Anonymous wrote:The OP is upset she's losing a week of paid vacation time when she's leaving a family after just 6 short months - something she intended from the beginning. Really? OP, move on, be gracious to this family you are leaving in a bind, and think more carefully about your choices next time around. I'm a laid back person and not normally harsh with people, but I feel strongly about treating others the way I'd want to be treated in life. That's all.

Why not share your 'how to treat others' feeling with your fellow nanny employer friends? Most nanny employers would give you the you-know-what finger. You know that, don't you? Or are you new here?

The OP is upset she's losing a week of paid vacation time when she's leaving a family after just 6 short months - something she intended from the beginning. Really? OP, move on, be gracious to this family you are leaving in a bind, and think more carefully about your choices next time around. I'm a laid back person and not normally harsh with people, but I feel strongly about treating others the way I'd want to be treated in life. That's all.

If you want to hold nannies to a higher standard than almost any other job, you MUST pay accordingly.

Simple solution.

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Anonymous wrote:Well, you should feel bad especially if you intended this from the beginning. Being a nanny isn't just a "job" - we really depend on you, being you into our lives and entrust you with our children. It's not right to accept a job with kids, her them used to you, then uproot them 6 months later. Sorry, not right.

If you have never been in the position of needing to take the next job that comes along, you are a very privileged soul, indeed.

I stand by the fact that I think it's wrong to accept a job with small children, knowing that you will likely leave them right when they're becoming attached to you. Find a job to make ends meet, temporary babysitting jobs etc until you've found a job you'd luke to give a true shot. When it involves children, what OP has done is not nice or fair. She said she knew she was going to do this when she accepted. It doesn't make OP the worst person in the world but she shouldn't have done this.

You have to do what is best for you, OP. You know your employers would. It is hard to leave the kids but offer to babysit in the evenings and weekend.

Anonymous wrote:Well, you should feel bad especially if you intended this from the beginning. Being a nanny isn't just a "job" - we really depend on you, being you into our lives and entrust you with our children. It's not right to accept a job with kids, her them used to you, then uproot them 6 months later. Sorry, not right.

This is bullshit.

Anonymous wrote:Well, you should feel bad especially if you intended this from the beginning. Being a nanny isn't just a "job" - we really depend on you, being you into our lives and entrust you with our children. It's not right to accept a job with kids, her them used to you, then uproot them 6 months later. Sorry, not right.

This is bullshit.

Anonymous wrote:It's nice to put the NF first, but very, VERY few of these people will ever care ANYTHING about you.

You need to watch out for yourself, OP.

100% true.

If you get the job and it's a significantly shorter commute, more $, a good fit, etc., then you have to go. Give your current family decent notice and go. Shit happens. You took the job because you needed to avoid becoming homeless. That's okay. It sucks, but it's okay.

-MB

Anonymous wrote:Well, you should feel bad especially if you intended this from the beginning. Being a nanny isn't just a "job" - we really depend on you, being you into our lives and entrust you with our children. It's not right to accept a job with kids, her them used to you, then uproot them 6 months later. Sorry, not right.

If you have never been in the position of needing to take the next job that comes along, you are a very privileged soul, indeed.

Well, you should feel bad especially if you intended this from the beginning. Being a nanny isn't just a "job" - we really depend on you, being you into our lives and entrust you with our children. It's not right to accept a job with kids, her them used to you, then uproot them 6 months later. Sorry, not right.

I would play things by ear for now. You haven't met this new family yet so things are still in the initial stage. I am sure they are interviewing other people too so nothing is set in stone here until you receive a job offer from them.

That being said, you need to do what is best for you. I know from personal experience how tough it is to leave a family you have grown so close to, loyalty means a lot to me so it is tough to imagine just up + leaving a position, but always remember that first and foremost, this IS a job after all.

You can still offer to be a "date-night" sitter for your current family. That way you can still see the kiddos from time to time.

Yikes, I understand how you feel. It's a tough decision to me, but ultimately if you get the offer, and think it's the best thing for you...I say go for it. The parents and kids may be upset, but it's only been 6 months so it shouldn't be too rough on anyone. They'll find someone else (people on here always say there's tons of nannies, so I'm sure they could find someone )

It's nice to put the NF first, but very, VERY few of these people will ever care ANYTHING about you.

You need to watch out for yourself, OP.

How do you ease the guilt of leaving current NF for a new one with a better compensation package? I accepted my current job six months ago when I was in a tough position (previous MB of three years let me go with very little notice when she found out she was expecting again and quit her job to be a SAHM). I had been out of work for several weeks; I'd received several job offers but none of the offers were very competitive and none of the families seemed like a great fit for me. Eventually I just had to pick one so I could start paying bills.

I've been with them for almost six months; the children have really grown on me, and MB and DB have been appreciative and supportive of me. But ultimately the pay is not great (I know it's all they can afford, which also worries me because I don't think raises will be possible down the line either), and the commute sucks. I've been scouting out care.com for the past six months. I haven't applied to any of the nanny positions because there was always a good reason to talk myself out of it (commute isn't much better, hours aren't great, need someone ASAP so I couldn't give proper notice...), and I didn't want to leave this family unless something truly perfect came along.

Well, today that truly perfect job (perfect hours, great compensation package, right in my neighborhood, don't need me to start until October) was posted and I've applied. I got a good response from the family, and of course I still have to actually meet them and see if I am offered the job, etc, but I already feel so guilty. I know my current MB and DB would be very sad to see me go, and I think it would be hard for their children as well (it was a difficult transition from their older caregiver, who was retiring and not physically up for the job when I started six months ago, and we've just in the last few months gotten into a good groove together). Sigh, I just don't know. I've never left a family before over issues like money and commute, but I've never worked with a family where I had these issues before. I also feel guilty because deep down I know this was kind of my intention from the beginning (stick this job out until something better came along), and I don't want to make life difficult for the parents, much less hurt their children

I wish I didn't have to choose between making myself happy and making my NF happy.