Tl;dr

I never lay out money for employers. Suggest she give you a credit card for gas, groceries, whatever else she wants you to purchase. In turn, you provide receipts.

Just tell her. You allow this to continue by not sticking up for yourself. Tell her the move changed your driving, and you need to be compensated for mileage now. Tell her you won't be able to purchase things out of your own funds anymore if you are not guaranteed reimbursement. I would suggest setting up a petty cash reserve somewhere in the house. Good luck. You can't be mad at MB for working the system, you're just allowing it to happen.

First - talk to your employers.

Renegotiate your contract if necessary. Put everything in writing so all parties agree to the same specifics re hours, duties, reimbursement, etc...

Look up current IRS reimbursement rates - they're almost double what you listed.

Be prepared to take on additional responsibilities of the "house manager" type during hours all the kids are in school, or be prepared to look for a new job of a more conventional nanny type. This is what happens when you stay with a family into school age years.

Be calmer than your responses to a lack of tons of responses here in the middle of the night would indicate.

Everything you wrote down you have to say to your boss.

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Anonymous wrote:Really? Nothing? Thanks

Sorry, OP, but your post was too long. I can't comment because I didn't finish reading it.

Message boards are for reading

Yes, for reading messages/posts - not long, boring novellas.

Anonymous wrote:Nannies should stop buying groceries that's not your job.

I don't mind getting items while my charges go to school. I was pointing out the weird way she handled it. If they need milk I don't want to be petty about it.

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Anonymous wrote:Really? Nothing? Thanks

You posted in the middle of the night and are upset that only one person responded an hour later?

Who is upset? Amused that it was being skimmed/looked over but no advice and still none from you. Views are shown, that is what was being referred to

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Anonymous wrote:Really? Nothing? Thanks

Sorry, OP, but your post was too long. I can't comment because I didn't finish reading it.

Message boards are for reading

Anonymous wrote:Really? Nothing? Thanks

You posted in the middle of the night and are upset that only one person responded an hour later?

Anonymous wrote:Really? Nothing? Thanks

Sorry, OP, but your post was too long. I can't comment because I didn't finish reading it.

Nannies should stop buying groceries that's not your job.

Really? Nothing? Thanks

Also she changed my start time to 7:10 when school began so she could take one of the kids.

And it should say my 4th full time family lol

My contract states that I'm reimbursed for mileage. I don't have it in front of me at the moment but I think it's .33 per mile. I've never asked for it because the family was living in the city and everything was literally within the same block and it was summer and we stayed near the apartment all day. However they moved to more suburban area and the kids have started school. I found it strange that mb wasn't already offering it seeing how she included it in my contract. I let it go until it really mattered because from the moment they moved to the state we knew they'd be moving and I was assuming she was waiting until I was actually driving a significant amount per day. Fast forward 2 months and nothing. Also mb will occasionally ask me to pick up things for the kids and used to leave a $20 bill. Lately she has been telling me to just leave a receipt and she will reimburse me. Last week I stopped by a farmers market on the way home with the kids and got enough fruit and veggies to last them for a while and for the smoothies that I make for them daily. I left the receipt in our communication binder and she still didn't pay me back stating she thought her parents left it. Why would grandparents do that? Especially when we discussed that I would get them some fruit. I forgot about it until after the weekend and saw she had bought more. I reminded her and she says sorry etc. I told her she could give it to me at the end of the week and that it's fine.

Back to the gas. Mb picked schools before they moved here. The schools are in completely different counties. The kids are also in various activities. I am currently driving back and forth 210 miles per week min. This does not include my commute or personal trips of course. This has been the third week. I asked her to reimburse me tomorrow for gas and she replied she's happy I mentioned it and we would need to sit down and discuss that and responsibilities for when the kids are in school. Currently I do kid laundry and dishes and put away all dishes, not in contract, run errands, oversee cleaners and maintenance men, food prep, empty kids bathroom waste baskets(they both use pull-ups and it smells horrible)

All for 7:45- 6:30
Mon- Fri
$900 gross
Kids are in school 3 hours per day mb states during interview that I didn't have to do anything during school time but be available in case of emergencies
But I use the time for my chores and keeping their spaces tidy, plan arts and crafts and home schooling work and lessons like site word cards etc

Also she has me come around for when people like pest control or cleaners come and emails me what to tell them to do. I think I'm basically being treated as a house manager. I don't mind the other but not sure what her paying me to be available and reserving those 3 hours has to do with my gas and wear and tear

Should I be concerned about this and what she thinks she is about to do? Any thoughts from other mbs about her thinking

Thanks in advance and I'm on a phone excuse and repetition or typos

I have 11 years experience
This is my 4 full time family
Associates degree in early childhood
Cpr and first aid