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Anonymous wrote:I just turned 28 a and I, personally, have never been asked by a family. But in general it is my least favorite question in the world and something I'm very sensitive about. When I was 21, I was diagnosed with Stage 4+ of a diseases that almost always results in infertility. People think it's a harmless question, but it just isn't.

Employers,
Please take note.
Thank you.

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I'm also an infertile cancer survivor and would be extremely upset to encounter this question. Luckily I never have.

Ugh I'm in your shoes OP. I wouldn't want to work for anyone who asked that.

Anonymous wrote:I just turned 28 a and I, personally, have never been asked by a family. But in general it is my least favorite question in the world and something I'm very sensitive about. When I was 21, I was diagnosed with Stage 4+ of a diseases that almost always results in infertility. People think it's a harmless question, but it just isn't.

Employers,
Please take note.
Thank you.

I just turned 28 a and I, personally, have never been asked by a family. But in general it is my least favorite question in the world and something I'm very sensitive about. When I was 21, I was diagnosed with Stage 4+ of a diseases that almost always results in infertility. People think it's a harmless question, but it just isn't.

Does 26 count as late 20's? I just turned 26 and in school as well. I have been asked that and I tell them I so not plan to have children until my 30's. I will be out of the nanny field and into a new career by then.

I can't remember if I've ever been asked outright but I know it's been hinted at so I am honest and say I tried for two years to get pregnant but couldn't and now that ship has sailed. It's brought up lots of conversations about infertility and you'd be amazed at how many people have fertility issues. In my experience there's been more than not.

I usually tell them that I won't have kids while I'm in school and that my education is very important to me.
Or I tell them that, while I love kids, kids are not really in my life plan.

I'm 31, and single if it matters.

What do you mean what do you tell them as you get older? Just tell them you don't plan on it. The wrong idea about what? Firstly I really don't think it's any employers business until the issue is actually an issue. I'm confused by some of the questions you a ponder and stress over smh

Personally, I feel these families have no right to ask you such a personal question. It is none of their business if + when you are going to have kids.

Asking such a question is a red flag that this family won't respect your privacy as a nanny.

If they ask inappropriate personal questions, it's completely unprofessional of them. I'd pass on them. Just not worth the risk of more issues down the road.

I would it clear I don't want children. But I've never been asked.

You don't need to tell them anything, really, beyond, "That's not in our plans for the foreseeable future." I'm infertile and happily have never been asked WHEN I'll be having kids, and only once been asked IF I'm planning on having kids. I don't feel that's an appropriate question for anyone (when) and you don't need to give a long explanation.

I am in my late 20's, have been married for a couple of years now, just bought a house, and was recently job searching. My plan for children was something that everyone obviously hinted at but never came out and asked. If someone was rude enough to ask you that, I'd probably wonder about their sense of boundaries.

It may be legal for nanny employers to ask, but I still think it is in poor taste. If you choose to answer the question, I'd just be honest. You're not planning to have kids of your own. Would you want to work for an employer who would judge you for that decision? My guess from what I've seen on this board is that it'd make you more desirable.

I tell them I can't have kids.

What do you tell parents when they ask when you plan to have children of your own? I'm in my late 20's and my husband and I have decided not to have children. I love being a nanny and plan to be one for the foreseeable future. During interviews, because I'm getting older I assume, the parents always end up asking if we are planning to have children soon. I always just tell them that we have no plans to have them anytime soon, but as I get older what should I say? Should I just tell them we are not having kids, I just don't want them to get the wrong idea.