Just apologize. Probably should have told her earlier but it's just one time. Lots of entitled nannies in this area and I assume to be fair there's a lot of mistreatment but come on, it's a job and jobs sometimes require late nights.

Yeah, I would be annoyed by your behavior, and she probably is irritated. Maybe she had to cancel after-work plans at the last minute because you "forgot" about the schedule change until she was already asleep. You show a lack of respect for her time and plans.

Yup. She is mad.

How long have you had her?

You are paying her for the extra hour, aren't you?

What is wrong with this nanny? if she can't do it just tell the MB! why the need to be so moody?

If she had plans this afternoon that she had to cancel because you required her to stay late it's no wonder she's not feeling too chatty. Apologise again, if you haven't already, for late notice and say how much you appreciate her flexibility.

"She hasn't been very chatty this afternoon and most of her answers are short."

Not trying to be snarky, but is it normal to be in constant text contact with your nanny? I am a WAHM so I don't know... but I do try to stay out of her hair as much as possible and I never text her when she's out with the kiddo.

So she was probably already asleep, got up early as planned, then saw the text indicating she could have slept in an hour longer and will have to adjust any after-work plans she made? That is super annoying. You should have asked if she was able to, making it clear she could decline. And "K" is an appropriate response, I get that often from my MB because she's busy and is acknowledging my text.

This is NO big deal and it isn't as if you do it all the time. We all get annoyed when asked to stay late - it's life. I would just apologize for late notice. Frankly this is why I have a nanny - more flexible as necessary.

You texted her after 10 pm for a change the next morning? Yeah, I'd probably be annoyed about that too. My ringer goes off around 8. Depending on how much I liked you and how often you do this type of thing and how generous you are or aren't in general would dictate my loved of pissed offness and how quickly I moved on. Seriously OP get it together and figure your life out at least a week In advance.

MB here.

So you texted her after 10 pm that you needed her to come later the next morning and stay later that same evening?

Is it a regular, established, understood agreement that you may have last minute schedule variations of this kind?

If so, then this should be a normal thing that she agreed to.

If not, then I think this is annoying. At best.

Once or twice a month I have a work obligation that requires a very similar variation in schedule (asking nanny to stay an hour later in the evening, which is often offset by allowing her to come in later in the morning, but not always.) I always give her at least a week's notice when I need this, sometimes it's as much as a month's notice. She is always paid overtime rates (as her base hours are 50 hrs/week.) She always has the ability to say no.

Only in an emergency would I text her the night before and ask for a schedule change. To do that indicates that you think she doesn't have a life outside of work, and that you have little concern or respect for her time.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm getting a vibe from my nanny that she's mad and it's annoying me. I forgot to text her about the schedule change so I ended up texting her after ten pm. She didn't answer until the morning. However I didn't see her response until two hours later. When I did she responded with "K." She hasn't been very chatty this afternoon and most of her answers are short. My coworker thinks it's because I texted her after 10pm. Then she asked if I had done it before. I have but I honestly don't think it's a big deal. Should I bring it up?

I needed her to come in later but stay an hour later as well.

Maybe she didn't tell you she had other plans.
Pay her for the OT.

Anonymous wrote:I'm getting a vibe from my nanny that she's mad and it's annoying me. I forgot to text her about the schedule change so I ended up texting her after ten pm. She didn't answer until the morning. However I didn't see her response until two hours later. When I did she responded with "K." She hasn't been very chatty this afternoon and most of her answers are short. My coworker thinks it's because I texted her after 10pm. Then she asked if I had done it before. I have but I honestly don't think it's a big deal. Should I bring it up?

I needed her to come in later but stay an hour later as well.

What exactly was the schedule change you politely asked for?

I'm getting a vibe from my nanny that she's mad and it's annoying me. I forgot to text her about the schedule change so I ended up texting her after ten pm. She didn't answer until the morning. However I didn't see her response until two hours later. When I did she responded with "K." She hasn't been very chatty this afternoon and most of her answers are short. My coworker thinks it's because I texted her after 10pm. Then she asked if I had done it before. I have but I honestly don't think it's a big deal. Should I bring it up?