turn down a position from a friend? MB's please answer!!
"Thank you for asking me, but it is not a good fit for me." Keep it short and sweet and you owe no explanation.
Anonymous
Post 09/29/2015 20:47     Subject: How to turn down a position from a friend? MB's please answer!!
If you get the job offer, tell them thank you very much, but you've accepted something else.
Anonymous
Post 09/28/2015 13:40     Subject: How to turn down a position from a friend? MB's please answer!!
While getting referrals is a great way to find a family, I agree that the conflict of interest part can be quite daunting.

Been there done that. Already...

I would let the family know right away that you cannot take the position if offered to you. You don't have to say why, or you can be very broad.

Trust me on this, it is best to tell them sooner rather than later because if they hire you and you decline, it may create a bit of bad blood.

Then tell your former family that you are thankful for the referral, however you just didn't see it as a good match.
Anonymous
Post 09/27/2015 18:39     Subject: How to turn down a position from a friend? MB's please answer!!
You just told us your reason for not taking the job: they aren't sure if they want daycare. If they hire you it may well be until they get off a daycare waiting list and you'll be looking for a job again. I'm not sure I'd say anything now, but if they contact you again you can always either ferret it out and ask if they're on waiting lists anywhere. Tell your NF that you declined because they weren't sure if they'd be using daycare or not and you want something long term. Done.
Anonymous
Post 09/27/2015 16:35     Subject: How to turn down a position from a friend? MB's please answer!!
You tell them thank you but you took another position. It can happen that fast.
Anonymous
Post 09/27/2015 16:30     Subject: How to turn down a position from a friend? MB's please answer!!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Do you have a good chance of getting the position? If the interview went great but your not interested let your former family know right after you let the interviewing fam know. Just say that you didn't feel like it was a good fit, but that you know they will find an awesome nanny that is perfect for their family. If your previous employer(were they a good fam?) asks just tell them the position seemed too disorganized for you and you appreciate them trying to help. Chance are they will understand. I have had families refer me and when I decline after meeting the new fam, the referring family will say something like " yeah they asked if I knew anyone, but they are a little difficult it's prob for the best" As long as you are upfront and don't lead anyone on there should not be any issues.


I think I do. The mom asked if I would at the very least babysit if they went the daycare route. They are nice but very disorganized and don't know of they want a nanny, daycare, what hours needed. It would be hard to accept an offer with a family that didn't have anything set.


Trust your gut, if you do go with them make sure you have a contract the outlines guaranteed hours and severance pay(in case they switch to daycare) I personally would just turn it down based on the fact that you have gut feeling it's not the right job. There are plenty of nanny jobs out there look for one that feels right( and still do a contract)
Anonymous
Post 09/27/2015 16:17     Subject: How to turn down a position from a friend? MB's please answer!!
Anonymous wrote:Do you have a good chance of getting the position? If the interview went great but your not interested let your former family know right after you let the interviewing fam know. Just say that you didn't feel like it was a good fit, but that you know they will find an awesome nanny that is perfect for their family. If your previous employer(were they a good fam?) asks just tell them the position seemed too disorganized for you and you appreciate them trying to help. Chance are they will understand. I have had families refer me and when I decline after meeting the new fam, the referring family will say something like " yeah they asked if I knew anyone, but they are a little difficult it's prob for the best" As long as you are upfront and don't lead anyone on there should not be any issues.


I think I do. The mom asked if I would at the very least babysit if they went the daycare route. They are nice but very disorganized and don't know of they want a nanny, daycare, what hours needed. It would be hard to accept an offer with a family that didn't have anything set.
Anonymous
Post 09/27/2015 16:06     Subject: How to turn down a position from a friend? MB's please answer!!
Do you have a good chance of getting the position? If the interview went great but your not interested let your former family know right after you let the interviewing fam know. Just say that you didn't feel like it was a good fit, but that you know they will find an awesome nanny that is perfect for their family. If your previous employer(were they a good fam?) asks just tell them the position seemed too disorganized for you and you appreciate them trying to help. Chance are they will understand. I have had families refer me and when I decline after meeting the new fam, the referring family will say something like " yeah they asked if I knew anyone, but they are a little difficult it's prob for the best" As long as you are upfront and don't lead anyone on there should not be any issues.
Anonymous
Post 09/27/2015 16:06     Subject: How to turn down a position from a friend? MB's please answer!!
Anonymous wrote:What are you doing now? Can't you just say I'm happy at my current position?



My last position ended. I'm currently looking for a new one.
Anonymous
Post 09/27/2015 15:54     Subject: How to turn down a position from a friend? MB's please answer!!
What are you doing now? Can't you just say I'm happy at my current position?
Anonymous
Post 09/27/2015 15:43     Subject: How to turn down a position from a friend? MB's please answer!!
My favorite former family referred me to a good friend of the moms for a nanny position. I interviewed and I just didn't have a guy feeling about them. They were all over the place. They won't be making a decision until next week but I already know I'm not interested. Do I pull myself out of the running now or wait to see if they give me an offer? How do I let my former family know it's just not a good fit without creating any animosity beeeen us or them?