Anonymous
09/14/2015 13:19
Subject: Is it ever politic to bring up an employer's faults?
Answer is No. But if it makes you feel better, MB should not be pointing out your faults, either.
If there is an issue, you need to figure out a way to communicate in a way that is not "pointing out a fault."
What if MB said to you "You are filthy and careless." How would you feel? Hopefully you have never had a MB say that to you because they know better.
What a MB may have said to you is "Could you please make sure the dishes are washed after kids have eaten?"
Think about what MB needs to do in order to make your employment workable. Does she need to butt out when kids are being bad? Maybe approach her with "Can we talk about the procedure I should follow when x is acting up?" Then during the talk, go over what you should do and what MB should do. "I will do x , then y, then z. You only come down when z is not working." This kind of conversation is a lot different from "Let me tell you something, you hormonal MB who can't see left and right. You are all messed up, blah blah blah."
I know working for someone is hard. But this is what not just childcare but everyone in the world who has to work with others have to do and this is how everyone else in the world deals with issues that come up in the work place.
If there is an issue, you need to figure out a way to communicate in a way that is not "pointing out a fault."
What if MB said to you "You are filthy and careless." How would you feel? Hopefully you have never had a MB say that to you because they know better.
What a MB may have said to you is "Could you please make sure the dishes are washed after kids have eaten?"
Think about what MB needs to do in order to make your employment workable. Does she need to butt out when kids are being bad? Maybe approach her with "Can we talk about the procedure I should follow when x is acting up?" Then during the talk, go over what you should do and what MB should do. "I will do x , then y, then z. You only come down when z is not working." This kind of conversation is a lot different from "Let me tell you something, you hormonal MB who can't see left and right. You are all messed up, blah blah blah."
I know working for someone is hard. But this is what not just childcare but everyone in the world who has to work with others have to do and this is how everyone else in the world deals with issues that come up in the work place.
Anonymous
09/13/2015 00:54
Subject: Is it ever politic to bring up an employer's faults?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:No. In the real world, you don't get to tell your boss their "faults". But if there are issues related to your job, discuss in a calm and professional manner.
If taking care of children all day isn't the "real world" I do not know what is.
+1
Is corporate America the only "real world" you're familiar with, PP? There are over 7 billion people on earth and a tiny percentage have a similar work environment to yours. Are the rest living in LaLa Land or what?
Anonymous
09/12/2015 21:53
Subject: Is it ever politic to bring up an employer's faults?
Anonymous wrote:No. In the real world, you don't get to tell your boss their "faults". But if there are issues related to your job, discuss in a calm and professional manner.
If taking care of children all day isn't the "real world" I do not know what is.
Anonymous
09/12/2015 19:41
Subject: Is it ever politic to bring up an employer's faults?
No. In the real world, you don't get to tell your boss their "faults". But if there are issues related to your job, discuss in a calm and professional manner.
Anonymous
09/12/2015 16:48
Subject: Is it ever politic to bring up an employer's faults?
If you think you know where it's coming from, I would try to help with that. So if you think she's feeling insecure, try to help reassure her. Tell her how much her son misses her. Work on an art project for him to give her. Ask for her advice/perspective "as his mom" on things that you are open to changing.
As for individual instances, how much and in what way is it truly impacting your charge? If it's major and ongoing, I might bring it up gently. If it's minor or short term, let it go.
As for individual instances, how much and in what way is it truly impacting your charge? If it's major and ongoing, I might bring it up gently. If it's minor or short term, let it go.
Anonymous
09/12/2015 15:37
Subject: Re:Is it ever politic to bring up an employer's faults?
Don't say 'I think you're insecure and hormonal and Jimmy is suffering because of this'. Say 'I noticed that Jimmy hasn't been eating very well lately. I tried to observe him for a few days and saw... then I did a bit of research online and learned that doing ... often helps. Do you think if would be worth it to try this for a few days?'
Anonymous
09/11/2015 23:15
Subject: Is it ever politic to bring up an employer's faults?
If her comments are adversely affecting your charge, then you have no other option to call her out on it.
Sure, she may be experiencing some odd feelings with her medical procedure, however that doesn't give her a license to interfere with your job.
Talk to her and let her know how you feel. Try to be as tactful as possible, considering she has so much on her plate now.
Sure, she may be experiencing some odd feelings with her medical procedure, however that doesn't give her a license to interfere with your job.
Talk to her and let her know how you feel. Try to be as tactful as possible, considering she has so much on her plate now.
Anonymous
09/11/2015 11:17
Subject: Is it ever politic to bring up an employer's faults?
Have a discussion WITH her so that these things do not buildup to the point that the problems are insurmountable.
Anonymous
09/11/2015 09:35
Subject: Is it ever politic to bring up an employer's faults?
What are you going to say to her? "I think you're finding fault with me because you're hormonal and insecure."? Just deal with the fault-finding on its own merits. If you think a decision is bad for your charge, explain why, and then let it go.
Anonymous
09/11/2015 09:25
Subject: Is it ever politic to bring up an employer's faults?
My employer is a nice enough woman. However I suspect that she is finding fault with my decisions lately because she is worried about her position as mom and is going through some hormonal issues as she is attempting a second pregnancy using IVF.
I wouldn't care if the things she is correcting me on were not adversely effecting my charge.
Thank you in advance for any perspective.
I wouldn't care if the things she is correcting me on were not adversely effecting my charge.
Thank you in advance for any perspective.