MB here. No, I was the youngest of 6. My mom was a sahm.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm from Bolivia. I was raised with a nanny, a cook, and someone who cleaned our home. Having at least one of these people working and often living on your property is common for the middle class. Here in the US you have to be filthy wealthy to have that kind of help. If there were more opportunities for my children I'd move back. Life is much easier there. In the US families see having help as some sort of character flaw. I'm not looking for a gold medal in toilet scrubbing.

We always go back 3 weeks in December and I'm always reminded how great it is to have that luxury.

I don't know much about Bolivia - can you explain what kind of opportunities that area lacks that you find the US has?

New poster. Seems pretty obvious to me. The US has enough decent-paying jobs that you can't employ scads of people on a middle-class income. That means those people are likely poor, poor, poor. Great to have the help, sucks to be the help is my guess ...

Let me guess... you provide a service as well.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm from Bolivia. I was raised with a nanny, a cook, and someone who cleaned our home. Having at least one of these people working and often living on your property is common for the middle class. Here in the US you have to be filthy wealthy to have that kind of help. If there were more opportunities for my children I'd move back. Life is much easier there. In the US families see having help as some sort of character flaw. I'm not looking for a gold medal in toilet scrubbing.

We always go back 3 weeks in December and I'm always reminded how great it is to have that luxury.

I don't know much about Bolivia - can you explain what kind of opportunities that area lacks that you find the US has?

New poster. Seems pretty obvious to me. The US has enough decent-paying jobs that you can't employ scads of people on a middle-class income. That means those people are likely poor, poor, poor. Great to have the help, sucks to be the help is my guess ...

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Anonymous wrote:I had a nanny during my early childhood.
I am a nanny and I adore my work.
What's more important than helping children
grow up in the best possible way?

But your nanny nurtured and educated you and you ended up as a nanny. Are you pushing your charges toward more?

I don't need to "push" them anywhere.
Several of them have already become successful physicians and attorneys. That's what happens when you do your job right.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had a nanny during my early childhood.
I am a nanny and I adore my work.
What's more important than helping children
grow up in the best possible way?

But your nanny nurtured and educated you and you ended up as a nanny. Are you pushing your charges toward more?

God, what a condescending tone and judgment!

Anonymous wrote:I had a nanny during my early childhood.
I am a nanny and I adore my work.
What's more important than helping children
grow up in the best possible way?

But your nanny nurtured and educated you and you ended up as a nanny. Are you pushing your charges toward more?

Anonymous wrote:I'm from Bolivia. I was raised with a nanny, a cook, and someone who cleaned our home. Having at least one of these people working and often living on your property is common for the middle class. Here in the US you have to be filthy wealthy to have that kind of help. If there were more opportunities for my children I'd move back. Life is much easier there. In the US families see having help as some sort of character flaw. I'm not looking for a gold medal in toilet scrubbing.

We always go back 3 weeks in December and I'm always reminded how great it is to have that luxury.

I don't know much about Bolivia - can you explain what kind of opportunities that area lacks that you find the US has?

I'm from Bolivia. I was raised with a nanny, a cook, and someone who cleaned our home. Having at least one of these people working and often living on your property is common for the middle class. Here in the US you have to be filthy wealthy to have that kind of help. If there were more opportunities for my children I'd move back. Life is much easier there. In the US families see having help as some sort of character flaw. I'm not looking for a gold medal in toilet scrubbing.

We always go back 3 weeks in December and I'm always reminded how great it is to have that luxury.

I was raised by nannies growing up. Mb here.

I am an MB who was raised with a nanny (and loving and very involved parents) Without question, it has informed me in the importance of hiring a good nanny and working on the relationship with the nanny to keep her.

I would have been devastated if my nanny had left. I do not understand why so many posters here feel that their nanny is an exchangeable person or why any woman would accept a nanny position knowing she is only going to stay until something better comes along.

I was blessed to have my nanny in my life (she is still very much in my life) and hope my children's nanny will stay with my children for as long as they need her and then remain a part of our lives.

MB with a nanny here.

We had a nanny. We actually had someone who lived in with our family for her whole life- so she raised my dad and uncles, raised us, and helped us care for aging grandparents (her first employers.)

Nanny was never the right word for her though - she was much more. I usually refer to her as an additional grandmother.

Anonymous wrote:I did not have a nanny growing up but my son's best friend's mother did and she named her only daughter after her childhood nanny.

BTW my son's friend's parents have a policy of naming their children after people they love but are not related to by blood. My son's friend was named for his father's mentor, his brother was named after his mother's stepfather and the little girl was named for the mother's nanny. So it isn't like the mother chose her nanny over her own or DH's mother.

I did not have a nanny growing up but my son's best friend's mother did and she named her only daughter after her childhood nanny.

I had a nanny during my early childhood.
I am a nanny and I adore my work.
What's more important than helping children
grow up in the best possible way?

I feel that my experience is so different than other mothers on this forum since I grew up with a much beloved nanny. I was just wondering if other mothers who hire nannies, or nannies themselves, had a nanny when they were growing up?