Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is this just a bunch of posts by OP posing as new posters?

There is zero clarity her and just a slew of fake pats on the back to OP.

STFU

+1
She's nothing but another crazy parent who doesn't know how to maintain stability for her child. So sad.

Anonymous wrote:Is this just a bunch of posts by OP posing as new posters?

There is zero clarity her and just a slew of fake pats on the back to OP.

STFU

Anonymous wrote:Is this just a bunch of posts by OP posing as new posters?

There is zero clarity her and just a slew of fake pats on the back to OP.

Get a grip, woman. You apparently have no clue.

Is this just a bunch of posts by OP posing as new posters?

There is zero clarity her and just a slew of fake pats on the back to OP.

I'm sorry, too. Believe me, OP, it will be okay. In your next job you will find a child you love and can devote yourself to. Hopefully this time with a halfway decent MB.

I feel sorry for her little boy. Sucks.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What's the problem you're having with the MB? Everyone here is judging her without any idea of what it is that MB supposedly is doing.

When nanny says the mom is driving her crazy, every nanny knows what that means. Only another crazy mom needs to ask.

+1 OP is clearly very devoted to her charge and is most likely a very good nanny. She has his best interest at heart and is even concerned about him after she is gone and tears up over him. It is not about money or hours.

I understand - not the specifics of what is "driving her crazy" but like PP I understand what she means.

I think every nanny knows generally what she means. Specifics don't matter. Her MB is driving her to tears.

OP, I have no advice but to make sure you get a recommendation letter NOW before you tell her you are leaving and consider your next position in a different neighborhood to make it easier on your charge. He will not understand why you aren't with him and are with another child instead. Make it easier on yourself, too.

Anonymous wrote:What's the problem you're having with the MB? Everyone here is judging her without any idea of what it is that MB supposedly is doing.

When nanny says the mom is driving her crazy, every nanny knows what that means. Only another crazy mom needs to ask.

What's the problem you're having with the MB? Everyone here is judging her without any idea of what it is that MB supposedly is doing.

I am so sorry, OP, you are in a heartbreaking situation and I feel for you. It is clear that you are devoted to your charge.

Are you sure your MB knows what your issues with her are? Please do not give notice until she does know.

Give no more notice than money you can afford to lose. Give your notice and do not try to talk to MB because she will not change and it is best to make a clean break. If she asks about new job, do not tell her as she may deliberately sabotage you by calling new employer.

Above all, remember that nannying is a job and not a life long relationship.

Anonymous wrote:
Why do parents so often sabotage the stability of their child's care? I know it's a relatively frequent occurrence, maybe unintentional?

Smart parents will prioritize good communication with the nanny, in spite of their busy schedules.

I couldn't agree more. OP sounds like a great nanny and is only considering leaving because of her MB. What is wrong with this picture?

Why do parents so often sabotage the stability of their child's care? I know it's a relatively frequent occurrence, maybe unintentional?

Smart parents will prioritize good communication with the nanny, in spite of their busy schedules.

Are you sure you can't wrk it out with MB? This doesn't seem like a money issue or logistics issue. Isn't she only there in the AM and then to relieve you? What is the actual issue?

I am so sorry, OP. It is never easy to leave a beloved charge.

My advice would be to ask for a blanket, "To Whom It May Concern" written recommendation letter prior to giving your notice - that way your MB's anger will not have any effect on your reference.

My MB is driving me crazy and I know I need to leave my current nanny position. The issue is my charge, of course, I love him and want what is best for him at all times. I have been his nanny for 25 months. I will take another nanny position in the same neighborhood as where I currently live and work.

My question: how can I give notice and not alienate my current employers? I need them as a reference and also want very much to still see and care for my charge. I would be willing to babysit him for free just to be with him. Also, how in the world do I deal with running into my charge after I am with another family and my charge has a new nanny? He is such a great little guy, only 2 years and 2 months old, - it kills me to think that he will think I abandoned him. We are very bonded and - in all candor - I am a great nanny.

I am actually crying as I write this.