Anonymous
07/29/2015 15:14
Subject: I don't know how to fix this
Anonymous wrote:She is a brat and only crying because you are there. Also, the nanny may have been told by her OB not to pick up more than x number of lbs and she is also correct about the heat.
Do you know anything about children? 20 month olds aren't brats and you can certainly pick up 25 pounds at 8 weeks pregnant.
Anonymous
07/29/2015 15:00
Subject: I don't know how to fix this
She is a brat and only crying because you are there. Also, the nanny may have been told by her OB not to pick up more than x number of lbs and she is also correct about the heat.
Anonymous
07/29/2015 14:18
Subject: I don't know how to fix this
Anonymous wrote:is there somewhere in the house they can go? for example, if your office is on the ground floor, they go upstairs to her room and close the door. or if you're upstairs, they stay downstairs. if you have a ranch, lock off the hallway near your door with a baby gate. anything to keep your DD away from your door.
for what it's worth, I absolutely agree that you should not keep this nanny and I hope you find a replacement ASAP. 20 months is not that heavy and you have to do it constantly (diaper changes, high chair, in and out of crib, etc). it's also unfair of your DD to have nobody holding her during the day. I really think your nanny is just being lazy
Is there any reason the nanny can't pick her up in a normal pregnancy? I'm pretty lax about pregnancy things with myself, so I assume when people say stuff like this that it's actually true (if that makes sense).
Anonymous
07/29/2015 13:53
Subject: I don't know how to fix this
is there somewhere in the house they can go? for example, if your office is on the ground floor, they go upstairs to her room and close the door. or if you're upstairs, they stay downstairs. if you have a ranch, lock off the hallway near your door with a baby gate. anything to keep your DD away from your door.
for what it's worth, I absolutely agree that you should not keep this nanny and I hope you find a replacement ASAP. 20 months is not that heavy and you have to do it constantly (diaper changes, high chair, in and out of crib, etc). it's also unfair of your DD to have nobody holding her during the day. I really think your nanny is just being lazy
for what it's worth, I absolutely agree that you should not keep this nanny and I hope you find a replacement ASAP. 20 months is not that heavy and you have to do it constantly (diaper changes, high chair, in and out of crib, etc). it's also unfair of your DD to have nobody holding her during the day. I really think your nanny is just being lazy
Anonymous
07/29/2015 13:08
Subject: I don't know how to fix this
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Since my nanny won't (or can't - whatever) go outside, even to go to the mall, or do much of anything, what's the best way to get us all through this without going crazy?
Are you really prepared to spend the next 2 months with a kid who is miserable inside? You need to let the nanny go and hire someone. Seriously.
Even if you find another place to work for yourself, it's not fair to your child to keep her locked up inside.
I'll try, but I live in a small Midwestern city (think Omaha-sized) where it's not easy to find one.
Are you near a college? Post on the college boards. See if there's someone who's keen to make some $$ before school starts.
Also, offer a premium. That will work.
Anonymous
07/29/2015 13:05
Subject: I don't know how to fix this
I would fix it by getting a new nanny, to be honest. Yours is lazy. I do not believe that she doesn't go outside at all on weekends when she's not working.
Anonymous
07/29/2015 13:01
Subject: I don't know how to fix this
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Since my nanny won't (or can't - whatever) go outside, even to go to the mall, or do much of anything, what's the best way to get us all through this without going crazy?
Are you really prepared to spend the next 2 months with a kid who is miserable inside? You need to let the nanny go and hire someone. Seriously.
Even if you find another place to work for yourself, it's not fair to your child to keep her locked up inside.
I'll try, but I live in a small Midwestern city (think Omaha-sized) where it's not easy to find one.
Anonymous
07/29/2015 12:51
Subject: I don't know how to fix this
Anonymous wrote:Since my nanny won't (or can't - whatever) go outside, even to go to the mall, or do much of anything, what's the best way to get us all through this without going crazy?
Are you really prepared to spend the next 2 months with a kid who is miserable inside? You need to let the nanny go and hire someone. Seriously.
Even if you find another place to work for yourself, it's not fair to your child to keep her locked up inside.
Anonymous
07/29/2015 12:49
Subject: I don't know how to fix this
Since my nanny won't (or can't - whatever) go outside, even to go to the mall, or do much of anything, what's the best way to get us all through this without going crazy?
Anonymous
07/29/2015 12:44
Subject: Re:I don't know how to fix this
My charge went through a phase like that. My MB works from home and suddenly all he wanted to do was sit outside her door. He knows she's there and can't understand why she won't come out. He never screams or gets this upset if she isn't home. Trust me I do everything I can to distract him. Sometimes I take him to the mall and we walk. There is also a kids play area. I've also found some of the children's museums to be nice as well.
Anonymous
07/29/2015 12:37
Subject: I don't know how to fix this
she's most likely crying because she knows your there. WAHP are really hard on EVERYONE. I also think that the nanny is lame and that needs to be fixed as well. She sounds lazy or stupid or both. It's a combination of you being there, the nanny not being all that great and the age of the child.
Anonymous
07/29/2015 12:08
Subject: I don't know how to fix this
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I work from home 90% of the time while 20 month old DD is cared for by her nanny. DD is starting daycare in 8 weeks.
Lately, DD has spent much of the day screaming for me. It's distracting and makes my heart hurt. I don't really know what's going on, because she's in the church nursery on Sunday mornings and Wednesday evenings and has a blast, so I don't think it's heavy-duty separation anxiety, although I could be wrong.
My questions are
1) Is this an age thing? Why is she suddenly screaming for me all day long?
2) How do I get our nanny to interact with her more, or at least take her somewhere that I can't hear her? People can hear her when I'm on conference calls, and it's unprofessional, plus I obviously just hate hearing her cry for mama. My nanny claims that because she's 9 weeks pregnant, she can't be outside in the heat or pick DD up, so there's "nothing she can do when DD screams at my door."
I'd just go to the office more, but I hate leaving DD here with a nanny who clearly isn't taking care of her.
This is totally an age thing. PRIME separation anxiety.
Your nanny's excuse is pretty weak. Can you find a short term replacement for the next 8 weeks. You nanny needs to take her out first thing every day. She won't pick her up?? WTH?
I was wondering about the age because I know it's the prime time for it, but she's fine in the church nursery. She loves it, actually.
Yes, the nanny said she can't pick her up. I was horrified at first, and felt bad for her, because I assumed something was wrong, but no, her OB just told her not to pick up heavy things in early pregnancy.
You need a new nanny. Honestly, she's not doing her job. You can't not pick up a 20 month old for 8 weeks.
The separation anxiety is because she knows you are on the other side of the door. I suspect when she's in the nursery, you then go up to the church herself, and she knows you aren't right there. She is probably also very excited to be distracted by the other babies and toys.
Anonymous
07/29/2015 11:58
Subject: I don't know how to fix this
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I work from home 90% of the time while 20 month old DD is cared for by her nanny. DD is starting daycare in 8 weeks.
Lately, DD has spent much of the day screaming for me. It's distracting and makes my heart hurt. I don't really know what's going on, because she's in the church nursery on Sunday mornings and Wednesday evenings and has a blast, so I don't think it's heavy-duty separation anxiety, although I could be wrong.
My questions are
1) Is this an age thing? Why is she suddenly screaming for me all day long?
2) How do I get our nanny to interact with her more, or at least take her somewhere that I can't hear her? People can hear her when I'm on conference calls, and it's unprofessional, plus I obviously just hate hearing her cry for mama. My nanny claims that because she's 9 weeks pregnant, she can't be outside in the heat or pick DD up, so there's "nothing she can do when DD screams at my door."
I'd just go to the office more, but I hate leaving DD here with a nanny who clearly isn't taking care of her.
This is totally an age thing. PRIME separation anxiety.
Your nanny's excuse is pretty weak. Can you find a short term replacement for the next 8 weeks. You nanny needs to take her out first thing every day. She won't pick her up?? WTH?
I was wondering about the age because I know it's the prime time for it, but she's fine in the church nursery. She loves it, actually.
Yes, the nanny said she can't pick her up. I was horrified at first, and felt bad for her, because I assumed something was wrong, but no, her OB just told her not to pick up heavy things in early pregnancy.
Anonymous
07/29/2015 11:52
Subject: I don't know how to fix this
Anonymous wrote:I work from home 90% of the time while 20 month old DD is cared for by her nanny. DD is starting daycare in 8 weeks.
Lately, DD has spent much of the day screaming for me. It's distracting and makes my heart hurt. I don't really know what's going on, because she's in the church nursery on Sunday mornings and Wednesday evenings and has a blast, so I don't think it's heavy-duty separation anxiety, although I could be wrong.
My questions are
1) Is this an age thing? Why is she suddenly screaming for me all day long?
2) How do I get our nanny to interact with her more, or at least take her somewhere that I can't hear her? People can hear her when I'm on conference calls, and it's unprofessional, plus I obviously just hate hearing her cry for mama. My nanny claims that because she's 9 weeks pregnant, she can't be outside in the heat or pick DD up, so there's "nothing she can do when DD screams at my door."
I'd just go to the office more, but I hate leaving DD here with a nanny who clearly isn't taking care of her.
This is totally an age thing. PRIME separation anxiety.
Your nanny's excuse is pretty weak. Can you find a short term replacement for the next 8 weeks. You nanny needs to take her out first thing every day. She won't pick her up?? WTH?
Anonymous
07/29/2015 11:44
Subject: I don't know how to fix this
I work from home 90% of the time while 20 month old DD is cared for by her nanny. DD is starting daycare in 8 weeks.
Lately, DD has spent much of the day screaming for me. It's distracting and makes my heart hurt. I don't really know what's going on, because she's in the church nursery on Sunday mornings and Wednesday evenings and has a blast, so I don't think it's heavy-duty separation anxiety, although I could be wrong.
My questions are
1) Is this an age thing? Why is she suddenly screaming for me all day long?
2) How do I get our nanny to interact with her more, or at least take her somewhere that I can't hear her? People can hear her when I'm on conference calls, and it's unprofessional, plus I obviously just hate hearing her cry for mama. My nanny claims that because she's 9 weeks pregnant, she can't be outside in the heat or pick DD up, so there's "nothing she can do when DD screams at my door."
I'd just go to the office more, but I hate leaving DD here with a nanny who clearly isn't taking care of her.
Lately, DD has spent much of the day screaming for me. It's distracting and makes my heart hurt. I don't really know what's going on, because she's in the church nursery on Sunday mornings and Wednesday evenings and has a blast, so I don't think it's heavy-duty separation anxiety, although I could be wrong.
My questions are
1) Is this an age thing? Why is she suddenly screaming for me all day long?
2) How do I get our nanny to interact with her more, or at least take her somewhere that I can't hear her? People can hear her when I'm on conference calls, and it's unprofessional, plus I obviously just hate hearing her cry for mama. My nanny claims that because she's 9 weeks pregnant, she can't be outside in the heat or pick DD up, so there's "nothing she can do when DD screams at my door."
I'd just go to the office more, but I hate leaving DD here with a nanny who clearly isn't taking care of her.