I am away with my NF right now and hate it. A necessary "evil" in my job unfortunately. As PP said, I feel as though I am working around the clock.

After you come home, OP. think about renegotiating your overnight/travel day rate. I think $75 is too low.

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Anonymous wrote:Going away with employers is tricky. You, the nanny, are not on vacation. I have found that more is expected of me and for much, much longer hours but often downtime during those hours. Never assume you are included in any family outing, meal or plan.

Generally, for me, it sucks. I like being home and knowing that I start my job at XAM and leave at XPM.

What kind of people have you worked for? We travel with out AP and on a week long vacation, she ends up working two evenings and 4 mornings (while we work out). Ends up being no more than 18hrs for the week and the evening sitting involves watching a movie with the kids and putting them to bed.

The point of vacation is to hang out as a family.

PP here and I am a nanny - not an au pair. I have gone away with two different employers, both with one baby/toddler, and I have ended up pretty much being "on call" around the clock. Both very nice people and both mothers still nursing so they were around all the time but came and went whenever they chose without a schedule.

I just don't care for going away with my charges and their parents - I like being home with my own family and having set hours in my job.

Anonymous wrote:Going away with employers is tricky. You, the nanny, are not on vacation. I have found that more is expected of me and for much, much longer hours but often downtime during those hours. Never assume you are included in any family outing, meal or plan.

Generally, for me, it sucks. I like being home and knowing that I start my job at XAM and leave at XPM.

What kind of people have you worked for? We travel with out AP and on a week long vacation, she ends up working two evenings and 4 mornings (while we work out). Ends up being no more than 18hrs for the week and the evening sitting involves watching a movie with the kids and putting them to bed.

The point of vacation is to hang out as a family.

Going away with employers is tricky. You, the nanny, are not on vacation. I have found that more is expected of me and for much, much longer hours but often downtime during those hours. Never assume you are included in any family outing, meal or plan.

Generally, for me, it sucks. I like being home and knowing that I start my job at XAM and leave at XPM.

We travel with outlet AuPair. She gets her own room and we supply a schedule before we leave. This way she knows her free time. We invite her to all meals and she sometimes joins us, sometimes declines. She has a huge AP network so she often finds other APS to hang out with while on vacation and show her around.

But basically, we have a schedule so there is no question.

If it were me I'd simply ask. I'd say something like "I want to be present and available for the hours you need but I also respect that you'll want some family time as well. Generally speaking I'm more of an early to bed and early to rise person. Does that fit with your needs? If not, what hours so you anticipate needing me? I'm happy to help in whatever way you need."

Be flexible and pleasant, OP. And protect your downtime as you would if you were home.

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Anonymous wrote:Ask them. Ugh, another person with no social skills being a nanny. Really frustrating.

I vote that you fuck off as well.

lol You may get the rare agreement on DCUM - fuck off!

OP, the only hint I have as a MB who travels with a nanny frequently is to keep it all no-drama and don't over-share your personal life just because you are with other adults - your ficus is still the children/child. You are not on vacation here - just working in a different location.

Your time off is still your time off and should be considered sacrosanct.

Anonymous wrote:If it were me, I'd likely be done with them when I was done with my work commitment each day.

Yes, I doubt there's any expectation for you to hang out with them after work hours.

Anonymous wrote:Ask them. Ugh, another person with no social skills being a nanny. Really frustrating.

I vote that you fuck off as well.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ask them. Ugh, another person with no social skills being a nanny. Really frustrating.

Fuck off.

+1 Seriously, Fuck Off.

OP, I would take my cues from them. When your usual work day is done, ask if there is anything else MB needs and then retire to your room. Be friendly but don't act like a house guest. It is much easier to establish boundaries when in the home environment but certainly do-able even when traveling.

If it were me, I'd likely be done with them when I was done with my work commitment each day.

Anonymous wrote:Ask them. Ugh, another person with no social skills being a nanny. Really frustrating.

Fuck off.

Ask them. Ugh, another person with no social skills being a nanny. Really frustrating.

I have been a nanny for a long time but have never needed to travel with my charge and employers. Tomorrow I am going away for the long weekend in the capacity of my new job and am seeking any advice.

I am very happy with my compensation (pay) so please know that money is not an issue. I was wondering more about giving my employers and charge "family time" and being social without being intrusive. I am a very early-to-bed-early-to-rise person so I am in interested in when I can retire to my room in the early evening specifically and any advice on traveling with new employers.

Thank you.