The existence of gay couples is a fact and not a hot button issue. Children are remarkably understanding of the fact that families come in all shapes and sizes, until they are taught to think that it's wrong, so I don't see what you're bothered about.

How would you like her to have checked with you? 'Are you homophobic and think children should be kept from knowing gay people exist?' during the interview?

Grow up.

Pp to add if you prefer to read these kinds of book with your kids so you can answer any questions they may have tell your nanny . I've had parents mention it to me and it's no skin off my nose.

No it's not the same as your veggie tales analogy.

You said you are not prejudiced against same sex couples so what's the big deal if your kids read a book with two daddies in it?

Are you more bothered you don't know your nannys view.

Not sure what is bothering you here.

I think you are probably overthinking it I doubt a book for all types of families means your nanny is going to start talking to your kids about her sexually, sex in general or drugs etc
Sometimes we overthink things

It sounds like the book is merely stating the fact that same sex couples/families exist. Are you suggesting that your nanny should have checked with you that you are comfortable with a fact?

There are no "controversial" books in a children's library, OP. Yes, you are definitely overreacting.

This is not a "hot button topic" for children. "Jane has two mommies and you have a mommy and a daddy" is enough to satisfy them. Yes you are overreacting, and she probably didn't read every damn page either.

I let kids pick their own books. They just walk down the children's isles and throw books in the bag. What they end up with I have no clue until we get home to read them.

Anonymous wrote:She probably didn't even read the book all the way through before checking it out. I don't always read every single book end to end first.

This.

I brought a book home a couple of weeks ago and started reading it to the kids, only to discover it was WAAY more religious than I would want.

Don't overthink it.

Also, don't overreact. Your kids will meet homosexual couples in the world.

Or what if they had an inter-racial couple? Would that raise difficult issues that you need to talk about? If you have some out of the ordinary boundary about what you want your children exposed to (and a same sex couple is totally within the bounds of mainstream) you need to hire a nanny who specifically supports those views.

If you hadn't heard, two Dads are not that unusual or controversial to get such a weird response from you. If you are white, should the nanny ask you if it is okay to bring home a book featuring an African American family or child?

No, OP, you are wrong.

Agree that she probably just flipped through the book rather than read it all the way through.

I think you are being over-sensitive, yes. LIttle kids don't need intricate explanations. "Families are made all different ways. Some families have one man and one woman, while some have two men or two women. Let's see what kind of family is on the next page!"

She probably didn't even read the book all the way through before checking it out. I don't always read every single book end to end first.

What hot button issue does it bring up, exactly, that there are homosexual people in the world? If this is something you want your child shielded from you need to let nanny know, probably during the hiring process, as this is not considered controversial these days. Hopefully this is a troll post though!

Are you right about what? Your feelings/opinions/comfort level? Of course you are! Are you a troll?
Grow up and tell her how you feel.

I'd like some opinions. My nanny likes to check out library books with my kids every couple of weeks. The other night my DD brings me a book about days of the week to read before bed. Each day of the week had a different type of family. One of the family's was two Dads. I was taken back that she didn't ask if that was okay with us before checking it out. I do not have an issue with homosexuals but it's one of these topics that's a hot button. We've never talked to her about things like that so how would she know we would be okay with that book? So now I'm wondering what other things my nanny just assumes we are cool with? It's like buying a veggietales DVD for your charges when they are atheist. Am I right?